Advice

If you’re looking for help on sex related issues then you’re in the right place. The advice area here at the Cara Sutra sex blog covers all aspects of sex and sexuality, hoping to help readers explore new routes to pleasure and open up avenues of stimulation and fulfilment you may not have previously thought of. Sex tips and articles are always popular with my readers, because as fun as sex is, who wouldn’t want to try and make it even more satisfying?

Advice provided through these down-to-earth and honest articles aren’t only about the main 'act', however. There’s plenty of expertise provided by guest authors as well as myself on the subject of relationships and dating.

For those who wish to dabble in the alluringly dark world of kink and BDSM, there are BDSM articles covering varied kinky interests from spanking tips and bondage, to taboo fetishes and total power exchange. My specialism is FemDom, but the advice features cover plenty of other aspects of the D/s scene as well.

Perhaps you’d simply like to explore how best to achieve climax by yourself? Masturbation doesn’t have to be a guilty secret, but you don’t have to ask your best mates how to go about it or discuss your solo sex life with a stranger, either. My advice articles cover masturbatory techniques, as well as specific sex toy advice and sex toy guides for those who would like a helping hand reaching that explosive, full-body climax. I hope you enjoy all the advice articles here on the blog.

Beginner’s Guide To Penis Chastity & Male Chastity Play

Welcome to my big beginner's guide to penis chastity and male chastity play! So, you want to try a chastity device? Or maybe your partner wants you to wear one? Perhaps you’re reading this as you want your partner to wear one for you. Whatever your reason is for being here, you’re doing the right thing!

Watching My Boyfriend Suck Another Man’s Cock

His mouth, with all its masculine bearded surround, enveloping the cock tip. My boyfriend's lips forming the O around the collar of his friend's dick, as if it were second nature. I moistened my own lips, as if in readiness. I could almost taste and feel every millimetre for myself, so familiar were the actions. I've sucked cock a thousand times and know the tricks. What I didn't know was that I'd been giving my boyfriend lessons.

Turned Into A Puppy For His Mistress

They were miles away from each other, but a heat linked them as they spoke. She was reclining in her bed, ready to drift to sleep. Alone in his room, he was kneeling beside his own bed. She enjoyed the sweetness of it, knowing he was that way for her, and the similarity to the pose to that for nighttime prayers did not escape her.

Sex Toy Trends: Meet The Touch-Free Clit Suction Sex Toys

By Cara Sutra: Over the past year, the world of sex toys has been drawn in by alluring clit suction sex toys which promise touch-free orgasms. Suction devices for sexual health purposes as well as sexual stimulation have been around for some decades of course...

Beginner’s Guide To BDSM | BDSM Tips For Beginners | BDSM 101

The enduring popularity of BDSM cannot be attributed in its entirety to the relatively recent appearance of Fifty Shades Of Grey, no matter how much the media would love for that to be the case. Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism are all power exchange activities, either including sex or entirely and deliberately absent of it, which have been practiced for centuries.

How I Became A Slave To My Ex, The Bitch

She strutted around the room with the pretence of examining its suitability for her cast off, ex husband. "How cosy," she announced in the kind of patronising way I knew her capable.

His Journey To Cocksucking

By Edward Cantor: In a way, my trip could be described as crossing the ocean just to be taken. It wasn’t really that simple, but it was a rather fun way to think of it.

Keyholding Services: When DIY Chastity Gets Too Hard

By Cara Sutra: I've written various articles on the subject. What I get out of locking a guy up in a chastity cage. Female chastity. Slaves have written their experiences, and there are several chastity device reviews. This year, I'm focusing on Keyholding services.

Beginner’s Guide To Urethral Sounding & Penis Sounds Play

Once you're ready, lube up the sound (and the end of your penis) and slowly slide the tip in. Once in, keep hold of both the sound and your penis, then slowly allow gravity to pull the sound deeper. Once you're at the base of the penis, stop for a moment and slowly pull the sound out, ever so gently. This is approximately where the best sensations are to be found.

10 Steamy Role-Play Ideas To Try With Your Partner

The world of sex advice is awash with tips in this regard, with ‘trying out role-play with your partner’ being a popular one. But what sort of role-play situation is sexy? And what type of role-play suits your sort of relationship, in particular? Today, I’d like to share with you 10 steamy role-play ideas to try with your partner. Read on and I’m sure you’ll spy a scenario which tickles your particular fancy.

What is a Female Led Relationship really like?

By Giles English I'm typing this wearing a male chastity device and I don't get an orgasm until Monday. We haven’t had penetrative sex for a couple of years, but I do get regular beatings depending on how many demerits I’ve clocked up. Oh and Xena once made me go for 152 days without an orgasm… And Xena’s in charge.

Why Can’t I Keep My Butt Plug In? How Long Can I Wear An...

By Hella Rude Try to get used to wearing the plug and allow yourself to forget about it. Pop it in, stick on a movie and veg out. Just relax and do nothing at all. You want to clear your mind of any sexy thoughts and just stop thinking about it. Your body will relax around it and start to get used to it being there, just give it time to acclimatise to the sensations. Lots of people find that when they forget the plug's there, keeping it in is easy work.

Who Wants Freebies?

By Cara Sutra: We all do. Everyone loves freebies, and no matter really want it is, we all want that something for free. Why pay when you can get it for nothing?

Bound To Serve As A Sex Slave

After several months' training, both mental and physical, her slave was able to handle one of her ferocious whippings simply through tears, gritted teeth and with only a few sweary slip-ups. He'd learnt that lesson fast, she thought, her smile widening even further. An extra 5 minutes lashing for every curse he spat in her direction soon had him holding his tongue.

The Wedding: What’s Yours Is Mine

The whispers of those seated at the back were muffled by the whoops surrounding the drawn-out kiss of joy at the altar, until a natural settling revealed the click-clack of my heels on the stone. A wave of anxious whispers and angry mutters accompanied my approach to the still lost-in-each-other bride and groom, which turned to gasps of shock as I undid and threw off the hideous overcoat without breaking stride. 

BDSM & FemDom Advice: What being a Mistress Really Means

Don't make the mistake that many do: a Mistress is very different to a Dominatrix or a session Domme. Unlike ladies who Dominate or Top for a session, a Mistress owns her property over the long term and the power exchange is not necessarily limited to the dungeon environment.

Beginner’s Guide To Anal Sex Toys & Butt Plugs

By Cara Sutra: Bums. Everyone has one, and very useful they are too. Our undervalued derrières not only house the exit which keeps our bodies functioning healthily, but offer comfortable padding when we need to take the weight off our feet. Did you realise that your bottom also has the potential to give you incredible pleasure, as well as a mere sigh of relief any time you sit down?

Is It Safe To Insert Sex Toys All The Way Into My Vagina?

By Cara Sutra: A sex question I get asked fairly regularly is, “Is it safe to insert sex toys all the way into my vagina?” Let's take a look at the facts…
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Big Guide To Lesbian Sex Toys: What Are The Best Sex Toys For Lesbians?

Our heteronormative, phallocentric society loves to promote the myth that sex begins and ends with penis-in-vagina. That the only true definition of sex is thrusting a penis into a vagina which then ejaculates at some point, which signals the End Of The Sex. I'm here to tell you that such a view is wrong on so many levels.

Chastity Release – Her Icy Response

Tilting his chin up so I could look into his embarrassed face properly, I relished the fight between humiliation, hate and the most intense arousal in his eyes. My other hand reached down and felt the weight of his chastity locked cock in my hands. He jumped as my cool hands came into contact with his hot straining balls under the metal device.