The Taste Of Sex
Imagine yourself blindfolded and naked on a bed. Your arms and legs are stretched and you quiver in anticipation. What will happen? How will it happen?
You hear your lover come into the room and their weight presses down on the mattress. No words. No sound. You can feel their body shift and the bed move accordingly. Your mind races in when you feel a soft, hot breath against your skin. And then, as if lightning has just scorched your flesh, their tongue makes contact. And you are on fire.
There is something delightful about feeling someone’s tongue on your body. Whether it be a seductive lick of the neck, running along your lips in a deep kiss, trailing down your body or being buried in the delicious destination, our tongues play a major role in sexual excitement. While it may be easy to fall in love with what your lover does to you, think about what it is like to put your tongue to use lapping at your lover.
Taste is a significant, though understated, aspect of our sexuality. Because our mouths are deeply-rooted in both giving and receiving pleasure, it is only natural that the tastes that enter our mouths are experiences—for the good and the bad. There are many different ways that taste can interact with your sex life making it one of the most versatile senses.
But let’s get the big one out of the way first. The taste that most people associate with sex. The load. The mouthful. The cum.
If you read across sex literature, fiction, non-fiction, research and the Internet, you’ll find a world divided when it comes to sexual fluids—be it semen or sexual secretions. Some people love it, some people hate it. It isn’t so often you’ll hear someone be wishy-washy on the subject. Seminal fluid gets a much worse rap than vaginal lubrication though. Long a popular subject of jokes, for many the idea of drinking a sperm-infused cocktail. Ask around and you’ll get more “spits” than “swallows” in a group setting. Many people are fine with performing oral sex on a penis, they just don’t want what comes out of it. As an acquaintance who chooses to be identified as “Betty” relates: “I’d rather chew on my own sock than have someone cum in my mouth.” Wow. Harsh.
Vaginal secretions do not get anywhere near as much hate… but that may be because we don’t really talk about them all that much. Where pussy juice gets the drama is in relation to supposed odour, with many very unkind analogies made to fish. Maybe it is because vaginal secretions’ presence is less pronounced, and less all in one moment. A nice slow trickle of savoury is far easier to handle than a carnal pinata of cockjuice.
Because of the backlash against the taste of our liquids, one of the Holy Grails of sexual desire is to change the way we taste, because, unfortunately, we all can’t taste like this.
So, much dedication and hard work has been put into figuring how we can change our diets to make our juices more enjoyable. The conventional wisdom for those spurting semen is to increase citrus, bananas, papayas, spices (including cinnamon, nutmeg and peppermint), parsley, wheatgrass and celery. And for those who leak between their labia, the best options are pineapple, kiwi, blueberries, mango, green tea, cucumber and parsley. It is universally recommended that everyone avoid smoking, drinking and coffee (which might ensure you’re too grumpy for anyone to go down on you).
All of that said, there are some folks who definitely love to devour our sexual discharges. Some people really love cum from anyone. In fact, check out the guides Natural Harvest and Semenology. A cookbook and bartending guide respectively, they are the work of Paul “Fotie” Photenhauer who has been providing enlightenment on the enjoyment of eating cum for years. You can pair such drinks as a Galliano Cum Shot and a Macho Mojito with a Chocolate Cream Eclair or a Strawberry Splasharita.
If those concoctions don’t sound like the recipe for lovin’ to you, perhaps you want to try more conventional foods to spice up the taste of your tenderness. It is debatable what people enjoy more: sex or food. I’ve put this question to friends and lovers over the years and while the number skew slightly more toward food, it is still a close race. Given how much people do enjoy both, it is only natural that we would want to combine the two in a sensual overload.
Imagine licking champagne off of your lover’s breasts. Sucking whip cream off your partner’s cock. There are countless ways to include the taste of your favourite sweet or savoury flavour with your partner’s skin in a hedonistic buffet. Dr. Trina Read of VivaXO notes that many people have such a strong connection to food, that combining that sensation with sex is natural. “There is a segment of society where their touch point of libido is food. Food triggers arousal.”
In a primal sense, we’ve learned to not put things in our mouths that don’t taste good. Some might argue that this is evolution—a species can’t continue if baby-making seed is gobbled up all the time. Fortunately, the human species is not in a position of worry when it comes to population, so if it tastes good to you, take a taste of that rainbow.
– Jon Pressick
About the writer: Jon Pressick is a sex-related media mogul. He is also a writer, the editor of the Best Sex Writing series from Cleis Press, co-host and producer of Sex City Radio, event organizer, workshop facilitator, (very occasional) burlesque performer and general sexual gadabout. Jon Pressick also won the prestigious 2010 TNT Favourite Adult Journalist Award and has been named as one of Broken Pencil’s “50 People and Places We Love.”