Jerusalem Mortimer: Sex Blogger
Time for another insightful and exciting sex blogger feature. This week it’s Jerusalem Mortimer in our sex blogger spotlight – who is one of those seemingly rare creatures: a male sex blogger. Not only a male sex blogger, but a Dom who loves to write about his BDSM interests on his fascinating sex blog for others to learn from and to enjoy. I’m sure by now you’re desperate to hear all the juicy details, so I’ll hand you over to the man himself.
Thanks Jerusalem Mortimer for stepping into the sex blogger spotlight this week.
If you’re interested in having your own sex blog feature here at Cara Sutra, you can find all the relevant info and links at the end of the post.
Spotlight On: Jerusalem Mortimer
The Jerusalem Mortimer blog features the adventures of a dom who once knew shame but lost it a while ago. I’m interested in what really happens in bdsm, which is much more about minds, sensations, negotiations and thoughts than it is about beatings, tying up or the giving and obeying of orders.
There are more women submissives, women doms, and perhaps male subs, who write blogs than there are heterosexual male doms blogging. So as a representative of a notoriously tongue-tied group I try to write honestly about what really happens in bdsm from our perspective.
I write more about self-doubts we feel but hide, and about hesitations, and issues around ethics, than I write about the swing and impact of instruments on submissive women’s asses.
I think it’s a blog about love, really: the love that a dominant feels for the woman who submits to him, even if the submission is lent rather than given, and it’s only in the moment. It’s still emotionally powerful and moving, and that’s worth exploring.
Also, I think it’s a good, sexy, read, most of the time.
Sex Blogger Q&A
It’s called Jerusalem Mortimer: Between the Lines.
Jerusalem Mortimer is my name. The “Between the Lines” means three things:
(1) People who are into bdsm are sort of between the lines, sexually. We can pass as normal, but if we get outed the consequences can be severe.
(For example, I had to abandon my chosen profession, which was politics. But others have lost custody of children, their personal safety, and so on.) We’re in a place that can be safe and can be dangerous.
(2) When I write about bdsm I’m interested into the micro-decisions and negotiations and consents: the almost subliminal parts of what actually happens between a dominant (this dominant, anyway) and submissives. So at an interpersonal level it’s reading between the lines.
(3) Also, a well-striped ass is pretty and sexy, isn’t it? I like, after I’ve added some strap or cane lines to submissive skin, to aim between them.
That banner, at the top of the page, that’s a close-up panel of a girl’s ass and two cane stripes I put there. That contrast, between lined skin and skin undisturbed – yet – is worth celebrating.
Which country do you live in?
Currently Australia, though I’m not Australian.
Approximately how long have you been sex blogging?
Bloody hell: it’s four years now.
Why did you start a sex blog or reviewing sex toys?
I’ve got writing to sell. I thought getting known wouldn’t do me any harm.
What’s your favourite thing about blogging?
Contact with and feedback from readers.
Do you use social media? If so, where can we find you?
Jerusalem Mortimer is on Twitter. I’m on Facebook, but I’ve never used it and I hardly ever look at it.
Do your friends know you’re a sex blogger?
Most of them do. I strained a very precious friendship when I told him to look it up. The question of how out you choose to be is one that involves costs, either way.
Have you ever done anything specifically so you can blog about it afterwards?
Not really. I have a rule, though I sometimes break it, that my stories should be about things that happened five years ago or more, to make it easier to disguise people I’m writing about.
Do you take part in any blog memes? If so, which ones?
Occasionally Food for Thought Friday. E[lust], if that counts as a meme.
Share with us a funny or interesting experience that’s happened to you in the course of your blogging.
Apart from the guy (I assume it was a guy) who found me by googling “goat sex spank schoolgirl nipple”, the most interesting things that have happened have been meeting readers, and, as explained above, I can’t write about that because of my five-year rule.
Will you still be blogging in 5 years time?
Yes. There’s no end to the making of blogs, Ecclesiastes said.
If not already a professional blog: would you say you’re looking to earn a living from blogging eventually, or will it remain a hobby?
My blog ain’t professional. I have no idea how to make money from it, though I’d like to.
Tell us about three other bloggers you admire, and why.
- Xiao Yingtai, of The University of Abject Submission, writes perceptively, and is one of the nicest and most admirable people I’ve encountered on the net.
- Zoe of Sex is my New Hobby is another perceptive and honest writer, and excellent person: and then she goes and posts naked pictures of her gorgeous self! It’s not fair!
- Cara Sutra writes an enjoyable and risky blog. It’s sometimes painful and sometimes funny and it’s always informative. You should look her up some time.
If you review sex toys, what are the top three toys you wish you could get your hands on next?
I’m not really a sex toy reviewer. I’m more a stand naked, ‘I got everything I need right here, and so do you’ kind of dom. The body and the mind are nearly everything. Though I like rabbits. Not for myself.
Who is your favourite adult shopping company, and why?
The two women who ran “House of Fetish” on Oxford Street, Sydney, were brilliant. But I’ve never found a replacement since they moved on.
Do you prefer blogging fictional erotica, real life sex anecdotes or factual based content such as reviews and advice guides?
I don’t think I mind. It’s all in the quality and perceptiveness, and the honesty (with generosity), of the writing. I write real life, mostly, because at least I was there when it happened, so I know something about what was going on.
– Jerusalem Mortimer
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