A Rant About Rants: Venting On Social Media
By Cara Sutra
I believe we all know people that we genuinely like – but wow, their social media updates really push our buttons. I know I do. And if you’re thinking it’s you, it’s probably not you. I’m talking about people who seem to spend the majority of their time venting on social media. It doesn’t seem to matter if it’s Twitter, Facebook or any other social media (does anyone even bother putting text updates on any other social media platform?) – their feed is just vent after wail after whinge after whine.
It’s tiring. It’s annoying. It’s depressing. Please stop.
Yeah, I know I’m being a bit hypocritical writing this rant about rants, bitching and venting. However, I counter that thought with the fact that this rant is on my blog, not a never-ending torrent of boo-hooey on my social media. People choose to come to my blog to read my thoughts; updates on social media are thrust into followers & friends eyes without fair warning.
By ‘venting on social media’ I don’t mean the ‘oh bugger, something shit just happened’ stuff that we all share occasionally. I’m talking about people who seem to be professional whingers. 99% of updates are moans. From the weather to relationship fails to the state of their finances to the fact that no-one has sent them any lovely freebies lately. It becomes a constant wail: NOBODY LOVES ME, BOO-HOO.
Admittedly, if this is the way you want to use your social media then it’s your own business, sure. Your Twitter/Facebook, your right to use it for venting whenever you like. I accept and acknowledge that fact. I just get particularly annoyed when this constant whining and wailing is on accounts which are also sponsored by businesses. The people running these social media feeds are being financially supported by companies who wish to advertise their business on those feeds, whether just occasionally or on a more permanent basis.
I think that in these situations, where you’re being remunerated for occasional/regular adverts on your social media feeds, you have an obligation to make the rest of your feed as appealing to followers as possible. I’m not talking about faking it with continual happy hearts and dancing unicorns – that’s just not realistic. We all have shit days, anxious times and we’re all affected by personal issues as well as current world affairs. God knows they’re depressing enough right now. But for the love of hashtags, why would you craft venting tweet after whiny Facebook update when you’re being sponsored on those very platforms by businesses looking to appeal to those same audiences?
The endless venting on social media is annoying enough for followers, fans and friends, but it could also pose problems for account owners if they’re using these platforms for professional as well as personal reasons. If you’re selling spaces on your social media feeds to businesses who wish to advertise on those feeds, to your audiences, it’s probably not a great idea to fill up the rest of it with incessant negativity and tales of woe. Even if the sponsoring businesses don’t seem to notice or mind all that much, your followers certainly will. And what else are businesses sponsoring you for if not for the fact you have followers who want to see your updates and maybe even interact with them sometimes? As your followers dwindle – which you may or may not notice due to the epic mightiness of the ‘mute’ function – so too will your respected position as someone with whom businesses wish to advertise, whether on social media or on your blog.
Instead of immediately turning to Twitter/Facebook and venting on social media, there are a few other options you could consider which should keep your #socmed platforms mostly clear of misery & turn-offs.
– If you have a blog, use it. This is where you can talk in depth about your feelings on a subject, whether those feelings are happy, sad, excited, anxious, depressed or something else. A bit like this blog post, in fact.
– Is the comment about someone in particular? Is it a bit of a subtweet or a vaguebook? If you’ve got a problem with someone, you could always tell them about it instead of the entire world. Even if it’s that common feel of reactionary anger or upset. If you really can’t talk directly to the person, consider whether you’ve got any mates on text/WhatsApp/Facebook messenger who wouldn’t mind listening to you vent and could help you get it out of your system in a more private way.
– Write your thoughts and feelings down with pen and paper. The physical act of writing them out, instead of tapping an angry update and clicking send before you’ve properly considered the consequences, can help you work through those negative feelings. You could leave your written note somewhere safe, sleep on it and then reconsider whether those feelings are suitable for sharing with the entire world.
– If you do decide to publish your negative venting thoughts on social media, consider containing them on a Facebook note which is visible only to you – or to certain friends. There are privacy settings for Facebook notes and updates which helpfully tailors their visibility.
The above ideas are not hard and fast rules at all. I mean, who am I to make the rules about what you post on your own social media? They’re merely suggestions, based on what I see day to day and from what I can feel ticking me off – especially from social media accounts also used in a professional way, complete with sponsors. I’m not in any way perfect when it comes to social media use (or anything else!) and I fairly regularly tweet or Facebook thoughts which I realise afterwards I didn’t really need to share. Things which are a bit too boo-hooey, knee-jerk reactionary, angry or otherwise not the calm, happy (but in a realistic way) and professional updates I aim to fill my feeds with.
I’ve debated with myself for some time whether I should blog about this particular subject. As I’ve mentioned, it does seem hypocritical, but I stand by the fact that I’m sharing these thoughts on my own blog and not publicly blasting it via venting on social media. This post is meant as a gentle reminder to think a little more carefully about what we post on social media (and I’m including myself in that audience, front row; I often write these rants primarily as reminders to myself) especially when using those same social media accounts for professional and business reasons.
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