Sunday, December 15, 2019

Sex Toy Advice

Sex toy shopping can be exciting, exhilarating, fantasy-inducing… and confusing. There are just so many sex toys available these days, with improvements added and different styles being created all the time. That’s why I’ve written these sex toy advice articles here at the Cara Sutra sex blog.

First of all, do you really need sex toys? Adult products are more of a desirable accessory than a need, and they’re most definitely not a replacement for sex. Nobody should feel ashamed about their sex toy use, or threatened because their partner enjoys using them. Hell, there are even plenty of couples sex toys available which heighten the pleasure levels for both partners during intimacy. So even though toys might not be a need or pre-requisite for having sexy fun, they’re an incredibly enjoyable bonus feature. Think of them like ticking the ‘added fun’ box on your sexual take-out order.

Next, consider what type of sex toy would be best for you. There are many different types: vibrating, static, large, small, flexible, rigid, for vaginal, clitoral, anal and erogenous zone stimulation. Then there is the material it’s made of to consider. Some materials are full body-safe for internal and external use, others are toxic and could cause allergic reactions, irritation or worse. What does porous and non-porous mean? What are phthalates? Does any of this really matter when considering which sex toy to buy and try?

Find out all of the above and more in my sex toy advice articles here on the blog.

Busting popular myths about ceramic, metal and glass dildos

I’m here to put your fears to bed about some of the more unusual materials sex toys can be made from. It may surprise you to learn that not all vibrators and dildos are made from flexible materials such as jelly, silicone or PVC. Perhaps you’ve never seen any other type of sex toy than the ‘bendy’ sort. In reality, there’s a whole world of alternative materials to get to grips with, each with their own unique appeal and other advantages. There is a wealth of choice when it comes to dildos made from rigid materials (ie. those which don’t bend). Specialist sex toy shops might even sell wooden dildos or perhaps they’ve gone positively primitive with a (body-safe and smooth) stone dildo offering. Unlike a few decades ago, where anything other than jelly sex toys were unheard of, even mainstream sex shops are now selling rigid material sex toys. The most common materials for rigid sex toys are ceramic, metal and glass.

Why Do Sex Shops Still Sell Gender Categorised Sex Toys?

By Cara Sutra: The majority of online sex shops still sell gender categorised sex toys. In an admittedly slow to change world where education about the existence of people outside of the gender binary is on the increase, should sex shops really still sell sex toys in this way?

The ETO Show & Awards 2015 Report

It's over a week since I returned from the annual ETO Show at Birmingham's NEC and I don't think I've come back to earth just yet. As usual, the ETO Magazine team put on a spectacular adult industry trade show, with a gala dinner and awards presentation in the middle of the two days to celebrate the best in the biz.

Beginner’s Guide To Sexual Lubricants

By Cara Sutra: You're in the middle of sexy time, they're seeking out your hot spots with their fingers but suddenly... ouch. That's not sexy at all. Sometimes the course of good sex doesn't run smooth, and can in fact be a bit of a drag. That's where sexual lubricants can help out. Lube is your super smooth new best friend, and I'm going to help you navigate the seas of this often underrated sex essential.

ETO Show 2014 Part Four: Monday with a Friday Flavour, Day Two

Oh, did I feel smug on Monday morning. No, not the award - which I was still in shock about - but the lack of hangover! With a smiley face and a clear head I reflected on this day a year before, when I had been so ill from the afterparty that I hadn’t been able to get up from bed until checkout time. In fact if I’d had my way I wouldn’t have left the bed for about 4 days, that’s how ruined I was. I’d sworn not to do that again, and despite worrying that a hangover was somehow inevitable with the ETO Show Awards, I’d avoided the usual after party punishment.

Can You Make Your Own Sex Toys At Home?

When the budget's stretched thin it's sensible to cut costs by cutting out luxuries. And I'd wager that most people view sex toys as a luxury. With the popularity of crafting, plus incentives to be eco-friendly wherever possible, it could be tempting to try and make your own sex toys at home.

8 Ways To Sex Up Your Christmas

By Cara Sutra: Christmas isn’t intrinsically sexy. The focus is on the home: gathering relatives and friends for a family closeness that often only happens this time of year. Traditional scenes of baking biscuits, sipping chocolate topped with cream and marshmallows and enjoying their excited little faces all aglow doesn’t exactly scream wanton and passionate romps with your partner. Let’s not miss an opportunity for adult mischief, though. I’ve got a few ideas to help make Christmas sexy for couples and get your name so indelibly on Santa’s naughty list he’ll only visit to deliver an over the knee spanking.

Which anal desensitising lube would you recommend?

If you use a desensitising lubricant or gel for anal sex or using anal sex toys, you won’t be able to tell how much damage you’re causing yourself. So why do they sell anal desensitising products? Because there’s a demand for them. You can also go out and buy a willy warmer, but it won’t serve any great purpose. Unlike anal desensitisers though, a willy warmer hopefully won’t lead to risks of anal entrance tears or internal damage.

Why you need to be a part of BlogSpot at the ETO Show 2016

The BlogSpot area at the UK’s annual premier adult industry trade show (the ETO Show) is devoted to sex bloggers and sex toy testers. The first BlogSpot was at the ETO Show 2015.

Using Sex Toys While Reading Erotic Books

By Cara Sutra: Yeah, I know. You’ve already heard all the sex toy tips you’ll ever need, along with a couple of hundred that you’ll never even use. Now, a lot of advice on using sex toys while reading erotic books. Hopefully, you’ve been drawn to this article because of your interest in erotic books. Maybe you write them. Perhaps you’re an avid smut reader. Either way, you’re an erotica lover.

Are There Any Cheap Sex Toys For Couples To Use Together?

We've been looking for some sex toys my man and I can use together for some time now. The We-Vibe family and the LELO Tiani styles are all very well but a little expensive for us right now. Aren't there any cheap sex toys for couples to use together or are we destined for side by side masturbation if we want to use toys?

Edible Underwear: Are Sexy Edibles Perfect Cheap Romantic Gifts? 

Buyer's guide sexy edibles & edible underwear spotlight: What are these cheap novelties really like? Are they a great sexy stocking filler for your partner or funny Secret Santa gift for office colleagues?

Who Uses Penis Extensions And Why? (Also Known As Cock Sheaths Or Hollow Strap...

Unlike some people tend to think, penis extenders are not only for those that are insecure about their penis size. This type of product can actually be used in all sorts of different ways and are created to enhance your sexual experience with your partner, no matter the size of your penis.

The Lowdown On Penis Head Pumps

In your search for the perfect penis pump, you have probably come across a penis head pump and wondered what the hell it was for. Well, these pumps actually have a lot of benefits and they can be a lot of fun to use too. They will give you increased stamina, a larger penis, a more sensitive head and they might just make you orgasm in the process too. Want to know more? Yeah, you do!

Pleasure Panel Program Now Exclusively For Patrons

Pleasure Panel Program Change: Now Exclusively For Patrons In recent months –and I mean from well before Christmas 2017- I have been considering how to ensure that the popular and beneficial Pleasure Panel program continues. Right now the...

Fantasy by Cara Sutra: behind the scenes of the new bondage range

...I have an interest both in sex toys - well, adult products - as well as fetish. With the recent surge in popularity in bondage (thanks Fifty Shades of Grey), it made complete sense to

How to buy your first sex toy

How to buy your first sex toy So, you’ve heard a lot about these ‘sex toys’, right? Don’t worry; I am not going to sell you a dodgy length of battery powered rubber cloaked by...

Your Guide To The Best Bondage Sex Toys & Fetish Gear

By Cara Sutra: When you begin shopping for bondage sex toys, the sheer amount of fetish accessories and variety of kinky restraints can be overwhelming and a little intimidating. You may not know where to begin, and might not even know what some of these strange but fascinating objects are used for. In this guide my aim is to remove any element of mystery from these often perceived as mysterious items - and help you welcome an exciting new dimension to your sex life.

What Is The Pleasure Panel?

Cara Sutra: Whether you're a business or a blogger, I hope you'll take a look at my new initiative. It's called the Pleasure Panel and it's been created to bring even more adult product reviews to CaraSutra.com.

Spring clean your sex life and try something new

By Cara Sutra: As the weather turns warmer and brighter (long may it last) and the season rolls round to spring, thoughts do tend to turn towards spring cleaning. It’s in our nature. Spring is a time for new beginnings, fresh starts – whether that’s finally sorting out the cupboard under the stairs or taking all the old trash in the garage to the tip, finally. Perhaps this is the year you get rid of the worn out Christmas decorations and promise yourself you’ll be sensible and buy new ones in good time for December’s festivities.