Monday, November 18, 2019

Sex Toy Advice

Sex toy shopping can be exciting, exhilarating, fantasy-inducing… and confusing. There are just so many sex toys available these days, with improvements added and different styles being created all the time. That’s why I’ve written these sex toy advice articles here at the Cara Sutra sex blog.

First of all, do you really need sex toys? Adult products are more of a desirable accessory than a need, and they’re most definitely not a replacement for sex. Nobody should feel ashamed about their sex toy use, or threatened because their partner enjoys using them. Hell, there are even plenty of couples sex toys available which heighten the pleasure levels for both partners during intimacy. So even though toys might not be a need or pre-requisite for having sexy fun, they’re an incredibly enjoyable bonus feature. Think of them like ticking the ‘added fun’ box on your sexual take-out order.

Next, consider what type of sex toy would be best for you. There are many different types: vibrating, static, large, small, flexible, rigid, for vaginal, clitoral, anal and erogenous zone stimulation. Then there is the material it’s made of to consider. Some materials are full body-safe for internal and external use, others are toxic and could cause allergic reactions, irritation or worse. What does porous and non-porous mean? What are phthalates? Does any of this really matter when considering which sex toy to buy and try?

Find out all of the above and more in my sex toy advice articles here on the blog.

Which anal desensitising lube would you recommend?

If you use a desensitising lubricant or gel for anal sex or using anal sex toys, you won’t be able to tell how much damage you’re causing yourself. So why do they sell anal desensitising products? Because there’s a demand for them. You can also go out and buy a willy warmer, but it won’t serve any great purpose. Unlike anal desensitisers though, a willy warmer hopefully won’t lead to risks of anal entrance tears or internal damage.

Lessons in Lube: Your complete guide to sexual lubricants

Choosing the right lubricant for you and your partner can be an absolutely mind-boggling task. There is such a vast array of lubes to choose from, you could be stumped before you get started. Why are there so many different types? It’s just lube, right? Well, not quite.

New Fantasy By Cara Sutra Bondage Kit Ends The Long Reign Of Grey

By Cara Sutra: Did you know that the Fantasy by Cara Sutra Bondage Kit is now available to buy? You can now buy your 8 piece bondage set from Amazon and the fabulously edgy online sex shop, UberKinky. Plus, a whole host of other stockists will be added over the coming weeks (darn the paperwork!).

Beginner’s Guide to Bondage Sex Toys And Fetish Gear

By Cara Sutra: There’s quite a bit of confusion even in seasoned sex toys circles about what certain terms refer to regarding bondage sex toys and fetish gear. For this week’s Fetish Friday, I want to help clear up some of that confusion - with this handy guide.

Thinking of writing a sex toy review? 10 things to remember

Always disclose that you received the product free of charge from the company in exchange for a fair, honest and unbiased review. Make sure that your thoughts and feelings are expressed in terms of your own opinion and based on your own experience. For instance instead of stating that product x is ‘unsuitable for all women as it’s entirely rubbish’, you may instead choose to write that product x ‘didn’t work for me and I can think of many ways in which it could be improved to suit me personally’.

Guide to Glass Sex Toys: Are Glass Dildos Safe To Use?

A question I get asked often is "Are glass dildos safe to use?" Hopefully the below Q&A will lay some myths about glass sex toys to rest and provide some ideas about glass dildos you might like to try.

What is Erotic ElectroStimulation and How Does it Feel?

By Hella Rude Prior to my introduction to Andy at Cyrex (ElectraStim's parent company), my knowledge of erotic electrostimulation (EES) was full of holes. I had an understanding of the physics surrounding the practice and I'd certainly used EES in my work as a dominatrix but I hadn't explored electrosex beyond the realms of external sensory play. My personal experience wasn't marrying with the interesting array of electrodes I was discovering, so being the curious-minded creature I am, I got in touch with Andy in regard to reviewing some of his products.

Fantasy by Cara Sutra: behind the scenes of the new bondage range

...I have an interest both in sex toys - well, adult products - as well as fetish. With the recent surge in popularity in bondage (thanks Fifty Shades of Grey), it made complete sense to

Perfect Sexy Christmas Gifts: My Best Sex Toys 2013

It's that time of year again, when thoughts turn to the perfect sexy Christmas gifts for your lovers, partners, husband, wife - or the flirty office starlet who you're pretty sure has been catching your eye all year. You've got plans for the Christmas office party, that's for sure.

BDSM & FemDom Advice: Toybox Tales – Fetish Gear Essentials

Each individual is different, both in vanilla life and in BDSM. Therefore, the scope of equipment which can be found is growing all the time in relation to the fetishes of Dominants and submissives. Toilet style thrones, Queening chairs, humbler devices, pony boy and pony girl saddles, trappings and carts, furry fetish play and costumes, sensory deprivation hoods and masks... the list continues as far as, and beyond where your imagination can reach. From the small and portable hog tie to the largest piece of bondage equipment and dungeon furniture, there are fetish tools to fit your deviant fancy.

Cara Sutra writes for Adult Toys UK: My Top Ten Bondage Essentials

"A mouth gag makes the one playing the role of the submissive owned party feel even more controlled and vulnerable, they also stop much of the noise that the person may emit during a spanking or ‘sexy punishment’ session as well as making the gagged person look even more appealing and corruptible for the one in position of Dominance and control."

Best large body-safe and phthalates free dildo?

I have crucified the old dildo on a cross and am now searching for the perfect one. I like realistic dildos or I have seen some alien dildos, but what would you recommend for 8-9 inches that will be as safe, clean and hassle free as possible.

What’s the best, large strap on for strap-on sex?

Hi Cara, As you appear to be a bit of an expert in this department, I was wondering whether you could recommend a decent, large strap-on for pegging (or in my case being pegged)? At...

Ask Cara: Is it safe to fuck myself with high heels?

Dear Cara, I have quite a worrying obsession with my girlfriend's shoes. She doesn't know, but every time she's out and I'm left in the house I have to fuck myself in the ass with...

Will Anal Sex Toys Make Me Gay? | Men’s Sex Health

A man who enjoys using a butt plug. Does that notion conjures up any homosexual connotations for you? Then you have fallen prey to one of the most common and persistent sexuality myths. When it comes to men's sex health, a surprising number of guys are questioning, "will anal sex toys make me gay?"

60 Day Vibe Chastity: The Route Back To Manual Orgasm

By Cara Sutra: Why am I talking about a 60 day vibe chastity challenge? After reviewing the Palm Power Wand earlier today, an interesting point came up in convo on Twitter. A fellow blogger's personal route back to a manual orgasm only came after a set time away from vibrating sex toys. I must confess that I do find it difficult to orgasm without the help of vibrations against my clitoris these days, if not impossible.

Lovehoney Gift Vouchers – Perfect Sexy Gifts For Everyone

Good news for sex toys fans - multi award winning online sex shop Lovehoney now offer gift vouchers so that you can be sure you're getting the best romantic gift for him or her on any occasion. Lovehoney gift vouchers are sent electronically and can be spent instantly on the Lovehoney sex toys website or gifted to someone special so they can enjoy a sexy shopping spree.

Budget For Love This Valentine’s Day With Bondara

Every year, it seems that no sooner have we packed away the Christmas baubles and swept away the New Year’s streamers, it’s time for Valentine’s Day. Cue a surge of panic. What should you get your lover? Where should you even start looking?

Now That’s What I Call Smart Phone Sex

We've all at one point had that urge where your partner's away on business for a few days and you're lying in bed feeling frisky just at the sound of their voice. So what do you do - give them a ring and have them talk dirty whilst you reach for the sex toy in the bedside drawer?

Can You Get Jiggle Balls for Men?

By Hella Rude You can opt for the real jiggle ball experience as a man, you just have to be willing to experiment with a little anal play. Jiggle balls and Ben Wa balls are actually modelled on pelvic floor exercisers or PC muscle toners, articles designed to tone the pelvic floor region in women. A sexy side effect of these pleasure balls is G-spot massage and the potential for orgasm.