How Do I Give Him A Prostate Massage?

How Do I Give Him A Prostate Massage?

By Hella Rude

Let’s talk about the pleasurable walnut, the male G-spot – the prostate. Until recent years, prostate massage / prostate play was considered to be a purely homosexual or fetishistic act – a bit of bum fun came with a plethora of connotations that have been falling away as discussing sexuality becomes more en vogue. These days more men are encroaching on the forbidden pleasure zone and with valid reason; it’s a pretty good pathway to a superhuman orgasm. When done right, it has the capacity to blow balls and minds, and this guide will give you the basics to getting started.

How Do I Give Him A Prostate Massage

Why Would I Want to Put My Finger in My Man’s Ass?

Prostate massage feels good. REALLY good. The prostate is a gland that’s responsible for producing much of the liquid found in ejaculate, meaning it’s hardwired to his genitals – nerve endings and all.

Massaging his P-spot can up the size of his load, bring added pleasure to his sexual build up and contribute toward a stronger, longer-lasting orgasm. There are many men who ejaculate from prostate massage alone and some even find they’re able to enjoy multiple orgasms when bringing it into play.

What About Anal Hygiene?

With good preparation and hygiene exercised, there’s no reason anal play would be any more icky than regular sex and the body fluids it involves. Using an anal douche should set your mind at rest if you’re feeling particularly squeamish. He can fill it with lukewarm water and cleanse himself before a shower to ensure the utmost cleanliness.

Where is the Male G-spot?

You’ll find it inside his ass, between 3 and 4 inches deep on the wall that backs onto the penis. Here’s a handy diagram:

How Do I Give Him A Prostate Massage
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How Do I Find the Male G-Spot?

The two-finger G-spot stroke is the perfect way to massage the prostate, but you need to take a slow and steady approach with finding it. The gateway to the ass is a very strong muscle and without proper anal foreplay, it won’t be easy getting pleasurable access to his derriere. Anal lubricant is a must, the ass isn’t self-lubricating and going in dry will be about as pleasurable as trying to insert a cotton bud into his urethra.

With him lying on his back and his pelvis slightly elevated with a pillow, warm him up with some foreplay. He’ll need to feel sexy and deeply aroused to relax enough for penetration, so include gentle circling and pressure on the perineum and anus with a healthy dose of lubricated shaft stroking and oral teasing.

When he feels relaxed enough (you’ll feel like you can begin penetrating due to his muscles relaxing), slowly slip a well-lubricated finger inside him. Use gentle and shallow thrusts, don’t try to push the length of your finger in at once. A slow and gentle in-and-out motion will help relax him into deeper penetration and make it easier to slip a second finger inside him when he’s ready. Gently explore him, using your finger tips to locate that walnut-sized gland just behind his penis.

Use your finger tips to stroke the prostate, using light pressure to gently stroke back-and-forth over the surface. It’s important to use a light touch at first as the prostate is incredibly sensitive. As it swells with arousal, you’ll be able to increase pressure to deepen his excitement. Make sure you communicate with him and take cues from his body to help guide you in what feels good – and always keep that lube nearby, it’s a good idea to top up throughout play.

Anal Sex Toys for Prostate Massage

If you’re not keen on fingers, then a small butt plug or prostate massager sex toy are great alternatives that leave you with two hands spare. Anal sex toys like these are slimline, easy to use and short in length – so they’re actually less intimidating than something with a fingernail on the end!

I recommend the Aneros range, especially their MGX model. Aneros are very well regarded by prostate play beginners and they have a pretty reasonable price tag to boot. The bonus of using a prostate toy over a classic butt plug is that they’re sized and shaped especially for hands-free prostate stimulation. This means you can slip it inside him with relatively little effort and it’ll tease, nudge and rub his P-spot throughout play.

What’s Next in Prostate Massage?

If you both enjoy including prostate massage, there are plenty of ways to up the erotic stakes. Vibrating prostate massagers bring added sensations into the mix and massagers with electrostimulation, like ElectraStim Sirius, create a throbbing effect that moves prostate toys hands free. For those wanting to really push the boundaries of their couple’s play, pegging is a great way to enjoy intense prostate massage as a couple.

Whatever you decide to try, prostate massage is one for your bucket list. Nothing makes you feel more like a sex goddess than being able to show a man something in the bedroom that truly blows his mind (and balls). If done correctly, there’s every chance that P-spot play could become a regular fixture in your erotic adventuring.


– Hella Rude

About the author: Hella Rude works as a freelance writer, model, adult e-commerce consultant and occasional TV presenter and actress. You can find her sassy, sensational and downright sexy writings at her author page here at Cara Sutra.

How Do I Give Him A Prostate Massage

Did you know that September is National Prostate Cancer Awareness Month in the US? As well as being extremely pleasurable, regular stimulation of the prostate has been shown to reduce the chances of prostate cancer. As if you needed any more reason to involve prostate play in your shared or solo sex life! As well as buying one of these low priced prostate massagers – just in the interests of good health, obviously – you can donate to the cause.

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  1. I was aware that while some men found that having their prostate tested by rectal examination to be a horrible experience, other men found it quite pleasant. It came to me that it might be that all men could find this examination enjoyable if the procedure was done enough times in a row. So I had a gay friend test out my hypothesis, and he found that the more times that the procedure was done, the more pleasurable it became; and that eventually the sensation would become stronger than orgasm.

    The method is to find a doughnut shaped lump at the front of the rectum, two inches up at the front, in this safe-sex method the prostate is squeezed a number of times in order to create the sensation I was looking for.

    It is a walnut-sized organ at the base of the bladder. It can be felt with the tip of a finger inserted into the rectum. Its texture and firmness should be similar to that of the flesh between your thumb and the rest of the hand when you make a tight fist. If you feel anything that is as firm as the knuckle, then that needs to be brought to a Doctor’s attention.

    Originally I found this invention desirable for the Gay community because a method of stimulation known as “fisting” not only did not find this anal orgasm, but also led to incontinence if used often.

    In the event that incontinence happens, one needs to tighten the anal sphincter. This can be simply done by purchasing what is known in sex shops as a “rigid digit,” which is a passive hollow rubber finger that is inserted in the anus. One simply needs to do body building of the anal sphincter using this device. Ten tightening, holding for ten seconds, before relaxing just three times a day can bring continence again in just two weeks.

    When the HIV epidemic hit I became aware that this method of stimulation could become a form of safe-sex. However, the only publicity I got for this invention was in UK publication “Private Eye.” It was just after the Church of England had a committee which came up with the idea of masturbation and prayer as a form of safe sex, it had come out on top in a debate with those who insisted on prayer and masturbation! I had predicted this in UK magazine”Private Eye,” after I had failed to get on the committee, in spite of inventing two forms of safe sex. This is why I feel it necessary to publish this invention on my website. Why not make your own website in your own languages on your experiences with these two forms of safe sex, in order to get the news around.

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