BDSM Articles

My BDSM articles are here to give you the low down on everything kink-related. The world of bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism is enormous. There are just so many kinks, fetishes, interests and D/s orientations of the consenting adults involved.

BDSM newbies tend to have their curiosity piqued by something that arouses their kinky interest in the media, such as a bondage scene in an erotic book or movie, or bondage sex toys advertised on TV. Perhaps you’re in a relationship with someone who is already ‘into’ BDSM and you’d like to try it too, or maybe it’s a new interest both of you have decided you’re ready to explore. My beginners to bondage features are very popular, and I’ve written plenty about spanking and general BDSM safety advice too.

From time to time I get specific questions from readers whether they’re BDSM beginners or veteran kinksters. I answer these honestly and as thoroughly as I can based on my own experiences and research, within various BDSM advice features. As I’m trying to provide a comprehensive guide to BDSM here on the Cara Sutra sex blog, I will often tackle a specific kink or fetish in its own dedicated post, such as forced orgasms, watersports & piss play, and the adult baby fetish.

If there is an area of BDSM that I haven’t covered here, or if you have a specific kink-related question you’d like answered in full here on the blog (can be anonymous), then please get in touch and I’ll do my best to help. I hope you enjoy reading all my BDSM articles.

Kink is a drug, and I’m chasing a higher high

By Cara Sutra: There have been so many suddenly shocked faces during my conversations over the past few years that I’m thinking perhaps I’m getting a bit immune to the typically taboo realm of kink and fetish. That moment when you realise everyone at the surrounding tables in a restaurant have fallen quiet as you’re openly discussing anal reaming...

Is There A Connection Between Ageplay and Spanking?

By Cara Sutra: It seems strange to me that there hasn't been a connection made between corporal punishment and ageplay before. After a particularly hot session with my partner recently, it suddenly struck me. What's your first response? Is there any connection between ageplay and spanking?

A Domme’s Fantasy: Your Submission

By Cara Sutra: Sometimes I wonder what it would be like if you were completely submissive to me. My mind tends to stray towards a sexual kinky fantasy - a Domme's fantasy. They're not talked about much, right? Usually all eyes are on the submissive - the submissive male, in the majority of FemDom - but what does a Domme dream about?

Big Guide to Bondage Hogties | BDSM Hog Ties 101

The favourite bondage hogtie piece I have in my own collection is the Shots Media Ouch! Wrist and Legcuffs Restraints, which isn't readily available in the UK any more but you can take a look at my review here. There are definitely other, good quality bondage hogties you can purchase to give you the session you desire, however.
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Submitting to a Mistress

By slave christina: This is my story of submitting to a Mistress. Sometimes you meet someone and there is an instant attraction. Other times you may take some time to find a level of happiness. Other times it is the situation you are both in that brings you together and sometimes it is the situation that keeps you together or forces you apart.

How Do You Get Your Partner To Dominate You?

How do you get your partner to dominate you? Unless your kink is likely to trigger some past trauma in your partner, just ask. Seriously! That's not bad advice because if you don't ask, you will never, ever get. (It does help if you ask right, but we'll get to that.)

What is a Female Led Relationship really like?

By Giles English I'm typing this wearing a male chastity device and I don't get an orgasm until Monday. We haven’t had penetrative sex for a couple of years, but I do get regular beatings depending on how many demerits I’ve clocked up. Oh and Xena once made me go for 152 days without an orgasm… And Xena’s in charge.

Puppy Play For Mistress – Chastity Tease And Orgasm Denial

Puppy Play For Mistress is a short FemDom story written for me by one of my submissives. He's so very much into chastity tease and orgasm denial, as well as being made to act like a puppy... wagging tail, begging, barking for dinner - you get the idea. I hope you enjoy this story as much I repeatedly do. Happy Fetish Friday.

How to find subspace together this Valentine’s Day

Whether you agree with Valentine’s Day or not, February always brings out the romantic side of a relationship. Whether you bring your partner home a bunch of flowers, or you prefer to cuddle on the sofa with a takeaway and a film, it’s a time to celebrate your ‘togetherness’. For couples in a BDSM relationship, Valentine’s Day is a great reason to lock the door, dig out your collection of kinky treats and find subspace together.

No Limits Slaves In BDSM

Are there any true no limits slaves in BDSM? Do zero limits submissives exist? We can't even blame 50 Shades of Grey for the idea of 'absolute submission', because it's been around for at least 30 years. And, while Anastasia Steele might be a vacant fumbletrumpet who appears to have reached adulthood without even knowing what an email is, she does dump Creepy Christian more than once and even answers back from time to time.

Total Power Exchange (TPE) & Useful Slaves

By Cara Sutra: I have a weakness for submissives who are firmly in the slave category of BDSM. I love total power exchange. I'm not the kind who gets off simply on Femdom sessions with a guy acting sub, tending to his fantasies for an hour then getting back to ‘normal’ roles. Much preferred is the day-to-day reality of being a Dominant woman to a 100%-of-the-time submissive man.

BDSM Relationship Advice For Parents

I hope you feel reassured to hear that many other people certainly do have problems maintaining any sort of intimacy when they start a family or have differing routines. And by intimacy I mean kink, “vanilla” sex, quickies, play – anything sexual. It all gets affected when people experience life changes, stress and time pressures.

The Conversion: A Male Chastity Story

Time no longer had relevance. There was a time he recalls being locked in this physical and mental cage. He vaguely remembers the drink that made him feel so weak and compliant. He can recollect the smug smile on her face as she led the way down that corridor as he was helplessly, virtually carried along by other slaves. He could also recall the arousal induced by that smile, the click and clack of those sexy high heeled boots as she sauntered along that hard tiled corridor and that derriere that shouted "Woman. Beautiful desirable woman". There was apprehension and some fear but it was indicative of the power of this woman, that arousal was the sensation he remembers most.

Sexy Name Calling: Goddess, Bitch Or Slut? What’s In A Name?

By Cara Sutra: A shared post on Facebook this morning turned my attention to the subject of sexy name calling. Not in a trolling or abusive way, although this post which was shared to my TL by the brilliant sexual educator that is Charlie Glickman does focus on in appropriate behaviour in what should have been a protective and safe environment for all who attended. As much as the actions of the sexist, inappropriate guy talked about in the post disgusted me, it was one word in particular which made me stop and think.

Living As A Slave To My Ex, The Bitch

There was light. To some extent I took it for granted, but the fact that light from the small window, high on the wall of the cellar that was my home, should penetrate the blanket that covered my cage, would, by many, have been regarded as unusual and welcome.

How I Became A Slave To My Ex, The Bitch

She strutted around the room with the pretence of examining its suitability for her cast off, ex husband. "How cosy," she announced in the kind of patronising way I knew her capable.

Forced Bi Fuck Buddy Slaves for Mistress

By slave penny: I had learned to arrive punctually when fulfilling any command my Mistress had imposed. She could not abide tardiness. It was exactly 7.45 pm as I entered the large entrance to the hotel.

Kinky Circus Party for Mistress

It was not an ordinary indoor circus. It was small, the luxurious seats located on three steeply rising tiers. Tables between each pair of seats were filled with half full bottles of champagne and other wines, glasses, sumptuous foods and a multitude of sex toys.

Naked Latex Maids for Mistress | FemDom Fantasy Story

By slave penny: The room was clearly set for a party. A table full of nibbles and canapes, mini plates, glasses and decorations. Music was also playing but as yet no guests. I stood with a tray full of filled champagne flutes awaiting the arrival of the revellers.

Serving Mistress As A Chaste Slave

The mere softness of the bed looked so inviting. In fact the imagined comfort of the deep cushioned bedroom chairs would have been pleasure beyond imagination. It had been many years since I had experienced what, at one time, would have been a routine amenity.