Sex Toy Advice

Sex toy shopping can be exciting, exhilarating, fantasy-inducing… and confusing. There are just so many sex toys available these days, with improvements added and different styles being created all the time. That’s why I’ve written these sex toy advice articles here at the Cara Sutra sex blog.

First of all, do you really need sex toys? Adult products are more of a desirable accessory than a need, and they’re most definitely not a replacement for sex. Nobody should feel ashamed about their sex toy use, or threatened because their partner enjoys using them. Hell, there are even plenty of couples sex toys available which heighten the pleasure levels for both partners during intimacy. So even though toys might not be a need or pre-requisite for having sexy fun, they’re an incredibly enjoyable bonus feature. Think of them like ticking the ‘added fun’ box on your sexual take-out order.

Next, consider what type of sex toy would be best for you. There are many different types: vibrating, static, large, small, flexible, rigid, for vaginal, clitoral, anal and erogenous zone stimulation. Then there is the material it’s made of to consider. Some materials are full body-safe for internal and external use, others are toxic and could cause allergic reactions, irritation or worse. What does porous and non-porous mean? What are phthalates? Does any of this really matter when considering which sex toy to buy and try?

Find out all of the above and more in my sex toy advice articles here on the blog.

Clone-A-Willy Tips: 10 Alternative Uses For A Cloned Penis

Stuck for ideas now you've got a cloned penis after using the famous Clone-A Willy kit? Or maybe you're looking for inspiration to buy your clone-a-penis kit? Enjoy these 10 lighthearted Clone-A-Willy tips!

Ultimate Valentine’s Day Sexy Gift Guide | Most Romantic Valentine’s Gifts

Welcome to my Valentine's Day sexy gift guide! Valentine's is traditionally the time of year when lovers show each other the depth of their loving feelings by way of a card, a gift, spending time together doing something special and being generally loved-up. What do you buy the one you love for Valentine's Day this year? Have a look through this feature which showcases the best and most romantic gift ideas for some sensationally seductive inspiration.

New LoveArc Harnesses For Doxy Wands & Flared Base Dildos

By Cara Sutra: The LoveArc is such an ingenious bedroom accessory. You can find more info and loads of photos in my 2015 review, but as an overview it's a beautiful, smooth, brushed aluminium arch to which you can attach suction base dildos to ride them easily, comfortably and hands-free. And now there's even more ways to enjoy your LoveArc, with the new LoveArc harnesses for Doxy Wands and flared base dildos.

Big Guide To Jiggle Balls, Love Eggs, Kegel Trainers & Ben Wa Balls 

Whether you call them jiggle balls, love eggs, kegel trainers or Ben Wa balls, it all amounts to pretty much the same thing. Rounded products you insert into the vagina for pleasure, health benefits, or both. Are you a jiggle ball fan? Have you considered buying a love egg but don’t know which one’s right for you? Welcome to my big guide to jiggle balls, love eggs, kegel trainers & Ben Wa balls!

The rise of the sex toy subscription box, and why it’s such a difficult...

By Cara Sutra: Sex toy subscription boxes have been rising in visibility over the past few years, at least that’s how it seems to me. Several years back a new sex toy subscription box service would launch once a year, then it steadily rose to two or three new ones a year and over the past year it seems to be every few months that a new adult subscription box service has launched.

The Lowdown On Penis Head Pumps

In your search for the perfect penis pump, you have probably come across a penis head pump and wondered what the hell it was for. Well, these pumps actually have a lot of benefits and they can be a lot of fun to use too. They will give you increased stamina, a larger penis, a more sensitive head and they might just make you orgasm in the process too. Want to know more? Yeah, you do!

Lovehoney Desire Bullet & We Vibe Tango Vibrator Comparison Review

Poppycat22 from the Cara Sutra Pleasure Panel recently wrote an in-depth review of the Lovehoney Desire Bullet Vibrator. In addition, Poppycat22 very kindly provided a comparison review between this Lovehoney Desire Bullet Vibrator and the We Vibe Tango.

Big Guide To Strap-On Dildos, & Our Pegging Dildo Reviews

You may remember my last 'big guide' - the Big Guide To Strap-On Sex Harnesses I published last month. Obviously you'll need a fantastic dildo to attach to your new strap-on harness, so here's the follow-up feature: my big guide to strap-on dildos!

Big Guide To Bondage Sex Toys, & Our Bondage Sex Toy Reviews

What can you use to restrain someone (or enjoy being restrained) in bondage? That's where bondage sex toys and bondage accessories come into their own. It helps having some background knowledge of just what's available in terms of bondage equipment, and why it's important to use items specifically designed for bondage rather than any old belt, strap or rope you happen to have around the house.

Big Guide To Penis Chastity Devices, & Our Chastity Cage Reviews

Whether you’re looking for your first chastity device, or seeking to add a chastity cage to your *ahem* growing collection, it can be baffling when you realise just how many variants are available. This is particularly the case for lock-up fans who don’t have a Keyholder/Mistress/Top to guide them, and simply wish to explore chastity fetish by themselves. Welcome to my big guide to penis chastity devices!

Spring Clean Your Sex Life And Try Something New

By Cara Sutra: As the weather turns warmer and brighter (long may it last) and the season rolls round to spring, thoughts do tend to turn towards spring cleaning. It’s in our nature. Spring is a time for new beginnings, fresh starts – whether that’s finally sorting out the cupboard under the stairs or taking all the old trash in the garage to the tip, finally. Perhaps this is the year you get rid of the worn out Christmas decorations and promise yourself you’ll be sensible and buy new ones in good time for December’s festivities.

Is A Non-Porous Real-Feel Sex Toy Material Too Much To Ask?

By Cara Sutra: I'm not talking about the bed, although the subject of this post could also be a breeding ground. Real feel penetrable sex toys. Is it out of the question entirely for adult product manufacturers to make a non-porous real-feel sex toy?
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Big Guide To Lesbian Sex Toys: What Are The Best Sex Toys For Lesbians?

Our heteronormative, phallocentric society loves to promote the myth that sex begins and ends with penis-in-vagina. That the only true definition of sex is thrusting a penis into a vagina which then ejaculates at some point, which signals the End Of The Sex. I'm here to tell you that such a view is wrong on so many levels.
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What Are The Best G-Spot Sex Toys?

Cara Sutra: What is the G-Spot? Does stimulating it actually feel any good - and more to the point, does the G-Spot even exist? In this Q&A, I answer a reader's question about the best G-Spot sex toys.
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Using Sex Toys While Reading Erotic Books

By Cara Sutra: Yeah, I know. You’ve already heard all the sex toy tips you’ll ever need, along with a couple of hundred that you’ll never even use. Now, a lot of advice on using sex toys while reading erotic books. Hopefully, you’ve been drawn to this article because of your interest in erotic books. Maybe you write them. Perhaps you’re an avid smut reader. Either way, you’re an erotica lover.

4 Things To Consider Before Picking A Vibrator

By Naughty North: Although it's exciting, shopping for a vibe can be an overwhelming experience. 30 years ago there were wand massagers. In 2016 there are smartphone enabled, g-spot specific, battery powered vibrators that vibe with music. Sex shops are now a jungle of new products.

Who Wants Freebies?

By Cara Sutra: We all do. Everyone loves freebies, and no matter really want it is, we all want that something for free. Why pay when you can get it for nothing?

10 Reasons To Become A Sex Toy Tester

By Mel MacFarlane: I began a brand new business venture and declared that I couldn’t write about sex toys forever. However, when push came to shove, I found that I couldn’t walk away from sex toy reviewing because it’s a part of my life that I absolutely love.

Ask Cara: Is it safe to fuck myself with high heels?

Dear Cara, I have quite a worrying obsession with my girlfriend's shoes. She doesn't know, but every time she's out and I'm left in the house I have to fuck myself in the ass with...

Big Guide To Spanking Toys, & Our Spanking Toy Reviews

Spanking is an erotic act between consenting kinksters and lovers. Do you prefer yours OTK (over the knee), strapped face-down to a bench, during sex or in some other fashion? Does the mere thought of a raised Dominant hand, or a spanking toy whistling through the air, stir the tendrils of arousal? You might be wondering which spanking tools are best for effective corporal punishment. Welcome to my big guide to spanking toys, in which you'll also find links to all our spanking toy reviews.