Sex Toy Advice

Sex toy shopping can be exciting, exhilarating, fantasy-inducing… and confusing. There are just so many sex toys available these days, with improvements added and different styles being created all the time. That’s why I’ve written these sex toy advice articles here at the Cara Sutra sex blog.

First of all, do you really need sex toys? Adult products are more of a desirable accessory than a need, and they’re most definitely not a replacement for sex. Nobody should feel ashamed about their sex toy use, or threatened because their partner enjoys using them. Hell, there are even plenty of couples sex toys available which heighten the pleasure levels for both partners during intimacy. So even though toys might not be a need or pre-requisite for having sexy fun, they’re an incredibly enjoyable bonus feature. Think of them like ticking the ‘added fun’ box on your sexual take-out order.

Next, consider what type of sex toy would be best for you. There are many different types: vibrating, static, large, small, flexible, rigid, for vaginal, clitoral, anal and erogenous zone stimulation. Then there is the material it’s made of to consider. Some materials are full body-safe for internal and external use, others are toxic and could cause allergic reactions, irritation or worse. What does porous and non-porous mean? What are phthalates? Does any of this really matter when considering which sex toy to buy and try?

Find out all of the above and more in my sex toy advice articles here on the blog.

Which sex toy is best for deep and wide anal reaming?

I am interested in challenging myself with the largest anal toys I can find, please help! What is the widest toy I could buy and the longest (including double dildos)? Is there a toy you'd recommend as having the best of both? I need to get in on some anal reaming action!
What Are Dental Dams? A Beginner's Guide & Safe Oral Sex Tips

What Are Dental Dams? A Beginner’s Guide & Safe Oral Sex Tips

Dental dams aren’t overly expensive and they can be bought discreetly online. In addition, they’re slightly larger than condom packets but still flat, so you could keep a couple in your wallet or handbag when you go out.

Best Powerful Vibrators For Extra Strong Orgasms

Happy National Orgasm Day 2018! It's difficult to believe it's been a year already since the last National Orgasm Day – the year has just flown. In the past I've written about the sounds of an orgasm, the importance (or not) of simultaneous orgasms, about not being able to orgasm through oral sex and about having orgasms while I'm asleep. As many of my orgasms are helped along a little bit (OK, a lot) by sex toys, today I want to discuss some of my favourites. The toys which are, for me, the best powerful vibrators for extra strong orgasms.

Are Sex Toys Needed For A Fantastic Sex Life?

By Cara Sutra: Sex toys are fun and you can find many shapes, sizes, materials and vibration power strengths to suit your anatomy and personal desires. Although I have reviewed thousands of sex toys here at Cara Sutra, I don’t want anyone to wonder are sex toys needed for a fantastic sex life? That’s why I want to make this point clear.

60 Day Vibe Chastity: The Route Back To Manual Orgasm

By Cara Sutra: Why am I talking about a 60 day vibe chastity challenge? After reviewing the Palm Power Wand earlier today, an interesting point came up in convo on Twitter. A fellow blogger's personal route back to a manual orgasm only came after a set time away from vibrating sex toys. I must confess that I do find it difficult to orgasm without the help of vibrations against my clitoris these days, if not impossible.

Best large body-safe and phthalates free dildo?

I have crucified the old dildo on a cross and am now searching for the perfect one. I like realistic dildos or I have seen some alien dildos, but what would you recommend for 8-9 inches that will be as safe, clean and hassle free as possible.

Big Guide To Jiggle Balls, Love Eggs, Kegel Trainers & Ben Wa Balls 

Whether you call them jiggle balls, love eggs, kegel trainers or Ben Wa balls, it all amounts to pretty much the same thing. Rounded products you insert into the vagina for pleasure, health benefits, or both. Are you a jiggle ball fan? Have you considered buying a love egg but don’t know which one’s right for you? Welcome to my big guide to jiggle balls, love eggs, kegel trainers & Ben Wa balls!

Sexual Foreplay 101: Your Guide To Sexy Arousal Tips & Ideas

Brilliant sexual foreplay can mean the difference between a stagnant, monotonous sex life and keeping the spice and magic of a relationship alive. Are you stuck for ideas for fantastic before sex arousal and supremely arousing foreplay? Welcome to my comprehensive guide to lovers' arousal techniques: my sexual foreplay 101.

Sex Toy Materials Guide: Porous v Non-Porous, Phthalates & More

Sex toy shopping can seem extremely confusing once you realise just how many different styles and variations there are. Then you find out they're made from various materials, too. How are you supposed to know which material is the best? Are there any you should specifically look for? And, more importantly, which ones should you actively avoid? My sex toy materials guide is here to provide a few handy tips and pointers when it comes to finding a comfortable and body-safe sex toy you can thoroughly enjoy.

Big Guide To Strap-On Dildos, & Our Pegging Dildo Reviews

You may remember my last 'big guide' - the Big Guide To Strap-On Sex Harnesses I published last month. Obviously you'll need a fantastic dildo to attach to your new strap-on harness, so here's the follow-up feature: my big guide to strap-on dildos!

Big Guide To Sex Machines And Fucking Machines

Time to talk about the big boys... What do you know about sex machines and fucking machines? If you're a sex toy fan or love watching porn (or both, why not), you've probably heard of the Sybian. I reviewed the Sybian sex machine myself a few years ago. That's not the only sex machine around though...

Big Guide To Bondage Sex Toys, & Our Bondage Sex Toy Reviews

What can you use to restrain someone (or enjoy being restrained) in bondage? That's where bondage sex toys and bondage accessories come into their own. It helps having some background knowledge of just what's available in terms of bondage equipment, and why it's important to use items specifically designed for bondage rather than any old belt, strap or rope you happen to have around the house.

Ask Cara: Is it safe to fuck myself with high heels?

Dear Cara, I have quite a worrying obsession with my girlfriend's shoes. She doesn't know, but every time she's out and I'm left in the house I have to fuck myself in the ass with...

And They Call It Bunny Love

My body surrendered to the need and I luxuriated in the sinful feeling of a lazy self-fuck, my pussy slowly swallowing every part of the gently widening rabbit shaft. My labia, slick with cunt drool and lube, snug to the sides of this invader and the feel of them submitted to allow entry. A set of shivers came over me as I slowly slid the rabbit home.

What is Erotic ElectroStimulation and How Does it Feel?

By Hella Rude Prior to my introduction to Andy at Cyrex (ElectraStim's parent company), my knowledge of erotic electrostimulation (EES) was full of holes. I had an understanding of the physics surrounding the practice and I'd certainly used EES in my work as a dominatrix but I hadn't explored electrosex beyond the realms of external sensory play. My personal experience wasn't marrying with the interesting array of electrodes I was discovering, so being the curious-minded creature I am, I got in touch with Andy in regard to reviewing some of his products.

Masturbation Tips: Shame-Free Pleasure Sensations For Your Penis And Prostate

Wanking is great, isn't it? All those delicious, erotic sensations travelling through your body, at any convenient time you choose, resulting in a sensory overload and glorious climax.

8 Ways To Sex Up Your Christmas

By Cara Sutra: Christmas isn’t intrinsically sexy. The focus is on the home: gathering relatives and friends for a family closeness that often only happens this time of year. Traditional scenes of baking biscuits, sipping chocolate topped with cream and marshmallows and enjoying their excited little faces all aglow doesn’t exactly scream wanton and passionate romps with your partner. Let’s not miss an opportunity for adult mischief, though. I’ve got a few ideas to help make Christmas sexy for couples and get your name so indelibly on Santa’s naughty list he’ll only visit to deliver an over the knee spanking.

Busting popular myths about ceramic, metal and glass dildos

I’m here to put your fears to bed about some of the more unusual materials sex toys can be made from. It may surprise you to learn that not all vibrators and dildos are made from flexible materials such as jelly, silicone or PVC. Perhaps you’ve never seen any other type of sex toy than the ‘bendy’ sort. In reality, there’s a whole world of alternative materials to get to grips with, each with their own unique appeal and other advantages. There is a wealth of choice when it comes to dildos made from rigid materials (ie. those which don’t bend). Specialist sex toy shops might even sell wooden dildos or perhaps they’ve gone positively primitive with a (body-safe and smooth) stone dildo offering. Unlike a few decades ago, where anything other than jelly sex toys were unheard of, even mainstream sex shops are now selling rigid material sex toys. The most common materials for rigid sex toys are ceramic, metal and glass.

Big Guide To Strap-On Sex Harnesses, & Our Strap On Set Reviews

Strap-on sex (sometimes known as pegging) is enjoyed by many adults and within various types of relationship; for example, lesbian/bisexual sex, in BDSM as part of FemDom, or to help a penis-owner pleasure their partner in different ways. There are many types of harness available to help you achieve your sexual pleasure aims – welcome to my big guide to strap-on sex harnesses.

Big Guide To Bullet Vibrators, & Our Bullet Vibrator Reviews

I’ve written previously about why I love bullet vibrators so much. They regularly appear in my top 3 favourite sex toys, which constantly evolves due to ongoing advances in pleasure tech. There are so many bullet vibrators to choose from – how can you be sure the one you’re buying from an online sex shop is going to be orgasmically effective? Welcome to my big guide to bullet vibrators! I’ll also be referencing the many bullet vibrator reviews here at the Cara Sutra sex blog.