Sex Toy Advice

Sex toy shopping can be exciting, exhilarating, fantasy-inducing… and confusing. There are just so many sex toys available these days, with improvements added and different styles being created all the time. That’s why I’ve written these sex toy advice articles here at the Cara Sutra sex blog.

First of all, do you really need sex toys? Adult products are more of a desirable accessory than a need, and they’re most definitely not a replacement for sex. Nobody should feel ashamed about their sex toy use, or threatened because their partner enjoys using them. Hell, there are even plenty of couples sex toys available which heighten the pleasure levels for both partners during intimacy. So even though toys might not be a need or pre-requisite for having sexy fun, they’re an incredibly enjoyable bonus feature. Think of them like ticking the ‘added fun’ box on your sexual take-out order.

Next, consider what type of sex toy would be best for you. There are many different types: vibrating, static, large, small, flexible, rigid, for vaginal, clitoral, anal and erogenous zone stimulation. Then there is the material it’s made of to consider. Some materials are full body-safe for internal and external use, others are toxic and could cause allergic reactions, irritation or worse. What does porous and non-porous mean? What are phthalates? Does any of this really matter when considering which sex toy to buy and try?

Find out all of the above and more in my sex toy advice articles here on the blog.

What’s the best beginner anal sex toy for a man?

I'm male and I want to buy some toys for anal training. However, other than fingers, nothing else has successfully penetrated me there. I'm wondering what's the best beginner anal sex toy for a man? What kind of thickness would be advisable to look at? Also do you recommend inflatable or solid form?

10 Ways Sex Toys Can Help Increase Relationship Intimacy

When you're in a relationship, it can be so easy to slip into set daily routines which might not include quite as much spontaneity, frivolity and affection as when you were in your first flush of love. Life has a habit of popping up with all sorts of hurdles to a care-free, explorative love-life; family and/or work responsibilities or worrying over health or financial pressures can make the warm bond of relationship intimacy feel like a long-forgotten dream.

Big Guide to Bondage Hogties | BDSM Hog Ties 101

The favourite bondage hogtie piece I have in my own collection is the Shots Media Ouch! Wrist and Legcuffs Restraints, which isn't readily available in the UK any more but you can take a look at my review here. There are definitely other, good quality bondage hogties you can purchase to give you the session you desire, however.

Alternative review of the Fantasy by Cara Sutra Beginner’s Bondage Kit, by Girl on...

We all know about ropes and floggers and cuffs – they feature not just in porn but in most erotica, in sex tips and magazines and That Book. But while it might be easy to ask your partner if you can handcuff them because you've seen this one tip in Cosmo, it could be a hell of a lot harder to explain the thrill of an actual power exchange. Of you giving yourself over to them, or them to you, to be led and moulded and treated and punished and all the things I personally love about being at the collar end of that strip of leather. You might not like that kind of thing, of course. But judging by how even a couple of my vanilla friends were keen to put it on, and be playfully led from sofa to garden, back to the sofa and straight onto my lap, it's certainly intriguing to many. And not just in a giggly 'oh we've had too much wine and sex toys are funny' way, in an 'ooh, I think I could get to like this but I'm not sure I'd admit it when sober' way.

Who Uses Penis Extensions And Why? (Also Known As Cock Sheaths Or Hollow Strap...

Unlike some people tend to think, penis extenders are not only for those that are insecure about their penis size. This type of product can actually be used in all sorts of different ways and are created to enhance your sexual experience with your partner, no matter the size of your penis.

Prostate Massage 101: A Guide For Beginners

Would you or the man in your life like to experience orgasms that are twice as intense? Or maybe even four times stronger? If your answer is YES, then you should know that prostate massage is the gateway to an entirely new level of erotic pleasure.

10 Reasons Why I Love Clit Vibrators So Hard

By Cara Sutra: One of the most common questions I get asked about sex toys is, “what is the best vibrator?” While it’s impossible for me to select the perfect vibrator for everyone, as we’re all unique, I can certainly tell you about the sex toys which work for me.

Sex Toy Materials Guide: Porous v Non-Porous, Phthalates & More

Sex toy shopping can seem extremely confusing once you realise just how many different styles and variations there are. Then you find out they're made from various materials, too. How are you supposed to know which material is the best? Are there any you should specifically look for? And, more importantly, which ones should you actively avoid? My sex toy materials guide is here to provide a few handy tips and pointers when it comes to finding a comfortable and body-safe sex toy you can thoroughly enjoy.

Big Guide To Jiggle Balls, Love Eggs, Kegel Trainers & Ben Wa Balls 

Whether you call them jiggle balls, love eggs, kegel trainers or Ben Wa balls, it all amounts to pretty much the same thing. Rounded products you insert into the vagina for pleasure, health benefits, or both. Are you a jiggle ball fan? Have you considered buying a love egg but don’t know which one’s right for you? Welcome to my big guide to jiggle balls, love eggs, kegel trainers & Ben Wa balls!

Big Guide To Penis Chastity Devices, & Our Chastity Cage Reviews

Whether you’re looking for your first chastity device, or seeking to add a chastity cage to your *ahem* growing collection, it can be baffling when you realise just how many variants are available. This is particularly the case for lock-up fans who don’t have a Keyholder/Mistress/Top to guide them, and simply wish to explore chastity fetish by themselves. Welcome to my big guide to penis chastity devices!

How To Get A Bigger Penis: Penis Enlargement Tips

Wondering how to get a bigger penis? Enjoy this thorough advice article where I answer a reader's question with a selection of penis enlargement tips.

Can’t Achieve Vaginal Orgasms?

I recently received an email from a gentleman requesting some sex advice. This isn't unusual in itself, but this email was so multi-faceted that I promised the correspondent a full analysis with my opinions here on the blog. The main issue? His wife can't achieve vaginal orgasms. Having heard similar worries and complaints both from women and their partners in the past, I wanted to write about my thoughts on this issue at length.

Male Sex Toys: How To Pick Out The Perfect One!

If you’re a male shopping for yourself, or perhaps looking for your male partner, you most likely want to find the perfect male sex toy! Now this might sound simple, but believe me, this is no easy task. You have hundreds of different male sex toys and manufacturers. What type will work best on him? What kind of male toys are there? What will deliver the most powerful orgasm? These are all frequent questions when looking for the top male sex toys, so let me break it down for you.

Introducing The All New Lovehoney Happy Rabbit Vibrators

Having never tried the original Lovehoney Happy Rabbits, I was not only curious when Lovehoney revealed three updated models to the range, but thrilled to be offered them in order to give them a try. Thanks so much Lovehoney for sending your all new Lovehoney Happy Rabbit Vibrators for me to discover and enjoy.
We-Vibe Vibrator Reviews

Using Sex Toys While Reading Erotic Books

By Cara Sutra: Yeah, I know. You’ve already heard all the sex toy tips you’ll ever need, along with a couple of hundred that you’ll never even use. Now, a lot of advice on using sex toys while reading erotic books. Hopefully, you’ve been drawn to this article because of your interest in erotic books. Maybe you write them. Perhaps you’re an avid smut reader. Either way, you’re an erotica lover.

Sex Toy Spotlight: REV1000 Rotating Penis Masturbator

With the world of men’s sex toys constantly adding both upgrades on bestselling classics and innovative new styles, I wanted to spotlight one of the market’s most underrated members. The REV1000 Rotating Penis Masturbator is manufactured by Loving Joy and sold at various online sex shops –but what makes this stroker stand out from the rest?

4 Things To Consider Before Picking A Vibrator

By Naughty North: Although it's exciting, shopping for a vibe can be an overwhelming experience. 30 years ago there were wand massagers. In 2016 there are smartphone enabled, g-spot specific, battery powered vibrators that vibe with music. Sex shops are now a jungle of new products.

Mimi De Luxe Reveal Expert Recommended Sex Toys

Ever wondered which sex toys veteran sex toy testers would recommend? Sex shop Mimi De Luxe have revealed the latest expert recommended sex toys.

Is It Safe To Insert Sex Toys All The Way Into My Vagina?

By Cara Sutra: A sex question I get asked fairly regularly is, “Is it safe to insert sex toys all the way into my vagina?” Let's take a look at the facts…

Best Small Butt Plugs For Tiny Bums

I've written plenty of beginner's guides to anal toys and butt plugs in the past, and you can find plenty of sex toy advice throughout the Cara Sutra sex blog. Today, however, I wanted to present what I feel are the true top picks when it comes to easily insertable (yet still body safe) small butt plugs for tiny bums.