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Sex Toy Advice

Sex toy shopping can be exciting, exhilarating, fantasy-inducing… and confusing. There are just so many sex toys available these days, with improvements added and different styles being created all the time. That’s why I’ve written these sex toy advice articles here at the Cara Sutra sex blog.

First of all, do you really need sex toys? Adult products are more of a desirable accessory than a need, and they’re most definitely not a replacement for sex. Nobody should feel ashamed about their sex toy use, or threatened because their partner enjoys using them. Hell, there are even plenty of couples sex toys available which heighten the pleasure levels for both partners during intimacy. So even though toys might not be a need or pre-requisite for having sexy fun, they’re an incredibly enjoyable bonus feature. Think of them like ticking the ‘added fun’ box on your sexual take-out order.

Next, consider what type of sex toy would be best for you. There are many different types: vibrating, static, large, small, flexible, rigid, for vaginal, clitoral, anal and erogenous zone stimulation. Then there is the material it’s made of to consider. Some materials are full body-safe for internal and external use, others are toxic and could cause allergic reactions, irritation or worse. What does porous and non-porous mean? What are phthalates? Does any of this really matter when considering which sex toy to buy and try?

Find out all of the above and more in my sex toy advice articles here on the blog.

Best Powerful Vibrators For Extra Strong Orgasms

Happy National Orgasm Day 2018! It's difficult to believe it's been a year already since the last National Orgasm Day – the year has just flown. In the past I've written about the sounds of an orgasm, the importance (or not) of simultaneous orgasms, about not being able to orgasm through oral sex and about having orgasms while I'm asleep. As many of my orgasms are helped along a little bit (OK, a lot) by sex toys, today I want to discuss some of my favourites. The toys which are, for me, the best powerful vibrators for extra strong orgasms.

Enjoying Sex Furniture When You Don’t Have A Sex Dungeon

Visiting a venue with a range of sex furniture to experiment on and enjoy is something that most of us rarely get the opportunity to experience. Although sex furniture is becoming more affordable for people to consider buying and enjoying at home, there’s still one important issue to consider before you splash the cash. The big issue of… space.

List of Shame: The 10 sex toys which need forcing into retirement

I know you all wonder about the dark side of my sex toy collection and for once I don't mean bondage restraints. The ones that sadly, didn't get (chucked) away. The toys which have brought me to tears of frustration. The toys which have made me grip the sheets harder as I bite back the venom which threatens to tumble forth as I search for the right button. The toys which have made me scream - in agony.

The rise of the sex toy subscription box, and why it’s such a difficult...

By Cara Sutra: Sex toy subscription boxes have been rising in visibility over the past few years, at least that’s how it seems to me. Several years back a new sex toy subscription box service would launch once a year, then it steadily rose to two or three new ones a year and over the past year it seems to be every few months that a new adult subscription box service has launched.

Thinking of writing a sex toy review? 10 things to remember

Always disclose that you received the product free of charge from the company in exchange for a fair, honest and unbiased review. Make sure that your thoughts and feelings are expressed in terms of your own opinion and based on your own experience. For instance instead of stating that product x is ‘unsuitable for all women as it’s entirely rubbish’, you may instead choose to write that product x ‘didn’t work for me and I can think of many ways in which it could be improved to suit me personally’.

10 Ways Sex Toys Can Help Increase Relationship Intimacy

When you're in a relationship, it can be so easy to slip into set daily routines which might not include quite as much spontaneity, frivolity and affection as when you were in your first flush of love. Life has a habit of popping up with all sorts of hurdles to a care-free, explorative love-life; family and/or work responsibilities or worrying over health or financial pressures can make the warm bond of relationship intimacy feel like a long-forgotten dream.

Perfect Sexy Christmas Gifts: My Best Sex Toys 2013

It's that time of year again, when thoughts turn to the perfect sexy Christmas gifts for your lovers, partners, husband, wife - or the flirty office starlet who you're pretty sure has been catching your eye all year. You've got plans for the Christmas office party, that's for sure.

BDSM & FemDom Advice: Toybox Tales – Fetish Gear Essentials

Each individual is different, both in vanilla life and in BDSM. Therefore, the scope of equipment which can be found is growing all the time in relation to the fetishes of Dominants and submissives. Toilet style thrones, Queening chairs, humbler devices, pony boy and pony girl saddles, trappings and carts, furry fetish play and costumes, sensory deprivation hoods and masks... the list continues as far as, and beyond where your imagination can reach. From the small and portable hog tie to the largest piece of bondage equipment and dungeon furniture, there are fetish tools to fit your deviant fancy.

Q&A: Looking for a good quality bondage hogtie to use with my partner?

By Cara Sutra: Please help! My partner and I are looking for a decent wrist/ankle restraint to enjoy a bondage hogtie or reverse hogtie situation, so I can be on my back legs spread and which gives her full access to my cock and balls.

How to buy your first sex toy

How to buy your first sex toy So, you’ve heard a lot about these ‘sex toys’, right? Don’t worry; I am not going to sell you a dodgy length of battery powered rubber cloaked by...

What’s the best beginner anal sex toy for a man?

I'm male and I want to buy some toys for anal training. However, other than fingers, nothing else has successfully penetrated me there. I'm wondering what's the best beginner anal sex toy for a man? What kind of thickness would be advisable to look at? Also do you recommend inflatable or solid form?

Is It Safe To Insert Sex Toys All The Way Into My Vagina?

By Cara Sutra: A sex question I get asked fairly regularly is, “Is it safe to insert sex toys all the way into my vagina?” Let's take a look at the facts…

Who Uses Penis Extensions And Why? (Also Known As Cock Sheaths Or Hollow Strap...

Unlike some people tend to think, penis extenders are not only for those that are insecure about their penis size. This type of product can actually be used in all sorts of different ways and are created to enhance your sexual experience with your partner, no matter the size of your penis.

10 Reasons Why I Love Clit Vibrators So Hard

By Cara Sutra: One of the most common questions I get asked about sex toys is, “what is the best vibrator?” While it’s impossible for me to select the perfect vibrator for everyone, as we’re all unique, I can certainly tell you about the sex toys which work for me.

Busting popular myths about ceramic, metal and glass dildos

I’m here to put your fears to bed about some of the more unusual materials sex toys can be made from. It may surprise you to learn that not all vibrators and dildos are made from flexible materials such as jelly, silicone or PVC. Perhaps you’ve never seen any other type of sex toy than the ‘bendy’ sort. In reality, there’s a whole world of alternative materials to get to grips with, each with their own unique appeal and other advantages. There is a wealth of choice when it comes to dildos made from rigid materials (ie. those which don’t bend). Specialist sex toy shops might even sell wooden dildos or perhaps they’ve gone positively primitive with a (body-safe and smooth) stone dildo offering. Unlike a few decades ago, where anything other than jelly sex toys were unheard of, even mainstream sex shops are now selling rigid material sex toys. The most common materials for rigid sex toys are ceramic, metal and glass.

Sex Up Your Suitcase: What To Pack For A Sexy Summer Holiday

By Cara Sutra: Gazing through the rain spattered window into the wet gloom this morning, it seems a cruel joke of nature that our summer officially started yesterday. Despite the evidence, thoughts are turning to a traditionally hot summer, with adverts for BBQs, barbecue food, garden furniture and the like reminding us of what we’re missing every time we turn on the TV.

Best Small Butt Plugs For Tiny Bums

I've written plenty of beginner's guides to anal toys and butt plugs in the past, and you can find plenty of sex toy advice throughout the Cara Sutra sex blog. Today, however, I wanted to present what I feel are the true top picks when it comes to easily insertable (yet still body safe) small butt plugs for tiny bums.

Create Your Own Love Island: Top Desert Island Sex Toys

Whether you loved it or hated it, the Love Island series was something that got the whole country talking. Would the winners be the tempestuous Liv and the ‘Oh so sweet’ Chris? Were Gabby and Marcelle the real deal? And does Camilla really like Jamie, particularly after failing the lie detector test?

Bloggers: Come meet me at ETO & get a free goody bag!

The first 10 bloggers to come meet me (whether at my stand or at any time during the event) and give me their blogging/sex toy reviewing business card, will get a free goody bag that I've put together myself. The goody bags are a mix of information, general adult industry merchandise, sexy freebies and other gifts and goodies I've put together. You'll effectively be raiding my sexy drawers and getting some gorgeous freebies in the process. I'll be chucking more things into each as the show draws closer. Coming to ETO and hoping to get some freebies and samples? Here's an easy way to guarantee it.

Fantasy by Cara Sutra: behind the scenes of the new bondage range

...I have an interest both in sex toys - well, adult products - as well as fetish. With the recent surge in popularity in bondage (thanks Fifty Shades of Grey), it made complete sense to