Advice

If you’re looking for help on sex related issues then you’re in the right place. The advice area here at the Cara Sutra sex blog covers all aspects of sex and sexuality, hoping to help readers explore new routes to pleasure and open up avenues of stimulation and fulfilment you may not have previously thought of. Sex tips and articles are always popular with my readers, because as fun as sex is, who wouldn’t want to try and make it even more satisfying?

Advice provided through these down-to-earth and honest articles aren’t only about the main 'act', however. There’s plenty of expertise provided by guest authors as well as myself on the subject of relationships and dating.

For those who wish to dabble in the alluringly dark world of kink and BDSM, there are BDSM articles covering varied kinky interests from spanking tips and bondage, to taboo fetishes and total power exchange. My specialism is FemDom, but the advice features cover plenty of other aspects of the D/s scene as well.

Perhaps you’d simply like to explore how best to achieve climax by yourself? Masturbation doesn’t have to be a guilty secret, but you don’t have to ask your best mates how to go about it or discuss your solo sex life with a stranger, either. My advice articles cover masturbatory techniques, as well as specific sex toy advice and sex toy guides for those who would like a helping hand reaching that explosive, full-body climax. I hope you enjoy all the advice articles here on the blog.

10 Seduction Tips That Really Work

Dating can feel like wandering blindly through a minefield, trying to avoid hidden pitfalls as well as common errors. When you experience that elusive, intense connection with someone, nerves can threaten to overwhelm and could even seriously dent your chances of forging a fully-fledged relationship. Today I'd like to share with you my top 10 seduction tips that really work.

Everything Erotic Trade Only: ETO Magazine, Show & Awards Info

ETO stands for Erotic Trade Only, a journalistic business with a passion for reporting neutrally on the various happenings in the adult industry. This independent company, founded and based in the UK, is extremely popular in the adult trade and it's easy to see why. Their harmonious team works extremely hard to deliver helpful advice and marketing opportunities to adult businesses. The erotictradeonly.com website and accompanying printed magazine provides support and advertising for various online services and websites, sex-related e-commerce, bricks and mortar retailers, product distributors/wholesalers and event organisers.

Does Female Chastity Exist? How Can Women Enjoy Orgasm Denial?

The chastity fetish is a BDSM topic very close to my Mistress heart. I've written plenty about male chastity over the years, as well as a guide to chastity devices and several chastity cage reviews. What about women? Does female chastity exist? And how can women enjoy orgasm denial?

International Male Chastity Day | International Chastity Day Info

As a proud kinkster and huge fan of the chastity fetish in particular, it gives me great pleasure to share details of an official annual celebration of this highly erotic kink. International Male Chastity Day (also known as International Chastity Day) is celebrated on the 15th February* each year.

Ultimate Valentine’s Day Sexy Gift Guide | Most Romantic Valentine’s Gifts

Welcome to my Valentine's Day sexy gift guide! Valentine's is traditionally the time of year when lovers show each other the depth of their loving feelings by way of a card, a gift, spending time together doing something special and being generally loved-up. What do you buy the one you love for Valentine's Day this year? Have a look through this feature which showcases the best and most romantic gift ideas for some sensationally seductive inspiration.
The Hotness Of Body Piercings | List Of Genital Piercings

The Hotness Of Body Piercings

Body piercings, tattoos, or both? Whether you love being pierced or prefer getting inked, body modifications can still be controversial in some circles. Pretty stuffy circles, in my opinion. I'm focusing on the hotness of body piercings today, but I'm all for people celebrating their uniqueness and displaying their creativity through the many various forms of body art.

How To Find A Dominant Partner

So many of the emails I’ve received over the years have been from men looking for BDSM advice. Many men really want to find a Dominant woman to help them realise their kinky fantasies, or encourage their partner to become a Mistress –or alternatively, a female submissive. Did you know that there is an easy way to find a Dominant partner? Read on and I’ll let you in on the secret.  

How To Find Your Perfect BDSM Partner

Compatibility in BDSM relationships is important and should be taken into consideration from the outset. But just how do you go about finding that all too often elusive, but fantastic, kinky match? It can be tricky to find your perfect BDSM partner -and that's an understatement. 

Big Guide To Bondage Sex Toys, & Our Bondage Sex Toy Reviews

What can you use to restrain someone (or enjoy being restrained) in bondage? That's where bondage sex toys and bondage accessories come into their own. It helps having some background knowledge of just what's available in terms of bondage equipment, and why it's important to use items specifically designed for bondage rather than any old belt, strap or rope you happen to have around the house.

Big Guide To Spanking Toys, & Our Spanking Toy Reviews

Spanking is an erotic act between consenting kinksters and lovers. Do you prefer yours OTK (over the knee), strapped face-down to a bench, during sex or in some other fashion? Does the mere thought of a raised Dominant hand, or a spanking toy whistling through the air, stir the tendrils of arousal? You might be wondering which spanking tools are best for effective corporal punishment. Welcome to my big guide to spanking toys, in which you'll also find links to all our spanking toy reviews.

Beginner’s Guide To Bondage | Complete Bondage 101 & Top Tips

Despite Fifty Shades of Grey helping to spotlight the joys of BDSM in the mainstream in recent years, plenty of people have been enjoying the physical, psychological and emotional liberation that the power exchange in D/s role-play offers. Due to the recent sharp rise in mainstream interest, I wanted to share my bondage top tips and advice in this beginner's guide to bondage today. Welcome to my complete bondage 101!

Beginner’s Guide To BDSM | BDSM Tips For Beginners | BDSM 101

The enduring popularity of BDSM cannot be attributed in its entirety to the relatively recent appearance of Fifty Shades Of Grey, no matter how much the media would love for that to be the case. Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism are all power exchange activities, either including sex or entirely and deliberately absent of it, which have been practiced for centuries.

Can Long-Distance Relationships Ever Really Work?

Social media, dating apps and chat sites are undoubtedly effective ways to meet new people. Connecting with the person of your dreams, then discovering they lives miles away –or on the other side of the world- can bring about another set of challenges for your budding relationship, however. Can long-distance relationships ever really work?

Why We Love Sexy Corporal Punishment

I'd like to talk a little more about why we love sexy corporal punishment here today, and how it really hits our spot. Perhaps this intimate revelation will prompt more people out there to accept spanking and similar as being just as 'acceptable' as 'regular' sex antics, instead of mentally filing such habits as perverted, deviant and downright weird.

Introduction to E-Stim & the Electrastim Electro Sex Toys Range

You may or may or may not have heard the term e-stim or electrosex before. It's something that can inspire all sorts of emotions, from curiosity to nervous apprehension. It involves using specialised equipment to stimulate our genitals using electricity. It is a gender-free masturbatory activity that is fun on your own or with a partner.

Sexy Christmas Gift Guide | Best Romantic Christmas Gifts

Giving the perfect Christmas gift you just know they'll adore gives you a warm fuzzy feeling like (almost) nothing else. 'Tis the season of giving, so why not combine festive spice and evergreen romance by gifting your lover a decidedly sexy present this year? Baby, it's cold outside – but selecting from the raunchy choices in my sexy Christmas gift guide will ensure you're all aglow. You can find my top picks for the best romantic Christmas gifts in this ultimate festive gifting guide.

How To Have A Kinky Valentine’s Day

Even if your plans consist of a couple of hours together tonight, without work or the kids, possibly with a cheeky tipple, a pizza and a DVD, you may be wishing for a more exciting way to spice things up between you and your partner. There is. Read on for some practical & romantic BDSM tips which will teach you how to have a kinky Valentine's Day.

Kink Compatibility In BDSM Relationships

You crave nothing more than her largest strap-on wedged firmly up your ass. She, on the other hand,  insists you spend the day doing the dishes dressed in sissy frills and heels. However, you're not a sissy and she doesn't own any strap on harnesses. How could things have gone so wrong? It's time to talk about kink compatibility in BDSM relationships.

Relationship Counseling, Relationship Coach & Marriage Therapy

Firstly, most marriage therapy or relationship counseling completely lacks the integration of sex. Sex is a big part of intimacy, connection, and pair bonding in a relationship, and yet it’s ignored by more relationship counselors. Secondly, most marriage therapy is based on the medical model, so they try to fix what is wrong and not find and enhance what is right or could be amazing.

Buy Used Panties and Sell Worn Underwear at Sofia Gray

Purchasing or selling used underwear often evokes strong opinions, but when you think about it, the enjoyment of worn knickers can be extremely pleasurable for all concerned. I'm not ashamed to say I've sold my own worn underwear in the past –well, why not? I buy some pretty panties, wear them, take a few photos if I feel like it and then... instant profit.