Sunday, December 15, 2019

Advice

If you’re looking for help on sex related issues then you’re in the right place. The advice area here at the Cara Sutra sex blog covers all aspects of sex and sexuality, hoping to help readers explore new routes to pleasure and open up avenues of stimulation and fulfilment you may not have previously thought of. Sex tips and articles are always popular with my readers, because as fun as sex is, who wouldn’t want to try and make it even more satisfying?

Advice provided through these down-to-earth and honest articles aren’t only about the main 'act', however. There’s plenty of expertise provided by guest authors as well as myself on the subject of relationships and dating.

For those who wish to dabble in the alluringly dark world of kink and BDSM, there are BDSM articles covering varied kinky interests from spanking tips and bondage, to taboo fetishes and total power exchange. My specialism is FemDom, but the advice features cover plenty of other aspects of the D/s scene as well.

Perhaps you’d simply like to explore how best to achieve climax by yourself? Masturbation doesn’t have to be a guilty secret, but you don’t have to ask your best mates how to go about it or discuss your solo sex life with a stranger, either. My advice articles cover masturbatory techniques, as well as specific sex toy advice and sex toy guides for those who would like a helping hand reaching that explosive, full-body climax. I hope you enjoy all the advice articles here on the blog.

Fetish Friday: The Inspection

I summon you to stand in front of Me for your monthly up close and uncomfortable inspection. I make you remove the torture device I have you wear, though you take it off with...

Can You Lose Sex Toys Up Your Bum?

By Cara Sutra: Can you lose sex toys up your bum? If you use butt plugs and other anal sex toys, it's a sensible question to ask.

The Tease and Denial – Fetish Friday

I was turning some very kinky and evil ideas over in my mind last night... To have him, strapped down, restrained tightly. Wide asylum patient straps, crossing over neck, chest, waist and each leg separately....

#FetishFriday Living the kinky life… 24/7

I love being able to live kinky, 24/7. Not only just as part of a kinky household that all enjoy some element of Fetish (ok, a lot of elements, overlapping and creating one large,...

Are There Any Cheap Sex Toys For Couples To Use Together?

We've been looking for some sex toys my man and I can use together for some time now. The We-Vibe family and the LELO Tiani styles are all very well but a little expensive for us right now. Aren't there any cheap sex toys for couples to use together or are we destined for side by side masturbation if we want to use toys?

My Man Has No Interest In Sex. Should I Cheat?

At first I thought my man was really into me, but as time progresses he seems to have less and less interest in sex. It's not as though I think he wants other women, he just doesn't instigate anything sexual at all. I want to show him what he's missing out on. As he has no interest in sex should I cheat?

Daddy Doms and Little Girls

This moved me to tears - I hope it goes some way to explain this truly beautiful D/s relationship. I've long been fascinated by Daddy Doms and little girls.

Which sex toy is best for deep and wide anal reaming?

I am interested in challenging myself with the largest anal toys I can find, please help! What is the widest toy I could buy and the longest (including double dildos)? Is there a toy you'd recommend as having the best of both? I need to get in on some anal reaming action!

Threesome Dos and Donts?

Dear Cara: I'm a single female that's recently been asked by a couple if I'd like to join them for some fun. We all seem to be on the same wave length. So far we have all been open and honest with each other and plan to keep it that way if it does go further. I have heard good and bad stories about threesomes. How do we make sure it turns out to be a good time for everyone? Are there any threesome dos and donts?

What’s the best beginner anal sex toy for a man?

I'm male and I want to buy some toys for anal training. However, other than fingers, nothing else has successfully penetrated me there. I'm wondering what's the best beginner anal sex toy for a man? What kind of thickness would be advisable to look at? Also do you recommend inflatable or solid form?

Intercourse is painful for her. Which sex toys should we use?

Which sex toy should I buy my wife for Christmas? She has severe endometriosis so intercourse is painful for her - extremely painful, in fact. We haven't had intercourse in months, so slow and steady is the way. She has used clitoral vibrators in the past but found them to be too intense.

What are the best sex toys to use during lesbian sex?

Dear Cara: I've just discovered I might be gay, as I pulled a woman the other week when I went out! I was wondering if you could suggest anything we could use together during lesbian sex, bearing in mind it's the first time I've really been with a woman. Nothing too tricky please!
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Sexual Advice Column at Cara Sutra

I'll be providing the best sex tips, giving sex toy advice, calming concerns and presenting guides on how to help you make the most of your love life in this new column here at CaraSutra. Whether you're single, with a partner/partners or venturing into the world of orgasms with sex toys, you'll find the answers you're looking for here.

Mistress Cara FemDom Diary Update: November 2011

Every morning I am woken at 6.45am with a cup of hot coffee, as well as a mug of tea for my man next to me. I know it shames minnie dreadfully having to serve us in this way and in whichever way I wish. Always knowing he is nothing, so insignificant compared to his Mistress Cara and Her real man.

Connection With My Lover Before Sex

I love when we have those tender private times together, those reassuring moments of intimacy. It’s so good to feel like his special girl and I know (well, hope) that he loves feeling like my special man. Our relationship is far from what you’d call standard, normal or boring, and very often it can involve other people. Not that we’re swingers – not that there’s anything wrong with swinging but it’s not us. I may have girl lovers though and he may have boy lovers; we’re both very bi.

High Heels Fetish: The Next Step In Sexy Fashion

It seems that an extraordinary amount of people, myself included, have a fascination or near obsession with shoes - sexy, alluring, high heeled shoes in particular. What is it about these simple pieces of footwear that tug at our heart strings (or clit nerve endings) so much? Is there such a thing as a high heels fetish?

How do I find a Mistress or Domme? FemDom BDSM Advice

One of the main questions I come across as a BDSM Mistress is 'How do I find a Mistress or Domme?' but with messages like these, it should be obvious what not to say on your first (or any) message to a prospective Mistress or owner.

How do I use affiliate links on my sex toys blog?

As Affiliate Manager at a large UK sex toys shopping website, people keep asking me how to add all the lovely banners and also trackable deep affiliate links to their blog. It will be slightly different if you have a Wordpress blog, but this morning I answered the question to a lovely lady who also uses Blogger and I decided to post my reply here too in case anyone else needs help in this area!

Beginner’s Guide to Twitter

witter is a fantastic FREE way to reach potentially millions of people’s eyeballs – with YOUR words. I hope you all find this beginner's guide to Twitter useful. It's certainly a great social media platform for marketing! But be wary – be over zealous on the marketing and not enough on the effervescent twitter personality and people will get bored and ‘unfollow’ you – in the worst case they’ll start to complain (and we all know complaints spread much faster than compliments!). It’s all like a big game of Sims, or Theme Twitter.... They’re your people, look after them, entertain them, don’t depress them – then when they love you, use that to your advantage to SELL SELL SELL. Ha!

Kitten play fetish or Catwoman?

I have been musing recently on how some women are like cats, and some like kittens. The kitten play fetish is quite popular with those identifying as women, and puppy play more usually seen in those identifying as men or boys. There's a whole world of furry fetish fun out there in BDSM!