Advice

If you’re looking for help on sex related issues then you’re in the right place. The advice area here at the Cara Sutra sex blog covers all aspects of sex and sexuality, hoping to help readers explore new routes to pleasure and open up avenues of stimulation and fulfilment you may not have previously thought of. Sex tips and articles are always popular with my readers, because as fun as sex is, who wouldn’t want to try and make it even more satisfying?

Advice provided through these down-to-earth and honest articles aren’t only about the main 'act', however. There’s plenty of expertise provided by guest authors as well as myself on the subject of relationships and dating.

For those who wish to dabble in the alluringly dark world of kink and BDSM, there are BDSM articles covering varied kinky interests from spanking tips and bondage, to taboo fetishes and total power exchange. My specialism is FemDom, but the advice features cover plenty of other aspects of the D/s scene as well.

Perhaps you’d simply like to explore how best to achieve climax by yourself? Masturbation doesn’t have to be a guilty secret, but you don’t have to ask your best mates how to go about it or discuss your solo sex life with a stranger, either. My advice articles cover masturbatory techniques, as well as specific sex toy advice and sex toy guides for those who would like a helping hand reaching that explosive, full-body climax. I hope you enjoy all the advice articles here on the blog.

How To Do Kegel Exercises With Ben Wa Balls

The good news is that getting the most out of your kegel exercisers is actually really easy. You just need to know how to do kegel exercises with Ben Wa balls (or whatever style you're using).

Can Women Ever Actually Submit? Gender Differences In BDSM

By Cara Sutra: At the risk of incurring the wrath of gender warriors, I want to write a little about the difference between male and female submission today. I am speaking about the male gendered brain in submission, the female gendered brain in submission; and the differences between the two.

Edible Underwear: Are Sexy Edibles Perfect Cheap Romantic Gifts? 

Buyer's guide sexy edibles & edible underwear spotlight: What are these cheap novelties really like? Are they a great sexy stocking filler for your partner or funny Secret Santa gift for office colleagues?

Guide to Glass Sex Toys: Are Glass Dildos Safe To Use?

A question I get asked often is "Are glass dildos safe to use?" Hopefully the below Q&A will lay some myths about glass sex toys to rest and provide some ideas about glass dildos you might like to try.

I use sex toys during masturbation but I’m in a relationship. Is it cheating?

She’s laid on the bed, the vivid assortment of penis shaped dildos and vibrators strewn over the covers as she finds her favourite and plunges it deep inside. She gasps as the realistic veins...

How To Buy Sexy Lingerie Which Suits Your Body Shape

Women come in all different shapes and sizes, that’s what makes us so wonderful. If you’re reading this article on your commute to work, or your lunch-break, look around! Every single person in the vicinity looks completely different. The same rules apply when shopping for lingerie.

Am I Submissive? Let’s Talk About Female Submission

For me, female submission is an entirely sexual act, not a lifestyle choice or a facet of my personality. I submit to my partner for my pleasure, as well as for his. The act of him taking pleasure in my sexual submission or bedroom role-play keys into an underlying vanity. That's why I say I'm a secret female submissive... for his enjoyment only.

Some Useful facts About Adult Sex Dating

Well, now is the time to have a stiff something else - wink wink. Adult sex dating sites give horny Britons a safe place where they can explore their sexual fantasies, and if they want to, act them out in person with like minded men and women who are into the same things as they are.

What is Cybersex? How Cybering Can Improve Your Relationship

If you're in a relationship, it's unlikely that you're physically with your partner 24/7. Even if you live together, one or both of you may work outside the home, and the pace of modern life means regular temporary separations are normal and unavoidable.

My Most Popular Blog Posts 2017

Wishing a Very Merry Christmas to all my readers! I hope you're all enjoying a fantastic Christmas Day with your friends/family/loved ones, but just in case you wanted a sneaky distraction when Aunty Mabel starts on about her bunions – here it is. A round up of my most popular blog posts 2017.

Women-Specific Lubricants: Necessary Or Just Another Marketing Ploy?

By Cara Sutra: Do women-specific lubricants really matter? When you first realise that what your sex life needs is a little more glide, you will doubtless turn to sex lubricants to transform that dry chafe into sexy friction. It’s only when you start shopping for lubricants (at a well stocked online sex shop as Lubezilla) that you begin to realise that this task isn’t as simple as you’d first imagined.

Sex Up Your Suitcase: What To Pack For A Sexy Summer Holiday

By Cara Sutra: Gazing through the rain spattered window into the wet gloom this morning, it seems a cruel joke of nature that our summer officially started yesterday. Despite the evidence, thoughts are turning to a traditionally hot summer, with adverts for BBQs, barbecue food, garden furniture and the like reminding us of what we’re missing every time we turn on the TV.

In A Masturbation Rut? Meet The Sex Toys Set To Rock Your World

Isn’t masturbation wonderful? You can do it when you like, how you like, and as frequently as you like – and not only does it feel fantastic, the endorphin release is brilliant for your mental and physical health too. Because masturbation feels so brilliant, it’s easy to stick to your tried & tested method once you’ve found what does it for you. Same style, same location & vibrators, same fantasy... imagine how game-changing it would be to ‘rediscover’ masturbation, by trying something entirely different. 

The Allure Of Complete Sensory Deprivation

Ever heard of sensory deprivation? If you have, chances are you’re either up on your psychology* or you’re into bondage. Or both, of course. Sensory deprivation is an enormous turn-on for many in the BDSM scene, but what is it that makes this particular practice so sexy?

How To Have A Kinky Valentine’s Day

Even if your plans consist of a couple of hours together tonight, without work or the kids, possibly with a cheeky tipple, a pizza and a DVD, you may be wishing for a more exciting way to spice things up between you and your partner. There is. Read on for some practical & romantic BDSM tips which will teach you how to have a kinky Valentine's Day.

Older Men Sexual Advice – Over 50s Masturbation

By Hella Rude The Men's Health article you retweeted talked about the benefits of masturbation. Apart from resorting to porn (quite boring and I would never dream of looking online in case something I wasn't expecting turned up), what other ideas are there to fire the imagination, switch the ignition button and getting those of us who are a bit older (well, 50) going? They need to be interesting, different and ethical (and fun!)

Fetish Friday: Why teddy bears are important to Daddy’s little girls

In the BDSM scene, daddies little girls and anyone involved in this type of ageplay fetish are often regarded as overly perverse, disgusting and sometimes even worse labels than these are applied. This is the result of a misunderstanding of the fetish as a whole. The woman who wishes to revert mentally to being a little girl in part, is an adult aged woman, who has made an adult decision to fulfil her need to submit by relinquishing responsibility in the way a little girl would to her loving, protecting Daddy.

My boyfriend wants me to dominate him, what do I do?

He likes the thought of me being his Mistress but I struggle knowing what this actually means and if it's a constant thing that happens within our relationship or something that can be switched on and off.

60 Day Vibe Chastity: The Route Back To Manual Orgasm

By Cara Sutra: Why am I talking about a 60 day vibe chastity challenge? After reviewing the Palm Power Wand earlier today, an interesting point came up in convo on Twitter. A fellow blogger's personal route back to a manual orgasm only came after a set time away from vibrating sex toys. I must confess that I do find it difficult to orgasm without the help of vibrations against my clitoris these days, if not impossible.

How To Give Him An Amazing Handjob

Hands are seriously fantastic. Not only are they... well, handy for carrying out our everyday tasks, they can also give exquisite sexual pleasure. We can cradle a lover's face as we kiss them, undress each other as fast or slowly as we wish, and stimulate external and internal body parts with skilful precision. In this article I'm going to reveal how to give him an amazing handjob.