By Cara Sutra: You're in the middle of sexy time, they're seeking out your hot spots with their fingers but suddenly... ouch. That's not sexy at all. Sometimes the course of good sex doesn't run smooth, and can in fact be a bit of a drag. That's where sexual lubricants can help out. Lube is your super smooth new best friend, and I'm going to help you navigate the seas of this often underrated sex essential.
When you're in a relationship, it can be so easy to slip into set daily routines which might not include quite as much spontaneity, frivolity and affection as when you were in your first flush of love. Life has a habit of popping up with all sorts of hurdles to a care-free, explorative love-life; family and/or work responsibilities or worrying over health or financial pressures can make the warm bond of relationship intimacy feel like a long-forgotten dream.
When it comes to buying your first sex toy, the sheer amount of different types of sex toys available can be completely bewildering. Nobody wants to part with their hard-earned cash for something which is either unsuitable for you or of questionable quality. For those new to the pleasures of sex toys, this advice guide should help you buy a first sex toy (or selection of sexy products) which will be suitable for your needs - giving you pleasure, not disappointment.
Introducing Rebecca Dakin, The Great British Sexpert: If your car breaks down, you call a mechanic. If you start getting worrying aches and pains, you call the doctor. It makes sense then, to call a relevant expert when problems arise in our relationships and sex lives. Someone who can give good advice and offer solutions based on experience and/or officially recognised qualifications.
It can be really overwhelming shopping for sex toys when you see just how many different styles, sizes, shapes, and materials there are - but this guide should help you narrow it down so you're spending your hard earned cash wisely.
By Cara Sutra: If you think that all sex begins and ends with penis-in-vagina, you are wrong on so many levels. And I'm talking about everyone there, but for the purposes of this article: especially women who love women, whether bisexual or lesbian. There are plenty of creative ways to tantalise and stimulate without resorting to the heteronormative, phallo-centric ideals society often loves to *ahem* thrust upon us. Yes, you can have amazing lesbian sex.
Shopping for sex toys on the high street isn’t as easy for everybody. What if you’re out shopping with your kids, or dad, or mother-in-law? What if that sex shop is right by where you work? What if you don’t want to head home, past the curtain-twitching neighbours, with a sex shop branded bag overflowing with anal beads, vibrating butt plugs and rabbit vibrators? Here’s the good news: you don’t have to.
The noises coming from the girls now could make you come just to hear it. It was making my cock surge and pulse listening to them enjoy each other so much. Letting my cock spring free of my boxers, I manoeuvred myself so I was behind the pair of them. I used Raven’s waist to steady me, my hands on her sensational curves, occasionally putting a hand down to guide me in. I needed to be inside my girl first.
She’d waxed and tanned and barely dressed, she’d courted darkness’ approach with a stilettoed dash through the twilight between taxi and apartment building, and now she stood facing her work for the evening. Average, she decided. From the postcode and the cut of the suit trousers he was wearing he definitely had the means to back up his demands. But first impression looks-wise? Average.
Money. We often don't have enough of it to do what we want, and most people's lives include an element of trying to get more. Usually this is to cover at least the expense of everyday life, sometimes for a specific ambition or dream. That designer dress, the car that caught your eye on the forecourt, the deposit for your first home.
Luxury sex toys offer their owners reliability instead of a quick and often disappointing buzz which fizzles faster than pound shop batteries. Luxury toys last for many years, are made from tested body safe materials, often come with a satisfaction and manufacturing quality guarantee and therefore lead to worry-free masturbation and sex.
What's your opinion of people who use sex toys? The sex toy industry is booming, so it must be true what they say: sex sells. At least, it does to those people who confidently explore the different sensations that sex toys offer. Not everyone feels able to to stalk into a high street sex shop and brazenly thrust armfuls of rabbit vibrators and butt plugs at the cashier.
MysteryVibe definitely aren't your run-of-the-mill sex toy manufacturer. With the focus squarely on individuality and a sensual but body safe design, MysteryVibe genuinely care about the intensity of your pleasure experience using their creation. They create sex toys which are intuitive and offer multi-layered stimulation which can be tailored to your unique sexual desires. MysteryVibe's startlingly brilliant new product is called Crescendo. Already attracting plenty of interest from both the adult and mainstream press, Crescendo by MysteryVibe incorporates all the features that sex toy connoisseurs have been waiting for.
The streaming water hit my naked skin hard, hot and cathartic. I stood under the shower and enjoyed having time to focus on the night's plans. I lathered up, letting my hands roam over my breasts, soapy fingers sliding over my nipples. The job was different from usual. A woman this time. I'd fucked plenty of women before of course, but what was unusual was a woman actually paying for me to come do it. My usual clients were men of all ages, income, shape and size. I turned the prospect of a new job, this new client, over in my mind. Did it really matter? No. Fuck, I was actually looking forward to it. My fingers roamed in their cleaning duty, sliding between my legs to where my excitement had gathered along with the streaming lather under the steamy water. The temptation to toss myself off right then and there in the shower was strong but I managed to just about keep a hold of myself. Clients could always tell if you were genuinely turned on, and were more likely to rebook an enthusiastic girl. Might as well use that sex drive for her leisure turned business pursuit. My strong libido was such a great earner. There hadn't been much on the email that came through about the job. Gender, obviously, and I'd quickly replied that no, a woman wasn't a problem, I'd told them I was bisexual when I joined. Age, 26. Younger than me but old enough. Clean bill of sex health. Something I was glad I insisted on being checked before any client call. Address. I'd booked a taxi which was due to pick me up in less than an hour. I'd better quick-step it out of the shower if I wanted to be dried and dressed in time.
Sex toy shopping websites. You’ve seen them, you’ve visited them, and you probably have your favourites bookmarked. I’m here to tell you about a serious new player to town which puts those regular and boring shops in the shade: Love Curiosity.
I’m here to put your fears to bed about some of the more unusual materials sex toys can be made from. It may surprise you to learn that not all vibrators and dildos are made from flexible materials such as jelly, silicone or PVC. Perhaps you’ve never seen any other type of sex toy than the ‘bendy’ sort. In reality, there’s a whole world of alternative materials to get to grips with, each with their own unique appeal and other advantages. There is a wealth of choice when it comes to dildos made from rigid materials (ie. those which don’t bend). Specialist sex toy shops might even sell wooden dildos or perhaps they’ve gone positively primitive with a (body-safe and smooth) stone dildo offering. Unlike a few decades ago, where anything other than jelly sex toys were unheard of, even mainstream sex shops are now selling rigid material sex toys. The most common materials for rigid sex toys are ceramic, metal and glass.
So what does the future of social connectivity mean to me? I’m in a different position to those seeking a way to connect with their lover or the target of their seduction techniques over long distance. I live with my partner so we are fortunate to be able to maintain a regular and exciting sex life skin to skin, lips to lips, fingers in hair, and… well. I’ll leave that to your imagination for now. However, not everyone is able to live with their partner, or see their fuck buddy very often, or even live in the same country as the one they lust after. What then?
By Cara Sutra: Do women-specific lubricants really matter? When you first realise that what your sex life needs is a little more glide, you will doubtless turn to sex lubricants to transform that dry chafe into sexy friction. It’s only when you start shopping for lubricants (at a well stocked online sex shop as Lubezilla) that you begin to realise that this task isn’t as simple as you’d first imagined.
You will need a main unit (known as the stimulator) to deliver the electric current. These are usually the basis of a starter kit, such as the ElectraStim Flick EM60-E Electro Stimulation Pack. This stimulator offers 24 intensity settings so you can increase the power in line with your desires. There is also the option to receive or deliver to a partner rhythmic stimulation in line with the movement of your hand. The ElectraStim Flick costs just £99 and comes with full instructions and electro pads so that you can get started right away. The ElectraStim SensaVox EM140 High Spec Stimulator (£299) is for those looking for a more advanced kit and experience. Not only are there an amazing 99 intensity levels, there’s also 9 pre-programmed patterns to enjoy. You can use SensaVox to create sophisticated stimulation patterns using either the included microphone or by feeding audio directly into the stimulator. The soundwaves are translated into a stimulation beat that rises and falls in sympathy with the audio, teasing and tantalising you with sensations that can be modified to match your desires.
Couples who prioritise romance are eager to select that perfect Christmas gift, which is why I’m so pleased to be able to provide this extensive sexy gift guide to help you through the festive shopping season.