Sex Toy Advice

Sex toy shopping can be exciting, exhilarating, fantasy-inducing… and confusing. There are just so many sex toys available these days, with improvements added and different styles being created all the time. That’s why I’ve written these sex toy advice articles here at the Cara Sutra sex blog.

First of all, do you really need sex toys? Adult products are more of a desirable accessory than a need, and they’re most definitely not a replacement for sex. Nobody should feel ashamed about their sex toy use, or threatened because their partner enjoys using them. Hell, there are even plenty of couples sex toys available which heighten the pleasure levels for both partners during intimacy. So even though toys might not be a need or pre-requisite for having sexy fun, they’re an incredibly enjoyable bonus feature. Think of them like ticking the ‘added fun’ box on your sexual take-out order.

Next, consider what type of sex toy would be best for you. There are many different types: vibrating, static, large, small, flexible, rigid, for vaginal, clitoral, anal and erogenous zone stimulation. Then there is the material it’s made of to consider. Some materials are full body-safe for internal and external use, others are toxic and could cause allergic reactions, irritation or worse. What does porous and non-porous mean? What are phthalates? Does any of this really matter when considering which sex toy to buy and try?

Find out all of the above and more in my sex toy advice articles here on the blog.

Male Sex Toys: How To Pick Out The Perfect One!

If you’re a male shopping for yourself, or perhaps looking for your male partner, you most likely want to find the perfect male sex toy! Now this might sound simple, but believe me, this is no easy task. You have hundreds of different male sex toys and manufacturers. What type will work best on him? What kind of male toys are there? What will deliver the most powerful orgasm? These are all frequent questions when looking for the top male sex toys, so let me break it down for you.

In A Masturbation Rut? Meet The Sex Toys Set To Rock Your World

Isn’t masturbation wonderful? You can do it when you like, how you like, and as frequently as you like – and not only does it feel fantastic, the endorphin release is brilliant for your mental and physical health too. Because masturbation feels so brilliant, it’s easy to stick to your tried & tested method once you’ve found what does it for you. Same style, same location & vibrators, same fantasy... imagine how game-changing it would be to ‘rediscover’ masturbation, by trying something entirely different. 

Unusual Romantic Gifts For Your Partner – Or Yourself!

When it comes to buying romantic gifts for your partner, you might find yourself treading those same, well-worn internet shopping paths of flowers, chocolate, and their preferred form of bubbles. Although a surprise gift containing any of these is always pleasant, sometimes it doesn't really convey the right level of romance –or raunchiness- as a gift to your lover. Why not shop for a memorable present which will truly impress -with unusual romantic gifts instead of the old predictables?

Confessions of a Sex Toy Tester: Revealing Sex Toys Secrets

By Cara Sutra: Earlier this year I was asked some questions by a national glossy about my life as a sex toy tester. Since my personal story of testing sex toys went viral a couple of years ago, it seems the press can’t learn enough about this fascinating job (as well as obsessing over how much money one could make from it). As only a small amount of what I had to say in response to the initial questions made it to the final printed piece, I’ve decided to share my other answers with you here.

Sex Toys Every High-End Exclusive Escort Should Travel With

The adult toys industry has been constantly improving, refining and upgrading itself constantly. Reason? The demand for sex toys has been increased, so much so that exclusive escorts are looking for THE REAL STUFF to give the ULTIMATE PLEASURE THROUGH PAIN to their esteemed clients.

Hey Guys? Using Anal Sex Toys Won’t ‘Turn You Gay’

It's my answer to the legendary sex myth that somehow still gets worried about, a lot: will using anal sex toys make me gay? Obviously this question is being asked by male-identified people, who worry that inserting a butt plug, or enjoying something inserted into their rear, will mean that they're suddenly gay.

New LoveArc Harnesses For Doxy Wands & Flared Base Dildos

By Cara Sutra: The LoveArc is such an ingenious bedroom accessory. You can find more info and loads of photos in my 2015 review, but as an overview it's a beautiful, smooth, brushed aluminium arch to which you can attach suction base dildos to ride them easily, comfortably and hands-free. And now there's even more ways to enjoy your LoveArc, with the new LoveArc harnesses for Doxy Wands and flared base dildos.
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What Are The Best G-Spot Sex Toys?

Cara Sutra: What is the G-Spot? Does stimulating it actually feel any good - and more to the point, does the G-Spot even exist? In this Q&A, I answer a reader's question about the best G-Spot sex toys.

The rise of the sex toy subscription box, and why it’s such a difficult...

By Cara Sutra: Sex toy subscription boxes have been rising in visibility over the past few years, at least that’s how it seems to me. Several years back a new sex toy subscription box service would launch once a year, then it steadily rose to two or three new ones a year and over the past year it seems to be every few months that a new adult subscription box service has launched.

What To Pack For A Sexy Summer Holiday: How To Sex Up Your Suitcase

One of the biggest fears people have about taking sexy gear with them on holiday (sex toys, condoms, spanking gear etc) is that they’ll be hauled out in front of everyone as you’re going through security. For most people, sex toys and anything to do with their sex life is incredibly private and the thought of these most intimate possessions being on public display is absolutely terrifying. Fear not, there are ways you can take your sex toys & sexy bits on your summer holiday without anyone else needing to know.

10 Reasons To Become A Sex Toy Tester

By Mel MacFarlane: I began a brand new business venture and declared that I couldn’t write about sex toys forever. However, when push came to shove, I found that I couldn’t walk away from sex toy reviewing because it’s a part of my life that I absolutely love.

Vibrators for Newbies: Vibrating Sex Toys for Complete Beginners

Vibrating sex toys are extremely popular, and the good news is that if you're actively looking to start or build on your own sex toy collection, you'll likely recognise a few types already. Traditional rabbit vibrators, for a start. Classic cylindrical vibrators with a twist base. Maybe you've heard about sports massagers becoming better-known for their orgasmic benefits – the famous magic wand vibrator. Today I want to introduce you to some fantastic options when it comes to vibrators for newbies.

How To Get A Bigger Penis: Penis Enlargement Tips

Wondering how to get a bigger penis? Enjoy this thorough advice article where I answer a reader's question with a selection of penis enlargement tips.

The Wide & Diverse World of Virtual Reality Sex

Since its release earlier this year, virtual reality has taken the electronic world by storm.  Even if you haven’t been paying attention, there’s a good chance you’ve have heard the rumblings of this great new technology.  Virtual reality is poised for big things, with lots of viable uses already putting the technology to work.

Clone-A-Willy Tips: 10 Alternative Uses For A Cloned Penis

Stuck for ideas now you've got a cloned penis after using the famous Clone-A Willy kit? Or maybe you're looking for inspiration to buy your clone-a-penis kit? Enjoy these 10 lighthearted Clone-A-Willy tips!

Doxy Massager 101: Complete Guide To Doxy Wands, Vibrators & Sex Toys 

Doxy sex toys are some of my favourite self-pleasure tools. My love affair with Doxy Wands started back in 2013, when the very first, original Doxy Wand Vibrator was launched. Since then, the official collection has grown to include other styles of Doxy vibrators and pleasure toys. I wanted to collate all the information about the various products in the range together in one big information post; a complete guide to Doxy Wands. Welcome to my Doxy Massager 101!

List of Shame: The 10 sex toys which need forcing into retirement

I know you all wonder about the dark side of my sex toy collection and for once I don't mean bondage restraints. The ones that sadly, didn't get (chucked) away. The toys which have brought me to tears of frustration. The toys which have made me grip the sheets harder as I bite back the venom which threatens to tumble forth as I search for the right button. The toys which have made me scream - in agony.

Sexy Christmas Gift Guide | Best Romantic Christmas Gifts

Giving the perfect Christmas gift you just know they'll adore gives you a warm fuzzy feeling like (almost) nothing else. 'Tis the season of giving, so why not combine festive spice and evergreen romance by gifting your lover a decidedly sexy present this year? Baby, it's cold outside – but selecting from the raunchy choices in my sexy Christmas gift guide will ensure you're all aglow. You can find my top picks for the best romantic Christmas gifts in this ultimate festive gifting guide.

Futuristic Sex Tech: Is Using Sex Robots Ethical?

Whenever I hear about sex robots, I immediately conjure an image of the intensely charming Jude Law from the compelling and philosophical Spielberg movie, A.I. Artificial Intelligence. Beyond that likeable yet disturbing character, the phrase sex robot is an oxymoron to me. Sex is warm, wet, slippery and can be deeply emotional... whereas 'robotics' makes me think of computers; inanimate lumps of rigid cold metal and confusing tangles of wires.  

10 Ways Sex Toys Can Help Increase Relationship Intimacy

When you're in a relationship, it can be so easy to slip into set daily routines which might not include quite as much spontaneity, frivolity and affection as when you were in your first flush of love. Life has a habit of popping up with all sorts of hurdles to a care-free, explorative love-life; family and/or work responsibilities or worrying over health or financial pressures can make the warm bond of relationship intimacy feel like a long-forgotten dream.