BDSM Articles

My BDSM articles are here to give you the low down on everything kink-related. The world of bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism is enormous. There are just so many kinks, fetishes, interests and D/s orientations of the consenting adults involved.

BDSM newbies tend to have their curiosity piqued by something that arouses their kinky interest in the media, such as a bondage scene in an erotic book or movie, or bondage sex toys advertised on TV. Perhaps you’re in a relationship with someone who is already ‘into’ BDSM and you’d like to try it too, or maybe it’s a new interest both of you have decided you’re ready to explore. My beginners to bondage features are very popular, and I’ve written plenty about spanking and general BDSM safety advice too.

From time to time I get specific questions from readers whether they’re BDSM beginners or veteran kinksters. I answer these honestly and as thoroughly as I can based on my own experiences and research, within various BDSM advice features. As I’m trying to provide a comprehensive guide to BDSM here on the Cara Sutra sex blog, I will often tackle a specific kink or fetish in its own dedicated post, such as forced orgasms, watersports & piss play, and the adult baby fetish.

If there is an area of BDSM that I haven’t covered here, or if you have a specific kink-related question you’d like answered in full here on the blog (can be anonymous), then please get in touch and I’ll do my best to help. I hope you enjoy reading all my BDSM articles.

Giving Him The Best Birthday Gift Of All: Her Slut

He pulled her down with hands on her upper thighs, and there was pure joyful malice in her eyes as she become the bull rider to his bull. His hands were all over her beautiful body and her sounds of ravaged pleasure filled my ears, hitting me like a slap, again and again.

Chastity Release – Unlocking & Orgasm

By Cara Sutra: He looked up at me from where he knelt on the kitchen floor, a solitary tear running down his defeated face. That just caused my cunt to become wetter in beautifully cruel empathy. Finally, he’d completed the distasteful task. His expert tongue protruded, but not out of rudeness or as a plea for pussy. On the tip was a small, very shiny key.

Watersports 101 | Complete Guide To Golden Showers & Piss Play

Does mention of watersports conjure up innocent images of surfing and jet skis -or raise a knowing smirk? For the non-vanilla activity, "golden showers" is probably a more familiar term to most thanks to tabloid coverage of various celebrity/political scandals, as well as good old internet porn.

Puppy Play For Mistress – Chastity Tease And Orgasm Denial

Puppy Play For Mistress is a short FemDom story written for me by one of my submissives. He's so very much into chastity tease and orgasm denial, as well as being made to act like a puppy... wagging tail, begging, barking for dinner - you get the idea. I hope you enjoy this story as much I repeatedly do. Happy Fetish Friday.

Fetish Friday: My new slave, the rubber gimp

I have recently acquired a rubber gimp. We haven't actually met in person yet, we are chatting on messenger and exchanging ideas. He is mostly confirming how much of a useless waste of space...

Fetish Friday: Maid to Serve

Fetish Friday: Maid to Serve There's something about a maid which calls to the pervert in all of us. Is it the outfit? Is it the submissive attitude? Is it the fact we can click...

Fetish Friday: 5 reasons you want a Mistress to sit on your face

Facesitting and Queening Facesitting is the act of, well, sitting on a person's face. Clue's in the name, really. Why would anyone do this? It's actually very erotic. Face sitting can be undertaken during vanilla...

Don’t Non-Consensually Prise My Rape Fantasy From My Kink Dependent Mind

Cara Sutra: It’s come to my attention recently that certain folks are against people having their fantasies and acting them out, consensually, with their adult partner(s). Rape fantasy, to be specific. Now, I’ve taken this a little bit personally, as rape fantasy is a very important part of my sex life - a very enjoyable part of my fantasy and real life.

Turned On By His Tears

As the barrier crashes down within him, crumbling to reveal his true self, tears then finally begin to form. I see the subtlest glint and can't help wetting my own lips with my tongue in anticipation –in between my incessant tirade, the code to unlock his complete submissive self.  

What’s The Difference Between Kink And Fetish?

With increasing awareness of and interest in BDSM, much of the related jargon and terms have made their way into common parlance. Two such words are 'kink' and 'fetish'. They're often used interchangeably, but as they are two different words it's natural to wonder what the actual meanings are.

My 5 Favourite Kinks – And Why I Find Them So Sexy

If I had to distil my love of everything (well, most things) kinky into a 'Top 5' compilation... what would make the list? Today I'm going to share with you my 5 favourite kinks, then explain why I find them so sexy.

Forced Orgasms: Orgasmic Consensual Non-Consent

By Cara Sutra: Forced orgasms have been a source of curiosity to me for quite some time. It’s unusual for me to find intrigue through BDSM-based orgasms, as I have a penchant for male chastity as you may have noticed from my regular kinky writings on the subject.

Abandonment Fetish, Neglect Fantasy & Ignore Line Phone Sex

By Cara Sutra: An incredibly popular fetish is the abandonment fetish, which links into neglect fantasy and ignore line phone sex. From my Domme point of view I associate these with the FemDom side of BDSM, however it's not limited to FemDom.

Beginner’s Guide To Bondage | Complete Bondage 101 & Top Tips

Despite Fifty Shades of Grey helping to spotlight the joys of BDSM in the mainstream in recent years, plenty of people have been enjoying the physical, psychological and emotional liberation that the power exchange in D/s role-play offers. Due to the recent sharp rise in mainstream interest, I wanted to share my bondage top tips and advice in this beginner's guide to bondage today. Welcome to my complete bondage 101!

The Conversion: A Male Chastity Story

Time no longer had relevance. There was a time he recalls being locked in this physical and mental cage. He vaguely remembers the drink that made him feel so weak and compliant. He can recollect the smug smile on her face as she led the way down that corridor as he was helplessly, virtually carried along by other slaves. He could also recall the arousal induced by that smile, the click and clack of those sexy high heeled boots as she sauntered along that hard tiled corridor and that derriere that shouted "Woman. Beautiful desirable woman". There was apprehension and some fear but it was indicative of the power of this woman, that arousal was the sensation he remembers most.

Living With A Vanilla Partner When You’re Kinky | BDSM Advice

By Cara Sutra: Is this you? Are you living with a vanilla partner when you're kinky? Perhaps you need some element of BDSM to get your kicks in your sex life. If so, living with someone for whom these activities are distasteful or simply don’t feature can be hard work, frustrating and upsetting. For everyone involved.

Total Power Exchange (TPE) & Useful Slaves

By Cara Sutra: I have a weakness for submissives who are firmly in the slave category of BDSM. I love total power exchange. I'm not the kind who gets off simply on Femdom sessions with a guy acting sub, tending to his fantasies for an hour then getting back to ‘normal’ roles. Much preferred is the day-to-day reality of being a Dominant woman to a 100%-of-the-time submissive man.

Leaving BDSM: How Can I Stop Being Kinky?

I honestly believe it's naive to think you can just switch off your kinkiness for all time. You may be leaving BDSM when it comes to the community, you can get rid of your implements and finish any D/s relationships, but being a kinkster is simply too much a part of a person's character. It's up to you if you decide to act on those kinky impulses in your life or not.

Tease and Denial

A leather mask over his face. Full black out. The only sensation comes from small slits for breathing holes around the nostrils and the limited circle for mouth. Just enough to, incidentally, let his tongue through. You'd love to be in that position wouldn't you?

Dolcett Girls And The Vorarephilia / Vore Fetish

By Cara Sutra: Now here's an entirely new spin on the phrase “eating out”! Perhaps you’ve heard of vore but you’re not sure what it is. Vorarephelia is a fetish, and those who find themselves aroused by the idea of eating, or being eaten by, a person. Not in the literal eating of people, which is cannibalism. Dolcett Girls falls under the vore fetish category.