Guest Posts

There's a wealth of fantastic guest posts here at the Cara Sutra sex blog which cover just as diverse an array of sexuality topics as my own sex tips and advice posts. These guest submissions are marked as such to help you differentiate between the different authors writing for the site.

Please note that I no longer accept or publish guest posts or similar sponsored content at Cara Sutra. 

Guest posts previously published here at Cara Sutra may be sponsored submissions, which doesn’t mean they’re any less interesting or valuable in terms of the sex advice and informative content they provide. These sponsored guest features cover subjects such as sex and masturbation tips, the use of sex dolls, dating, escorts and other sex work, adult product guides and general adult lifestyle pieces.

There are various submissions to the site which are non-sponsored, too. Some of my good friends in the adult industry are also talented sex writers, and they have kindly offered their insightful features to me to publish on the blog. These may be sexy stories, sex tips & advice, or BDSM articles providing the real kinkster point of view on the given topic.

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Long Distance Lovers: When Dirty Talk Is The Sex

By Cameryn Moore A lot of the advice out there about dirty talk treats it as a sort of accessory to “real sex”. It’s like putting a feather boa on: it’s all fun and tickly and exotic for maybe ten minutes, but at some point you’re gonna wanna tear it off because it’s getting in the way of the good stuff...

Movember: Sexual Health Education With Prostate Pleasure Workshops

By Jon Pressick Movember is again on us and you're going to start seeing the scraggly, the bushy, the unkempt and the styled. I'm not talking about the resurgence in bush, I'm referring to the mo's that will soon crawl across faces to mark this now annual tradition of awareness on prostate (and other) health concerns.

Why Most Women Secretly Want To Be An Escort

By Lauren Miller: What makes this such a popular fantasy? It may shock the faint at heart, but most women have a secret desire to take up the world's oldest profession. Yes, most women secretly want to be an escort. So what makes this fantasy so appealing?

Preaching To The Perverted: Sequel!

Great news for fans of the 1997 cult film Preaching to the Perverted: Writer/Director Stuart Urban has come with an idea of for a sequel - Tortured in the Orchard - and wants to explore it first in the form of a graphic novel which will help raise funds towards the making of the film.

How Do I Know if My Relationship is Over?

By Hella Rude Being in love can be one of the most exhilarating and all-encompassing feelings we get to experience as individuals. It can also be soul destroying when things start to go wrong, leading us to face some pretty difficult life decisions. It's hard to know when a relationship has run its course, emotions run high and a feeling of hopelessness can exasperate things further.

Busting The Myth: Is Sex Dating Just For Men?

Anyone who has tried sex dating will know that it is something that is enjoyed by the different genders; but yet there is still this conception that sex dating is really a man’s thing.

BDSM Relationship Advice For Parents

I hope you feel reassured to hear that many other people certainly do have problems maintaining any sort of intimacy when they start a family or have differing routines. And by intimacy I mean kink, “vanilla” sex, quickies, play – anything sexual. It all gets affected when people experience life changes, stress and time pressures.

What is Erotic ElectroStimulation and How Does it Feel?

By Hella Rude Prior to my introduction to Andy at Cyrex (ElectraStim's parent company), my knowledge of erotic electrostimulation (EES) was full of holes. I had an understanding of the physics surrounding the practice and I'd certainly used EES in my work as a dominatrix but I hadn't explored electrosex beyond the realms of external sensory play. My personal experience wasn't marrying with the interesting array of electrodes I was discovering, so being the curious-minded creature I am, I got in touch with Andy in regard to reviewing some of his products.

No Limits Slaves In BDSM

Are there any true no limits slaves in BDSM? Do zero limits submissives exist? We can't even blame 50 Shades of Grey for the idea of 'absolute submission', because it's been around for at least 30 years. And, while Anastasia Steele might be a vacant fumbletrumpet who appears to have reached adulthood without even knowing what an email is, she does dump Creepy Christian more than once and even answers back from time to time.

How To Write Spanking Into Your Sex Scenes | Erotic Writing Advice

Where is the spanking taking place? How easy will it be for the spankee to stay still? It’s these little details which will make your scene all the more realistic. If you want a long, session with the submissive in the same position you’re going to need to get them comfortable, if you want to up the stakes get them into more unusual positions, maybe on their toes or you could have them restrained (I’ve written something to help you with that) or resting somewhere a bit precarious.

How to Write Menage Erotica | Erotic Writing Tips & Advice

More is more, right? I’m definitely not a minimalist as the state of my living room would attest to but I’m also not minimal in my writing world either. Anyone who knows me will clarify how very good I am at waffling. So in stories it just makes sense that I’m going to write about more than just a one on one love story every now and then. Welcome to the wonderful world of menage erotica; threesomes, foursomes and as- many-as-you-can-manage-somes.

Woman On Top

The cultural tsunami that is 50 Shades may be partly responsible for the idea that all BDSM is about women’s longing for the ultimate Billionaire Bastard to tie them up and do terrible things to them but that trope’s been a bit of a problem for a while. In my own younger days, and early explorations of the fetish scene, kink was all about ‘Miss Whiplash’ and clubs were called things like Maitresse, Madame Venus and Domina.

Guide To Writing Paranormal Erotica – Write Spooky, Sexy Stories

Writing sex has its own challenges, check out my last post on what they are and how to overcome them. Today I’m upping the ante and adding in an element of fantasy. Not just the kinda thing you think about when you’re having solo fun time, no, I’m talking paranormal erotica and erotic romance.

The Casual Naughty Dater

People have different habits when it comes down to dating. Some look for a long-term life partner whilst others are just after a quick fling. That is because we are all individuals with needs which can vary from simple physical desires to more complex emotional ones. Most of the time our needs, wants and lusts all combine together into our personalities, determining what we are looking for when going out on that next date. Looking for love Who doesn’t want to be loved? Since the dawn of times, human beings have had the need for affection. The feeling of being adored by someone else makes us feel like a better person, and being able to reciprocate this emotion towards another person adds a sense of balance to our lives, as though it is something that is forever meant to be. The truth is that a lot of us often get confused between loving someone and being infatuated by someone. Some of us understand love to be a caring sensation, like the one we feel towards our parents who have looked after us our whole lives; whilst for others, love is more of an obsession; often linked to our emotional balance. Love is a very complex phenomenon and some believe it is what defines us as human beings.

How To Do Kegel Exercises With Ben Wa Balls

The good news is that getting the most out of your kegel exercisers is actually really easy. You just need to know how to do kegel exercises with Ben Wa balls (or whatever style you're using).

Some Useful facts About Adult Sex Dating

Well, now is the time to have a stiff something else - wink wink. Adult sex dating sites give horny Britons a safe place where they can explore their sexual fantasies, and if they want to, act them out in person with like minded men and women who are into the same things as they are.

8 Rules to Help You Get Over Your Ex

By Hella Rude Heartbreak is a big topic this Autumn, so I wanted to dedicate a blog to those of you saying 'so long' to a lover. It's not easy to overcome the biochemistry and mental exhaustion that floods you when you break up with your significant other, but you can make it easier on yourself by following my top 8 rules to help you get over your ex husband/wife/girlfriend/boyfriend/lover.

Sex Tech Patent Scuppers Cyber Sex Toys & Future Sex Tech

by Hella Rude This week has been more hectic than stressful than any I can remember in recent years. As a person who works with the adult retail sector across many levels, I have been hit hard by the recent uproar in sex tech patent trolling. If you haven't caught the story, a US patent filed in 1998 is set to shake up the sex toy world thanks to its obscure and frankly ridiculous patenting of any sex toy that stimulates remotely using a digital signal.

New Year, New You? – Hella’s Body and Mind Positive New Year Resolutions

By Hella Rude The first time I heard the phrase 'new year, new you' was during my first year working with Lovehoney. As someone who is blinkered to self-depreciating bollocks on the interwebs, this apparent cliche had managed to pass me by for my then 26 years. Since acknowledging the premise, my eyes have really been opened to how much consumerism can make you feel shit about yourself during the festive season...

Are Rabbit Vibrators a Good Way to Orgasm?

by Hella Rude Regardless of your anatomy, a good rabbit vibrator is able to simultaneously tickle your clit and massage your G-spot thanks to the flexible nature of rabbit ear stimulators. With plenty of power on standby (but the option to turn it down a notch to give you a good build-up) and a good set of flexible ears, you should find that rabbit vibrators give you fantastic climaxes.