Wednesday, July 17, 2019

Diary

Blog updates and more personal journal updates can be found here, in Cara Sutra's Diary. Find out what goes on between the bedsheets, what makes me tick sexually and enjoy an intense and erotic peek into the private sex lives of my partners and I. Discover my plethora of sexual kinks and gasp as I reveal all. Do you dare read in public or are you bookmarking for later? If you'd like to read even more behind the scenes news and access exclusive personal updates including photos, why not support my work on Patreon? I hope you enjoy reading through my diary entries from over the years.

Fifty Shades of Grey Movie Review by Cara Sutra

By Cara Sutra: I don’t care what you think about Fifty Shades of Grey. By the time the Fifty Shades of Grey Movie was released in UK cinemas I was bouncing with excitement about going to see it. Not because I’m the world’s biggest 50 Shades fan. Not because I find Christian Grey knicker-gushingly hot. Because I wanted to be able to make up my own damn mind without being torn one way or the other by other people’s opinions.

Why you need to ditch the ‘I hate 50 Shades of Grey’ bandwagon

I didn’t want a man (or woman, as it turned out) to look into my eyes and say my name softly as he/she fucked me gently. I wanted to have my wrists held behind my back, I wanted a hand tight around my throat, I wanted my hair around a fist and my head yanked back as I was kissed so hard that I would think I was actually dying from not being able to breathe, for my lips and neck to be bitten until they bled and I had lasting bruises to wear with pride. I didn’t want soft sex in the dark I wanted flipping over and beating with the lights on full. I didn’t want private intimacy I wanted to have hot wax dripped over my tits with an audience watching. I didn’t want a long, hard cock with a rich suitor attached, I wanted the choice of a man or a woman as a sexual partner, to ride life’s taboos which had been denied to me for so long and to taste the most exotic (to some, obscene) pleasures that the world and other consenting people could offer.

What I Get Out Of Locking A Man In A Chastity Cage

By Cara Sutra: What thrill could anyone get out of locking a man into a chastity cage? At a time when the spotlight is full blast on BDSM and kink it’s refreshing to see Uber Kinky coming to the fore and raising awareness about different types of alternative relationships. What I mean is, plenty of people are now aware of light bedroom bondage which has been mainly interpreted as female sub, male Dominant. Because all relationships consist of two people, hetero, cis, the whole gender binary he-she-bang. Well actually, no.

The Breaking of K (Wearing of the CB-6000 Male Chastity Device Journal from slave...

To dream of the unobtainable invariably leads to torment and unrequited desire. After last night's conversation I found myself imagining what it must be like to have sex with the most stunningly beautiful, unattainable, deliciously cruel Goddess and Bitch. I imagined Her naked body close to me, Her erect nipples betraying Her arousal, the heat radiating from Her sex and through that heat I could feel the moistness inviting my eventual penetration. Of course this was all in my imagination, but I was imagining something I'd never dared with any of my previous Femdom owners. Having said that, Mistress Cara is special, probably my last and certainly the most deserving and superior Mistress I have ever served. Perhaps even more reason not to imagine the impossible. Not only did I imagine it but I did so when my cock was restrained preventing not only sexual release but even a proper erection.

Can I really have an orgasm in my sleep?

Upon properly waking up I don’t feel the muscle tension that usually comes post-orgasm. The orgasm I had in my dreams isn’t that lightning bolt zing from clit to throat. It’s more of a rippling wave from top to toe, a gentle lapping of pleasure which unfurls from… where, I’m once again not sure. The pit of my stomach, my clit, my mind. All I know is that when I’m awake the feeling is ebbing away but it might just be the fading of a dream, not a real orgasm. One of my exes could orgasm without touching herself. Whether on the bus or just before going to sleep at night. Wherever she was she could just think about it and make herself have an orgasm. What an enviable skill. But her orgasms were always when she was fully awake, never when asleep.

Why I won’t be sleeping in the wet patch

I know what I want to happen after sex. I want to lay together, body to hot sweaty body, post-sex heat our only blanket, clinging together in glorious love - well, mainly stuck together with the velcro of rapidly drying bodily fluids. I want it to be just like ‘in the movies’ (films, for us Brits). To immediately drift into the deep peaceful sleep of the newly-shagged, in candlelight (without any thought of the fire hazard) and wake up in the morning still clinging together. As if we were Jack and Rose. Only Jack didn't have to die and Rose let him climb on the damn door. My makeup would be absolute perfection through the night, until the sun’s rays gently woke us from nauseatingly romantic slumber. My pillowslip would most definitely not look like a clown’s washcloth. Nor would my face.

Slamming on the brakes to find myself

I feel like I’m becoming a cold, corporate thing that isn’t really me. I’ve lost some of what makes me a person in my writing, in my blogging. I feel so privileged to be offered so much writing work, but recently I’ve been a writing machine. Churning out my best research, thoughts, tailored opinions and experiences for the delectation of various audiences. Marketing writing and promotions, features, columns and spotlights, admins and advert placement and promotional tweets, optimisation and backlinks and answering countless emails that never end. Sales advice, product advice, digital marketing advice, blogging advice.

Bear Faced Cheek

Caught Biscuit in the act. Naughty, dirty little bear, Daddy says, "well he must have learned it somewhere"

Together for four years – and this weekend we try something new

We're actually staying in a hotel room, for two nights, the two of us (my man and I) without anyone else. For most people in a relationship this long, this would have been out of the way and done with in the first 6 months, a year at most. Definitely before having a child, in any case. Not us. We've always had someone with us when we've stayed anywhere, from ex partners to the chauffeur slave who attends events with us.

Tell me, what’s your flavour?

Vanilla? Extra sauce? Something fruity with sprinkles on top? Get your tongues ready for a sexy summer.

The Time I Made Him Make Me Safeword

By Cara Sutra: He had his fingers inside me. It sounds so gorgeously innocent, doesn’t it? So young, almost like the first gentle corruption of a fresh faced virgin. They're just fingers; sweet, dipping in-and-out fingers.

Let’s Play Ball

I got a new toy this week, but not the usual kind.

Whirlwind of Fire

The evening passed in the usual blur where time speeds up and excitement is at a high. We got closer and closer during the evening and exchanged flirty banter and those looks. You know the ones. Curious, daring, challenging, knowing. Time was escaping us, rushing past in an echo of Alice in Wonderland madness. Swept up in her crazy hotness and wild fire we rebelled and kissed - and our lips then tongues meeting was fire to fire. The taste of not girl, but woman. Full knowledge and comprehension of actions, not some naive innocent who will later regret.

Sinful Sunday World Cup Competition: Win a massive Fantasy by Cara Sutra bondage kit...

The huge Fantasy by Cara Sutra Sinful Sunday bondage prize haul: A Fantasy by Cara Sutra beginner’s bondage kit in your choice of black or red Fantasy by Cara Sutra bondage tape, red Lady Finger Vibrator (kindly donated by La Boudoir Boutique) Set of Vibratone Jiggle Balls (kindly donated by La Boudoir Boutique) Cherry Vanilla (-giggle-) scented Yankee Candle 2x Fantasy by Cara Sutra stickers 2x Fantasy by Cara Sutra button badges An extremely limited edition Fantasy by Cara Sutra coaster

Is Pubic Hair Sexy? Does It Matter What You Do With Your Pubes?

By Cara Sutra: Natural dark curls, silky blonde fur, neat tufts or barely there at all. Is pubic hair sexy? Does it matter what you do with your pubes? For women, pubes are the central topic of an ongoing fight between popular culture purported by glossy magazines such as Cosmopolitan and Glamour and our innate right to do whatever we want with our own bodies.

Preparation

I want to leave the exact details of the situation to your imagination. The Domme or the kitten? The Owner or the owned? The whip hand or the punished?

Kink Links: The Erotic Gems of the ETO Show 2014

I’m very excited to share with you the products I absolutely loved at the ETO Show this year - and they didn’t even have a stand! Kink Links erotic jewellery. The first few times Kink Links tried to meet with me at the recent ETO Show 2014, I was away from the stand I was exhibiting The Cara Sutra Collection Ltd on. I was in a flurry of meetings and networking, but Kink Links persisted and eventually found me at E4, my little corner of the large NEC exhibition hall.

Sex News: The ETO Awards Winners 2014 – Full List

If you haven't heard who won what in the ETO Awards 2014, here's a handy list for you. You can read the mini release on the ETO Magazine website here, and a full report will be going out to subscribers in the July 2014 edition of this popular adult industry magazine.

ETO Show 2014 Part Four: Monday with a Friday Flavour, Day Two

Oh, did I feel smug on Monday morning. No, not the award - which I was still in shock about - but the lack of hangover! With a smiley face and a clear head I reflected on this day a year before, when I had been so ill from the afterparty that I hadn’t been able to get up from bed until checkout time. In fact if I’d had my way I wouldn’t have left the bed for about 4 days, that’s how ruined I was. I’d sworn not to do that again, and despite worrying that a hangover was somehow inevitable with the ETO Show Awards, I’d avoided the usual after party punishment.

ETO Show 2014 Part Three: Awards Night – Everyone’s a Winner

The ETO Awards are always a spectacle to attend and behold, and the ETO Awards 2014 dinner, presentation and dancing was no different. In fact, it was even bigger, crazier, happier and hotter than last year. You can read the full list of winners on the ETO Magazine website here. No matter whether you’re nominated for a coveted ETO award or simply attending and soaking up the much needed annual celebration of our wonderful industry, everyone agrees that it’s an exciting and fun night. I’d headed back from day one of the show at 4pm, earlier than the closing time, to get ready and try to relax a little before the night got into full swing. I took my time getting ready, soaking up every moment of this special night away from the desk and anticipating so much fun and excitement.