Sex Toy Advice

Sex toy shopping can be exciting, exhilarating, fantasy-inducing… and confusing. There are just so many sex toys available these days, with improvements added and different styles being created all the time. That’s why I’ve written these sex toy advice articles here at the Cara Sutra sex blog.

First of all, do you really need sex toys? Adult products are more of a desirable accessory than a need, and they’re most definitely not a replacement for sex. Nobody should feel ashamed about their sex toy use, or threatened because their partner enjoys using them. Hell, there are even plenty of couples sex toys available which heighten the pleasure levels for both partners during intimacy. So even though toys might not be a need or pre-requisite for having sexy fun, they’re an incredibly enjoyable bonus feature. Think of them like ticking the ‘added fun’ box on your sexual take-out order.

Next, consider what type of sex toy would be best for you. There are many different types: vibrating, static, large, small, flexible, rigid, for vaginal, clitoral, anal and erogenous zone stimulation. Then there is the material it’s made of to consider. Some materials are full body-safe for internal and external use, others are toxic and could cause allergic reactions, irritation or worse. What does porous and non-porous mean? What are phthalates? Does any of this really matter when considering which sex toy to buy and try?

Find out all of the above and more in my sex toy advice articles here on the blog.

Beginner’s Guide To Anal Sex Toys & Butt Plugs

By Cara Sutra: Bums. Everyone has one, and very useful they are too. Our undervalued derrières not only house the exit which keeps our bodies functioning healthily, but offer comfortable padding when we need to take the weight off our feet. Did you realise that your bottom also has the potential to give you incredible pleasure, as well as a mere sigh of relief any time you sit down?

Is It Safe To Insert Sex Toys All The Way Into My Vagina?

By Cara Sutra: A sex question I get asked fairly regularly is, “Is it safe to insert sex toys all the way into my vagina?” Let's take a look at the facts…
Big guide to lesbian sex toys - best sex toys for lesbians

Big Guide To Lesbian Sex Toys: What Are The Best Sex Toys For Lesbians?

Our heteronormative, phallocentric society loves to promote the myth that sex begins and ends with penis-in-vagina. That the only true definition of sex is thrusting a penis into a vagina which then ejaculates at some point, which signals the End Of The Sex. I'm here to tell you that such a view is wrong on so many levels.

Best Slim Vibrators For Small Vaginas

By Cara Sutra: I must admit that when I look at vibrator features, size doesn't really register. I'm one of those women who assumes that vaginal vibrators are made in, well, vagina size. If they're tiddly then they might be more of a clit stim for me.

How can I get free sex toys & become a sex toys tester?

Once you have established which people are the leaders in the sex toy reviews and sex toy shopping fields, you may wish to send a couple of polite (not demanding) emails asking for any help and advice that the person or company can spare time for. Example questions you may ask another reviewer are, “Which companies do you recommend approaching for a newbie toy reviewer?” and “What are your top tips for writing great sex toy reviews?” Questions you may like to approach sex toy companies with, to their customer care email or similar, are “Do you have any community schemes in place for sex toy reviewers?” and “Are there any products you are seeking honest, well written reviews for at the moment?” Avoid begging for free sex toys or making demands for high priced products; this screams ‘greedy’ and ‘newbie’ and may well dissuade the company from working with you right from the start.

Are sex toys better than real cock?

Men, I find it very odd that some of you have a problem with sex toys. Not a hatred for rubber or silicone; but more specifically a feeling of angst when they are brought into the bedroom by your lover. There's this ongoing debate: Are sex toys better than real cock?

Big Guide To Spanking Toys, & Our Spanking Toy Reviews

Spanking is an erotic act between consenting kinksters and lovers. Do you prefer yours OTK (over the knee), strapped face-down to a bench, during sex or in some other fashion? Does the mere thought of a raised Dominant hand, or a spanking toy whistling through the air, stir the tendrils of arousal? You might be wondering which spanking tools are best for effective corporal punishment. Welcome to my big guide to spanking toys, in which you'll also find links to all our spanking toy reviews.

Does Female Chastity Exist? How Can Women Enjoy Orgasm Denial?

The chastity fetish is a BDSM topic very close to my Mistress heart. I've written plenty about male chastity over the years, as well as a guide to chastity devices and several chastity cage reviews. What about women? Does female chastity exist? And how can women enjoy orgasm denial?

Guide to Glass Sex Toys: Are Glass Dildos Safe To Use?

A question I get asked often is "Are glass dildos safe to use?" Hopefully the below Q&A will lay some myths about glass sex toys to rest and provide some ideas about glass dildos you might like to try.

Big Guide To Penis Chastity Devices, & Our Chastity Cage Reviews

Whether you’re looking for your first chastity device, or seeking to add a chastity cage to your *ahem* growing collection, it can be baffling when you realise just how many variants are available. This is particularly the case for lock-up fans who don’t have a Keyholder/Mistress/Top to guide them, and simply wish to explore chastity fetish by themselves. Welcome to my big guide to penis chastity devices!

Best Small Butt Plugs For Tiny Bums

I've written plenty of beginner's guides to anal toys and butt plugs in the past, and you can find plenty of sex toy advice throughout the Cara Sutra sex blog. Today, however, I wanted to present what I feel are the true top picks when it comes to easily insertable (yet still body safe) small butt plugs for tiny bums.

Where To Buy Sexy Advent Calendars This Christmas

If you’re looking for sexy advent calendars to sex up your Christmas, look no further. You’ve found the mother lode. I’m here to share with you full details of sexy advent calendars which you can use to both spice up the countdown to Christmas, as well as providing you with a pleasurable, stress-relieving alternative to the usual responsibilities that come along with the festive season.  

Enjoying Sex Furniture When You Don’t Have A Sex Dungeon

Visiting a venue with a range of sex furniture to experiment on and enjoy is something that most of us rarely get the opportunity to experience. Although sex furniture is becoming more affordable for people to consider buying and enjoying at home, there’s still one important issue to consider before you splash the cash. The big issue of… space.

How to clean your sex toys properly

Before plunging your sex toy into a sink of water or taking it in the shower with you for a rinse, check the instructions or packet to see if it’s completely waterproof. Many sex toys are not, and they will state water resistant only and to wipe the surface carefully. If the manufacturers have been a bit lax in the description department and there’s no mention of waterproof-ness, you should assume it’s not a waterproof sex toy. Believe me, if it’s waterproof, they’ll have added this on as a sales bonus point.

Who Uses Penis Extensions And Why? (Also Known As Cock Sheaths Or Hollow Strap...

Unlike some people tend to think, penis extenders are not only for those that are insecure about their penis size. This type of product can actually be used in all sorts of different ways and are created to enhance your sexual experience with your partner, no matter the size of your penis.

The Lowdown On Penis Head Pumps

In your search for the perfect penis pump, you have probably come across a penis head pump and wondered what the hell it was for. Well, these pumps actually have a lot of benefits and they can be a lot of fun to use too. They will give you increased stamina, a larger penis, a more sensitive head and they might just make you orgasm in the process too. Want to know more? Yeah, you do!

A Beginner’s Guide to Electrosex & Electro Sex Toys

You will need a main unit (known as the stimulator) to deliver the electric current. These are usually the basis of a starter kit, such as the ElectraStim Flick EM60-E Electro Stimulation Pack. This stimulator offers 24 intensity settings so you can increase the power in line with your desires. There is also the option to receive or deliver to a partner rhythmic stimulation in line with the movement of your hand. The ElectraStim Flick costs just £99 and comes with full instructions and electro pads so that you can get started right away. The ElectraStim SensaVox EM140 High Spec Stimulator (£299) is for those looking for a more advanced kit and experience. Not only are there an amazing 99 intensity levels, there’s also 9 pre-programmed patterns to enjoy. You can use SensaVox to create sophisticated stimulation patterns using either the included microphone or by feeding audio directly into the stimulator. The soundwaves are translated into a stimulation beat that rises and falls in sympathy with the audio, teasing and tantalising you with sensations that can be modified to match your desires.
Big Guide To Magic Wand Vibrators and Our Magic Wand Vibrator Reviews

Big Guide To Magic Wand Vibrators, & Our Magic Wand Vibrator Reviews

What’s the absolute best wand vibrator? Which is the most powerful wand vibrator? If you’re looking for a mighty toy which can deliver unforgettable orgasms, then sex toy connoisseurs know to head straight for the magic wand vibrators.

Can You Get Jiggle Balls for Men?

By Hella Rude You can opt for the real jiggle ball experience as a man, you just have to be willing to experiment with a little anal play. Jiggle balls and Ben Wa balls are actually modelled on pelvic floor exercisers or PC muscle toners, articles designed to tone the pelvic floor region in women. A sexy side effect of these pleasure balls is G-spot massage and the potential for orgasm.

Introducing The All New Lovehoney Happy Rabbit Vibrators

Having never tried the original Lovehoney Happy Rabbits, I was not only curious when Lovehoney revealed three updated models to the range, but thrilled to be offered them in order to give them a try. Thanks so much Lovehoney for sending your all new Lovehoney Happy Rabbit Vibrators for me to discover and enjoy.