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Enjoy reading educational and enjoyable sex articles at the Cara Sutra sex blog. If you have a sex related interest, query or worry, have a look through the archives and find out more about your chosen subject. We're not shy here at CSHQ so prepare yourself for revealing takes on all aspects of sexuality. Themes covered include masturbation, dating and relationships, introducing kink into your sex life, which sex toys are best for you and gender & sexuality diversity. These sex positive articles are entertaining as well as educational, balancing a light approachable tone with an in depth look at the heart of sex and sexuality.

Strap On Sex Tips: How A Woman Can Get Pleasure From Pegging

For those who haven’t heard of it before, pegging involves a heterosexual (or bisexual) man being anally penetrated by a female wearing a strap on dildo. Described as one of the most fulfilling and intimate experiences that a couple can engage in, pegging and harness play is a practice which continues to go from strength to strength. During pegging, the focus often centers on the pleasure of the male recipient. However, in this article I’d like to focus on female pleasure too.

Why I Hate Vibrating Cock Rings (& What We Use Instead)

If you're a regular sex toy shopper, you'll have noticed vibrating cock rings amongst the offerings for men and couples. Vibrating cock rings are designed to offer penis-owners the pleasure of vibration, as well as the tantalising restriction which encourages a firmer, longer lasting erection.

Watching Him Suck Another Man’s Cock

By Cara Sutra: When I let my mind wander back to that night, it leaps straight to the heart of the action. My man's mouth pleasuring another man. Watching him suck another man's cock made for a fucking arousing sex memory; one I'd like to share with you today.

Keyholding Services: When DIY Chastity Gets Too Hard

By Cara Sutra: I've written various articles on the subject. What I get out of locking a guy up in a chastity cage. Female chastity. Slaves have written their experiences, and there are several chastity device reviews. This year, I'm focusing on Keyholding services.

The Sounds of Pleasure: Ruffled Sheets Guide to Urethral Sounding

By Ruffled Sheets: You want me to stick that, a long metal spike, in... where? That's what most people think when they're told about sounding. Or, to be more descriptive, urethral sounding, the act of stimulating the inside of the urethra with long, thin implements. It may 'sound' scary (sorry), but it really isn't. In fact, it's a lot of fun and immensely pleasurable.

His Journey To Cocksucking

By Edward Cantor: In a way, my trip could be described as crossing the ocean just to be taken. It wasn’t really that simple, but it was a rather fun way to think of it.

How Can I Join The Pleasure Panel? I Want To Be A Sex Toy Tester!

If you would like to be a sex toy tester, reviewing sex toys & other adult products, the Pleasure Panel project and community is where it's at. It doesn't matter if you have your own sex blog or not, sex bloggers and sex toy fans without a blog are welcome to join.

Tips For Beginners To BDSM And Bondage

The enduring popularity of BDSM cannot be attributed in its entirety to the relatively recent appearance of Fifty Shades Of Grey, no matter how much the media would love for that to be the case. Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism are all power exchange activities, either including sex or entirely and deliberately absent of it, which have been practiced for centuries.

The Best Sex Toys To Use For Amazing Lesbian Sex

By Cara Sutra: If you think that all sex begins and ends with penis-in-vagina, you are wrong on so many levels. And I'm talking about everyone there, but for the purposes of this article: especially women who love women, whether bisexual or lesbian. There are plenty of creative ways to tantalise and stimulate without resorting to the heteronormative, phallo-centric ideals society often loves to *ahem* thrust upon us. Yes, you can have amazing lesbian sex.

What is a Female Led Relationship really like?

By Giles English I'm typing this wearing a male chastity device and I don't get an orgasm until Monday. We haven’t had penetrative sex for a couple of years, but I do get regular beatings depending on how many demerits I’ve clocked up. Oh and Xena once made me go for 152 days without an orgasm… And Xena’s in charge.

Beginner’s Guide To Anal Sex Toys & Butt Plugs

By Cara Sutra: Bums. Everyone has one, and very useful they are too. Our undervalued derrières not only house the exit which keeps our bodies functioning healthily, but offer comfortable padding when we need to take the weight off our feet. Did you realise that your bottom also has the potential to give you incredible pleasure, as well as a mere sigh of relief any time you sit down?

Why Can’t I Keep My Butt Plug In? How Long Can I Wear An...

By Hella Rude Try to get used to wearing the plug and allow yourself to forget about it. Pop it in, stick on a movie and veg out. Just relax and do nothing at all. You want to clear your mind of any sexy thoughts and just stop thinking about it. Your body will relax around it and start to get used to it being there, just give it time to acclimatise to the sensations. Lots of people find that when they forget the plug's there, keeping it in is easy work.

BDSM & FemDom Advice: What being a Mistress Really Means

Don't make the mistake that many do: a Mistress is very different to a Dominatrix or a session Domme. Unlike ladies who Dominate or Top for a session, a Mistress owns her property over the long term and the power exchange is not necessarily limited to the dungeon environment.

Who Wants Freebies?

By Cara Sutra: We all do. Everyone loves freebies, and no matter really want it is, we all want that something for free. Why pay when you can get it for nothing?

Is It Safe To Insert Sex Toys All The Way Into My Vagina?

By Cara Sutra: A sex question I get asked fairly regularly is, “Is it safe to insert sex toys all the way into my vagina?” Let's take a look at the facts…

Best Slim Vibrators For Small Vaginas

By Cara Sutra: I must admit that when I look at vibrator features, size doesn't really register. I'm one of those women who assumes that vaginal vibrators are made in, well, vagina size. If they're tiddly then they might be more of a clit stim for me.

How can I get free sex toys & become a sex toys tester?

Once you have established which people are the leaders in the sex toy reviews and sex toy shopping fields, you may wish to send a couple of polite (not demanding) emails asking for any help and advice that the person or company can spare time for. Example questions you may ask another reviewer are, “Which companies do you recommend approaching for a newbie toy reviewer?” and “What are your top tips for writing great sex toy reviews?” Questions you may like to approach sex toy companies with, to their customer care email or similar, are “Do you have any community schemes in place for sex toy reviewers?” and “Are there any products you are seeking honest, well written reviews for at the moment?” Avoid begging for free sex toys or making demands for high priced products; this screams ‘greedy’ and ‘newbie’ and may well dissuade the company from working with you right from the start.

Best Tools for Corporal Punishment & Spanking

By Cara Sutra: So you want to get hitty with it? Has Fifty Shades of Grey got you all fired up for a bit of corporal punishment? Or do you hate absolutely everything 50 Shades and want to ‘do it properly’?

My Deserved Punishment From Mistress

I'd taken far too long to complete the last task I'd been given, and my Mistress was very displeased with me. Despite my begging and pleading, and my grovelling apology, I got the impression Mistress was deliberately making me wait before announcing her chosen punishment.

When A Rough Sex Session Leaves You With Kinky Bruises & Bite Marks

Kinky bruises and bite marks - how do you feel about them? Like so many parts of BDSM, opinion is divided on whether being left with bruises, scratches, bite marks etc is a good way or a bad way to end a scene or rough sex session with your partner.