Friday, January 17, 2020

Diary

Diaries are a traditional method of journaling your thoughts, feelings and happenings, and people have been writing in their diaries for thousands of years. I’ve never been particularly good at keeping up with a written diary, despite trying several times when I was younger, but with the birth of the digital age a new way of journaling came to light. Did you know that the word ‘blog’ is actually short for ‘web log’ – a log of your happenings placed on the web?

I’m here to welcome you to this very personal area of the Cara Sutra sex blog. My diary. Here you can find updates about my homelife and work life, as well as events I’ve been to and other happenings. I’ve split this area into sex diary and kinky diary parts, to help readers find the updates they’d specifically like to read about the most.

Particular times of the year that I like to immortalise in my diary the most include birthdays, Christmases and other fun occasions and celebrations.

If you’d like an even more in-depth look at behind-the-scenes happenings, photographs not shown anywhere else and insights into my homelife, you can sign up to become a patron.

Readers who pledge their support to my work and website through Patreon ($5+ a month) can opt-in to a monthly newsletter where I provide a round-up of everything that went on with my family & I that month, along with sometimes hundreds of photographs to enjoy. Thank you for all your support.

Am I Addicted To Sex Toys? A Confession And An Experiment

The question I've been musing on over the past couple of months has two distinct elements. Am I addicted to sex toys – and is this having a detrimental effect on my sex life?

London Window Display

I was on a high from the theatre; the sounds, sights and smells of the west end. A shared bottle of white in Soho definitely helped. Buzzing from a fantastic night out, and tumbling into our deluxe hotel suite, I was feeling so incredibly aroused and daring.

Am I Too Old To Be A Sex Educator? Are My Views On Sexuality...

For some time now I’ve been harbouring a worry. Am I getting too old to correctly educate others in the ways of sexuality, gender and suchlike? My worry is that I’m coming up to 40 in a few years, and perhaps I’m just not cutting-edge as a sex educator any more.

The Day She Came: Fucking My Girl, A Lesbian Sex Story

Two fingers turned to three as I gave her pussy a real challenge. My thumb, outside her body, steadily circled her exposed and erect clit using her leaked wetness as lube. I could feel her cunt getting even tighter around my fingers, and fucking her was getting harder and harder. Still, I wasn't going to give up so easily.

When I Watched A Man Fuck My Boyfriend

Perhaps it was the discovery of a bottle of poppers in the bedside table, or it might have been that his friend was just so fucking horny that night. Either way, the stars were aligned for passionate boy-on-boy action.

Watching Him Suck Another Man’s Cock

By Cara Sutra: When I let my mind wander back to that night, it leaps straight to the heart of the action. My man's mouth pleasuring another man. Watching him suck another man's cock made for a fucking arousing sex memory; one I'd like to share with you today.

Invisalign Blowjob: My Kinky Teeth

By Cara Sutra: Dear Daddy: When I suck your cock with my Invisalign aligners in, I get all self-conscious. I never used to be self-conscious when I was sucking your cock. But somehow, an Invisalign blowjob makes everything different.

2017 Is The Year I Say No (A Surprisingly Positive Post)

By Cara Sutra: No is a negative word by definition. That’s not to say no can’t ever be positive, however*. Saying no to some things can mean saying yes to others, meaning more control over your life, a more manageable schedule and less stress. That’s my main goal this year, my new year’s resolution if you like. 2017 is the year I say NO.

Despair Over The Stench Of A Presidential Trump

By Cara Sutra: Shocked. Devastated. Emotionally drained. Physically wiped-out. Like many other people, I’m feeling the effects of a particularly grim year. We’ve lost so many creative, courageous and inspiring people from the world of media and the arts. The world barely has time to move on from one catastrophic happening before another tragedy, natural or man-made, strikes, bringing death but also terror and fear-inspired divisions among those left alive.

Self-Perception & Sex: How Do My Opinions Of Myself Affect My Sex Life?

By Cara Sutra: How I view myself has a big effect on my libido and, consequentially, on my sex life. Self-perception and sexuality is often discussed in sex advice articles, but I find that the majority of these simply focus on increasing your self-confidence in the bedroom so that you can enjoy sex more frequently, in more adventurous ways or just an improved sex life in general. I wanted to explore something beyond a crisis of confidence. How can the ebb and flow of self-perception alter desires towards and actions within masturbation and any shared sexual experiences?

How It Feels Watching Your Partner Fuck Someone Else

How would you feel if you saw your partner fuck someone else? I guess for many the answer would be colourful variants of pissed off. Catch 5 minutes of a daytime TV chat show to watch lie detector frenzies and accusations of cheating descend into all-out battle. The reality, when we add in consent and pre-discussion, is more complex and nuanced. A partner having sex with someone else doesn't always mean they're cheating on you or that you'll feel betrayed.

We’ve moved! Have you got my new address?

By Cara Sutra: A week ago we finally moved into our gorgeous new forever home. You probably already know this if you follow on Twitter or Facebook, and receive my weekly newsletter. It's taken every ounce of energy we had but finally, we’re in our new home. It really is feeling like home already, even though there's still a staggering amount of boxes to unpack (only half of them are full of sex toys, with just a few of the others containing shoes).

Pride Brighton 2016

By Cara Sutra: Pride has become an increasingly significant and strongly emotive movement for me. Not only are both my partner and I bisexual, we fall into the area of LGBTQ which is still incredibly misunderstood and which is surrounded by all sorts of ridiculous myths. I visited my first Pride last year and was delighted to be able to visit again this year - not just with my partner (and minnie also came along and drove us) but also with the elder of my two sons, who is 11.

Kink is a drug, and I’m chasing a higher high

By Cara Sutra: There have been so many suddenly shocked faces during my conversations over the past few years that I’m thinking perhaps I’m getting a bit immune to the typically taboo realm of kink and fetish. That moment when you realise everyone at the surrounding tables in a restaurant have fallen quiet as you’re openly discussing anal reaming...

I Don’t Feel Sexy Enough To Write A Sex Blog

By Cara Sutra: The sex blog genre is full of people writing about top shelf sexy stuff, whether it's their real life sex diaries or articulating mind-blowingly hot fantasies conjured by their beautifully perverse imaginations. But even when sex bloggers aren't writing, they're busy bonking super sexy strangers all day and posting pictures of their gorgeous bodies on social media for the world to admire. Right?

Foot Worship From My Slave Girl

Those excited dark pink nipples were proudly presented for my delectation. I took a moment to idly fantasise about reaching down and taking one in each finger and thumb and twisting them til she screamed. My cunt was already wet but now the wetness pooled at the inside of my thighs, then slowly spread to the latex material beneath my arse.

A Cock Sucking Story: How I Give Him A Blow Job

By Cara Sutra: Both his hands are in my hair now and I’m being bounced off his cock. He’s using the very deepest part of my throat as his personal wank sleeve – a fuck toy in which to dump his cum.

A Domme’s Fantasy: Your Submission

By Cara Sutra: Sometimes I wonder what it would be like if you were completely submissive to me. My mind tends to stray towards a sexual kinky fantasy - a Domme's fantasy. They're not talked about much, right? Usually all eyes are on the submissive - the submissive male, in the majority of FemDom - but what does a Domme dream about?
why I quit sugar went gluten free diet and stopped the pill

Why I Quit Sugar, Gluten & The Pill

I must admit, when I started to follow a gluten free diet at the start of January I didn’t think a) it would make all that much difference and b) that I’d be able to stick with it for long. I went gluten-free partly as a health inspired New Year’s Resolution and partly using the excuse of a fresh start after another belly-busting Christmas to somehow achieve a happier tummy.

New Year’s Resolutions 2016 – 10 Surprising Promises To Myself

During Christmas 2015 I had the chance to reflect and reassess what I’m exactly doing here, with my blog, in life. What my actual goals are and what I want to get out of the work I put into projects. With that in mind, and moving on from the harsh realities of the past year noted above (and taking a pinch of inspiration from this excellent New Year's Resolutions article by Hella Rude), I’ve written ten somewhat surprising promises to myself for the next year (and beyond) which will serve as my New Year’s Resolutions 2016.