Sex Toy Advice

Sex toy shopping can be exciting, exhilarating, fantasy-inducing… and confusing. There are just so many sex toys available these days, with improvements added and different styles being created all the time. That’s why I’ve written these sex toy advice articles here at the Cara Sutra sex blog.

First of all, do you really need sex toys? Adult products are more of a desirable accessory than a need, and they’re most definitely not a replacement for sex. Nobody should feel ashamed about their sex toy use, or threatened because their partner enjoys using them. Hell, there are even plenty of couples sex toys available which heighten the pleasure levels for both partners during intimacy. So even though toys might not be a need or pre-requisite for having sexy fun, they’re an incredibly enjoyable bonus feature. Think of them like ticking the ‘added fun’ box on your sexual take-out order.

Next, consider what type of sex toy would be best for you. There are many different types: vibrating, static, large, small, flexible, rigid, for vaginal, clitoral, anal and erogenous zone stimulation. Then there is the material it’s made of to consider. Some materials are full body-safe for internal and external use, others are toxic and could cause allergic reactions, irritation or worse. What does porous and non-porous mean? What are phthalates? Does any of this really matter when considering which sex toy to buy and try?

Find out all of the above and more in my sex toy advice articles here on the blog.

Fifty Shades of Grey Sex Toy Advice – A Sexual Revolution

By Hella Rude Who would have thought that fan fiction could be responsible for such a change in attitude toward sex toys? The sex toy business is booming thanks to new-found popularity fueled by three books and a whole lot of media coverage. Women who haven't read since school are devouring some pretty meaty books and are simultaneously acting to improve their sex lives.

Will Britney Spears Reveal Fifty Shades of Grey Riding Crop On TV?

...visual references to kink such as collars and leashes, bull whips and mouth gags, Britney Spears has not been backwards about surging forwards into the fetish scene. She's definitely making the most of the effect from the 50 Shades books - not to mention the official 50 Shades of Grey sex toys - on the media and the commercial consequences on various industries in modern culture.

New LoveArc Harnesses For Doxy Wands & Flared Base Dildos

By Cara Sutra: The LoveArc is such an ingenious bedroom accessory. You can find more info and loads of photos in my 2015 review, but as an overview it's a beautiful, smooth, brushed aluminium arch to which you can attach suction base dildos to ride them easily, comfortably and hands-free. And now there's even more ways to enjoy your LoveArc, with the new LoveArc harnesses for Doxy Wands and flared base dildos.
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What Are The Best G-Spot Sex Toys?

Cara Sutra: What is the G-Spot? Does stimulating it actually feel any good - and more to the point, does the G-Spot even exist? In this Q&A, I answer a reader's question about the best G-Spot sex toys.

How Your Adult Business Should Respond To Unhappy Customers

By Cara Sutra: I doubt there’s any business out there that has never experienced unhappy customers at one point or another. As genuine and admirable as your company values may be, unhappy customers are part and parcel of being in business.

Does Female Chastity Exist? How Can Women Enjoy Orgasm Denial?

The chastity fetish is a BDSM topic very close to my Mistress heart. I've written plenty about male chastity over the years, as well as a guide to chastity devices and several chastity cage reviews. What about women? Does female chastity exist? And how can women enjoy orgasm denial?

Big Guide To Penis Chastity Devices, & Our Chastity Cage Reviews

Whether you’re looking for your first chastity device, or seeking to add a chastity cage to your *ahem* growing collection, it can be baffling when you realise just how many variants are available. This is particularly the case for lock-up fans who don’t have a Keyholder/Mistress/Top to guide them, and simply wish to explore chastity fetish by themselves. Welcome to my big guide to penis chastity devices!

Masturbation Tips: Shame-Free Pleasure Sensations For Your Penis And Prostate

Wanking is great, isn't it? All those delicious, erotic sensations travelling through your body, at any convenient time you choose, resulting in a sensory overload and glorious climax.

The Wide & Diverse World of Virtual Reality Sex

Since its release earlier this year, virtual reality has taken the electronic world by storm.  Even if you haven’t been paying attention, there’s a good chance you’ve have heard the rumblings of this great new technology.  Virtual reality is poised for big things, with lots of viable uses already putting the technology to work.

Why Winter is The Sexiest Season

By Cara Sutra: Summer was my favourite time of year. None of that feeling frozen to the bone; just warm, sunny, dry weather over the seemingly never-ending summer holidays. As I’ve got older, my opinion has changed.

Adult Sex Ed Month: Do We Really Need Any More Sex Education?

By Cara Sutra: Adult Sex Ed Month has been created for easy and shame-free access to sex ed in adult life. June is Adult Sex Ed Month 2016 and I am very excited to be part of the campaign for more and for better sex education for adults - as well as raising awareness of its ongoing importance.

Big Guide To Bondage Sex Toys, & Our Bondage Sex Toy Reviews

What can you use to restrain someone (or enjoy being restrained) in bondage? That's where bondage sex toys and bondage accessories come into their own. It helps having some background knowledge of just what's available in terms of bondage equipment, and why it's important to use items specifically designed for bondage rather than any old belt, strap or rope you happen to have around the house.

How can I get free sex toys & become a sex toys tester?

Once you have established which people are the leaders in the sex toy reviews and sex toy shopping fields, you may wish to send a couple of polite (not demanding) emails asking for any help and advice that the person or company can spare time for. Example questions you may ask another reviewer are, “Which companies do you recommend approaching for a newbie toy reviewer?” and “What are your top tips for writing great sex toy reviews?” Questions you may like to approach sex toy companies with, to their customer care email or similar, are “Do you have any community schemes in place for sex toy reviewers?” and “Are there any products you are seeking honest, well written reviews for at the moment?” Avoid begging for free sex toys or making demands for high priced products; this screams ‘greedy’ and ‘newbie’ and may well dissuade the company from working with you right from the start.

Fantasy by Cara Sutra: behind the scenes of the new bondage range

...I have an interest both in sex toys - well, adult products - as well as fetish. With the recent surge in popularity in bondage (thanks Fifty Shades of Grey), it made complete sense to

4 Things To Consider Before Picking A Vibrator

By Naughty North: Although it's exciting, shopping for a vibe can be an overwhelming experience. 30 years ago there were wand massagers. In 2016 there are smartphone enabled, g-spot specific, battery powered vibrators that vibe with music. Sex shops are now a jungle of new products.

Lovehoney Desire Bullet & We Vibe Tango Vibrator Comparison Review

Poppycat22 from the Cara Sutra Pleasure Panel recently wrote an in-depth review of the Lovehoney Desire Bullet Vibrator. In addition, Poppycat22 very kindly provided a comparison review between this Lovehoney Desire Bullet Vibrator and the We Vibe Tango.

Are Rabbit Vibrators a Good Way to Orgasm?

by Hella Rude Regardless of your anatomy, a good rabbit vibrator is able to simultaneously tickle your clit and massage your G-spot thanks to the flexible nature of rabbit ear stimulators. With plenty of power on standby (but the option to turn it down a notch to give you a good build-up) and a good set of flexible ears, you should find that rabbit vibrators give you fantastic climaxes.

Male Sex Toys: How To Pick Out The Perfect One!

If you’re a male shopping for yourself, or perhaps looking for your male partner, you most likely want to find the perfect male sex toy! Now this might sound simple, but believe me, this is no easy task. You have hundreds of different male sex toys and manufacturers. What type will work best on him? What kind of male toys are there? What will deliver the most powerful orgasm? These are all frequent questions when looking for the top male sex toys, so let me break it down for you.

Who Wants Freebies?

By Cara Sutra: We all do. Everyone loves freebies, and no matter really want it is, we all want that something for free. Why pay when you can get it for nothing?

Are sex toys better than real cock?

Men, I find it very odd that some of you have a problem with sex toys. Not a hatred for rubber or silicone; but more specifically a feeling of angst when they are brought into the bedroom by your lover. There's this ongoing debate: Are sex toys better than real cock?