Your heart is beating faster and faster. You feel hot but cold and clammy all at once and you're not really sure why. You can barely think to open your mouth to reply to whatever question he just asked; in any case you know whatever reply you give will be words falling over each other and stuttering their way out into the air, catching in your throat with inexplicable nerves.
Facesitting and Queening Facesitting is the act of, well, sitting on a person's face. Clue's in the name, really. Why would anyone do this? It's actually very erotic. Face sitting can be undertaken during vanilla...
Each individual is different, both in vanilla life and in BDSM. Therefore, the scope of equipment which can be found is growing all the time in relation to the fetishes of Dominants and submissives. Toilet style thrones, Queening chairs, humbler devices, pony boy and pony girl saddles, trappings and carts, furry fetish play and costumes, sensory deprivation hoods and masks... the list continues as far as, and beyond where your imagination can reach. From the small and portable hog tie to the largest piece of bondage equipment and dungeon furniture, there are fetish tools to fit your deviant fancy.
Of course I do love the kink aspects of D/s, in particular, long term male chastity, male humiliation, foot worship and suchlike. I definitely do NOT have sexual contact with any submissives or slaves.
"A mouth gag makes the one playing the role of the submissive owned party feel even more controlled and vulnerable, they also stop much of the noise that the person may emit during a spanking or ‘sexy punishment’ session as well as making the gagged person look even more appealing and corruptible for the one in position of Dominance and control."
Facial Hair Fetish It's Friday once more, so I turn my attention to a particularly fascinating fetish or other interesting area of BDSM. Knocking out three birds with one stone, as it were, this Fetish...
There are a lot of different terms bandied around both the fetish and mainstream circles, relating to the orientation of players in kink and BDSM. Slave, submissive, switch - as well as various pet names such as puppy or bitch - can leave you feeling confused as to exactly where you stand in the grand scale of things. The BDSM spectrum is very large (in fact I feel that vanilla or kinky, we are all on the same spectrum, not living synonymously) and the chances are you will find yourself drawn to one large label over another. My new article over at Erotica UK discusses why labels can be useful even if you're averse to labelling yourself normally, and what the difference is between the big three terms for submissive players in BDSM.
There are many ways to connect with others in the BDSM scene. Online, you may visit the several fetish forums and websites that exist, often featuring message boards, details of events and local persons with similar interests. A few examples of these are Fetlife, Informed Consent, Kink.com and Collarspace.
For newbies to waxplay, the back is a good area to start. There is a broad surface area acting as the target, and the skin is not as sensitive as some other regions. Leave the genital areas, tummy and breasts until you are more confident about your wax tolerance levels.
You will remember that I was meeting 'denied', my submissive of 6 years, for the first time last Friday. This is his update after the event. It made me smile all the way through....
Terrible lighting and focussed on his face only briefly... just in case. Sessions of him milking into a pet bowl, licking up the consequences. Having to bark in order to be able to touch himself.
Pony play is when a submissive in the BDSM scene finds an attraction in being treated like a horse, or pony. This can be either as just a mind set, or can involve many accessories such as wearing saddle, being on all fours, having a bit gag, a butt plug tail and/or specially made hoof boots.
Dear Cara, I have quite a worrying obsession with my girlfriend's shoes. She doesn't know, but every time she's out and I'm left in the house I have to fuck myself in the ass with...
You crave nothing more than her largest strap-on wedged firmly up your ass. She, on the other hand, insists you spend the day doing the dishes dressed in sissy frills and heels. However, you're not a sissy and she doesn't own any strap on harnesses. How could things have gone so wrong?
In the BDSM scene, daddies little girls and anyone involved in this type of ageplay fetish are often regarded as overly perverse, disgusting and sometimes even worse labels than these are applied. This is the result of a misunderstanding of the fetish as a whole. The woman who wishes to revert mentally to being a little girl in part, is an adult aged woman, who has made an adult decision to fulfil her need to submit by relinquishing responsibility in the way a little girl would to her loving, protecting Daddy.
He likes the thought of me being his Mistress but I struggle knowing what this actually means and if it's a constant thing that happens within our relationship or something that can be switched on and off.
There is a world of difference between a talented Dominant who is financially recompensed for her time and talents, and a sex worker who chooses to incorporate bondage and corporal punishment into the services she offers. Too many people make the mistake of assuming that the two are one and the same. Professional Dommes are not prostitutes. Any remuneration is for her Domination skills and expertise, not for sexual contact or sex acts. Sexual contact will not be a part of any session with any Professional Dominatrix worth her salt.