Tuesday, September 17, 2019

Advice

If you’re looking for help on sex related issues then you’re in the right place. The advice area here at the Cara Sutra sex blog covers all aspects of sex and sexuality, hoping to help readers explore new routes to pleasure and open up avenues of stimulation and fulfilment you may not have previously thought of. Sex tips and articles are always popular with my readers, because as fun as sex is, who wouldn’t want to try and make it even more satisfying?

Advice provided through these down-to-earth and honest articles aren’t only about the main 'act', however. There’s plenty of expertise provided by guest authors as well as myself on the subject of relationships and dating.

For those who wish to dabble in the alluringly dark world of kink and BDSM, there are BDSM articles covering varied kinky interests from spanking tips and bondage, to taboo fetishes and total power exchange. My specialism is FemDom, but the advice features cover plenty of other aspects of the D/s scene as well.

Perhaps you’d simply like to explore how best to achieve climax by yourself? Masturbation doesn’t have to be a guilty secret, but you don’t have to ask your best mates how to go about it or discuss your solo sex life with a stranger, either. My advice articles cover masturbatory techniques, as well as specific sex toy advice and sex toy guides for those who would like a helping hand reaching that explosive, full-body climax. I hope you enjoy all the advice articles here on the blog.

Is Your Kink Identity Written In Your DNA?

By Cara Sutra: Can you inherit a kinky orientation? Is your kink identity written in your DNA? I really believe it is. I don't think you choose to be Dominant, submissive, or switch. Those labels that I'd call your kink identity.

Sexy Name Calling: Goddess, Bitch Or Slut? What’s In A Name?

By Cara Sutra: A shared post on Facebook this morning turned my attention to the subject of sexy name calling. Not in a trolling or abusive way, although this post which was shared to my TL by the brilliant sexual educator that is Charlie Glickman does focus on in appropriate behaviour in what should have been a protective and safe environment for all who attended. As much as the actions of the sexist, inappropriate guy talked about in the post disgusted me, it was one word in particular which made me stop and think.

What To Do When You Can’t Complete A Product Review

As a sex toy reviewer, there may come a time when you can't provide the promised review in a reasonable time-frame. Or perhaps you feel that actually, you now can't complete a product review at all.

Fetish Friday: Owning a slave from a Mistress’ point of view

Of course I do love the kink aspects of D/s, in particular, long term male chastity, male humiliation, foot worship and suchlike. I definitely do NOT have sexual contact with any submissives or slaves.

How do I make my blog or website look more professional? 7 top tips

1. Do not use wysiwyg website or blog creators! They make you look instantly cheap and tacky from the outset, as well as incredibly amateur. If you are serious about your website and presence...

Loving Bondage Doesn’t Make Me Any Less Of A Dominant Woman

By Cara Sutra: I’m quite proud, actually; proud that I’m not allowing myself to be restricted by a label. I love the irony in that statement. Loving bondage really doesn't make me any less of a dominant woman. Dommes can love being tied up too.

Relationships And The Myth Of Unconditional Love

Recently I declined the offer of a guest article, not for the usual reasons that the writing quality wasn't great, or that it was simply meaningless, sales-motivated filler. The guest piece would have been entitled "Unconditional Love: A Key Ingredient To A Happy Relationship" - and I'm afraid I simply don't agree with that sentiment at all. In fact, I don't believe that unconditional love has a part in any romantic relationship. 

Deep Throat Fucking: When You Have A Cock Sucking Fetish

By Cara Sutra: When I asked a few weeks back, on Twitter and other social media, which fetishes people would like to see written up for Fetish Friday, I wasn’t expecting deep throat fucking to be one of them.

Should I Let A Company Approve My Sex Toy Review Before I Publish?

Hi readers! I'm back this week with a new instalment of Sex Blogger School. This week, I'm taking a look at another question from the sex toy reviewer community: Should I let a company approve my sex toy review before I publish?

New Fantasy By Cara Sutra Bondage Kit Ends The Long Reign Of Grey

By Cara Sutra: Did you know that the Fantasy by Cara Sutra Bondage Kit is now available to buy? You can now buy your 8 piece bondage set from Amazon and the fabulously edgy online sex shop, UberKinky. Plus, a whole host of other stockists will be added over the coming weeks (darn the paperwork!).

What is Erotic ElectroStimulation and How Does it Feel?

By Hella Rude Prior to my introduction to Andy at Cyrex (ElectraStim's parent company), my knowledge of erotic electrostimulation (EES) was full of holes. I had an understanding of the physics surrounding the practice and I'd certainly used EES in my work as a dominatrix but I hadn't explored electrosex beyond the realms of external sensory play. My personal experience wasn't marrying with the interesting array of electrodes I was discovering, so being the curious-minded creature I am, I got in touch with Andy in regard to reviewing some of his products.

Do You Feel Guilty About Secret Sadistic Desires?

By Cara Sutra: “I’m a vicious sadist - and I secretly harbour cruel, sadistic desires.” It sounds like the opening line in some sort of therapy group for criminals, doesn’t it? However, there are plenty of people out there who have sadistic desires in a consensual, power exchange way. Do you identify as a sadist in the BDSM community? Do you ever feel guilty about your sadistic desires?

Happy Easter: Let’s Talk About Sex And Religion

By Zak Jane Keir Of course, it’s Easter, which is the Christian festival most associated with ‘fertility rituals’ and symbols that are not really that Christian at all – though there is still no agreement, let alone any proof, as to which specific ancient pagan feast inspired the annual celebration of eggs, bunnies, flowers and binging on chocolate. I wish you all joy and delight in the springtime, whether your bunnies are battery-powered or the sort that moan with joy when you wrap them up in rope, and if you want to mark the occasion by eating a Creme Egg off your favourite playmate’s naughty bits then go right ahead.

Cara Sutra writes for Adult Toys UK: My Top Ten Bondage Essentials

"A mouth gag makes the one playing the role of the submissive owned party feel even more controlled and vulnerable, they also stop much of the noise that the person may emit during a spanking or ‘sexy punishment’ session as well as making the gagged person look even more appealing and corruptible for the one in position of Dominance and control."

Is A Non-Porous Real-Feel Sex Toy Material Too Much To Ask?

By Cara Sutra: I'm not talking about the bed, although the subject of this post could also be a breeding ground. Real feel penetrable sex toys. Is it out of the question entirely for adult product manufacturers to make a non-porous real-feel sex toy?

I’m A Secret Submissive | Why Female Submission Is A Private Kink For Me

By Cara Sutra: For me, female submission is an entirely sexual act, not a lifestyle choice or a facet of my personality. I submit to my partner for my pleasure, as well as for his. The act of him taking pleasure in my sexual submission or bedroom roleplay keys into an underlying vanity.

The Seven Deadly Sex Sins: Envy

By Jon Pressick: We live in a world of want. There are so many things around us, so many shiny baubles that tempt and drive us to distraction. Depending who you are and what privilege you have, these fun things we desire have overtaken the needs we used to work and strive for. For many, the lap of luxury, in terms of eating, housing, clothing and education is a pretty comfortable place.

Do You Need To Use A Condom For Oral Sex?

By Cara Sutra Condoms are just for penis in vagina sex, or anal sex between guys, right? You don’t need to use a condom for oral sex and blow jobs, right? Wrong.

Bloggers: Come meet me at ETO & get a free goody bag!

The first 10 bloggers to come meet me (whether at my stand or at any time during the event) and give me their blogging/sex toy reviewing business card, will get a free goody bag that I've put together myself. The goody bags are a mix of information, general adult industry merchandise, sexy freebies and other gifts and goodies I've put together. You'll effectively be raiding my sexy drawers and getting some gorgeous freebies in the process. I'll be chucking more things into each as the show draws closer. Coming to ETO and hoping to get some freebies and samples? Here's an easy way to guarantee it.

Fetish Friday: Pony Girl

"Keep those fucking knees up." The crop landed on my fleshy buttock once again, where the red lines were already vividly striping my pale flesh. Her hand, tightly, mercilessly holding on to the lunge rope, connected...