This week’s sex blogger in the spotlight is Krissy Novacaine, a fun, sexy blogger who has a wonderful sex blog filled with in depth sex toy reviews. Another brilliant facet of Krissy’s site is her honest, fascinating personal sex blog with an emphasis on sex and body positivity.
Thanks for getting involved in the Sex Blogger Spotlights, Krissy!
– Cara Sutra
Writing and sex have been important to me since I started doing them. Funny enough, that was close to the same time. Sure, I’d written for school, and I’d journalled through most of my life, but I’d never written to write before. So, at about 15, I started writing. At 16, I became sexually active. It was natural that these two things would come together. Eventually.
But before they did, I had a long struggle with both of them. I never thought that I’d have the skill in writing to have a following. (Silly me! I’d gotten a short story published when I was 15.) And, I also had to really come to terms and own my high sex drive and kinky proclivities. I was shamed for my sexuality and struggling with trying to be successful due to my OCPD onsetting.
So, I started out where it was easy. Reviewing for a retailer on their site. Then writing articles for them. I was rewarded with more free stuff to review, and kept at it. But when they took away the payments I’d been getting and limited my access to spending the payments I’d already earned, I was incensed. And there’s nothing like anger to make me forget my compulsive fear. A blog was started before my OCPD had time to catch up.
It’s been a process trying to balance reviewing and writing about sex and culture. Sometimes the scales tip to one side or the other, but no one has complained yet, so I think I’m keeping my readers pretty happy. I’m going to be changing some things around soon to make space for me to start taking my writing more professional, but once again, I know my readers will support me.
Q and A
What’s your blog name/online handle and how did you come up with the idea?
Krissy Novacaine started as an RP character concept (I am a giant nerd!). Then it was going to be my name for submitting to be a Suicide Girl, but that never went anywhere because I became really displeased with how they made it almost impossible to get paid… and that they really weren’t inclusive to shapes and ethnicities. So, I finally settled on it for a blogging name.
Which country do you live in?
AMURICA! Yep, I’m in the Puritanical USA.
Approximately how long have you been sex blogging?
I reviewed for three years, but my blog only turned one in July! Awwwwwwww they grow up so fast!
Why did you start a sex blog or reviewing sex toys?
About 3 years ago I started reviewing for a retailer on their site… Now, my baby blog is 1 year and 2 months old!
What’s your favourite thing about blogging?
I live for helping people, so the comments and emails from readers that tell me that I’ve helped them find something or accept something about themselves really give me the drive to keep at it on the hard days.
Do you use social media? If so, where can we find you?
Do your friends know you’re a sex blogger?
Most of them. I’m pretty out about it. But, it helps that I’m also a porn store clerk and active kinkster.
Have you ever done anything specifically so you can blog about it afterwards?
No, but sometimes mid thing, I do make a note to share on my blog. I’m super adventurous sexually, so I don’t think I need the encouragement to blog about something to make me do things!
Do you take part in any blog memes? If so, which ones?
No, I’m not really good at having too much schedule. I get flustered and upset, so it’s not a good fit for me.
Will you still be blogging in 5 years time?
Who knows? Probably. I like it, and I’m going to do it as long as I like it.
If not already a professional blog: would you say you’re looking to earn a living from blogging eventually, or will it remain a hobby?
I don’t know if I will be making money off my blog per se, but I do want to become a professional writer. I’ve earned money here or there with blogging and writing (mostly reader donations, so thanks guys!), and that’s been wonderful. I’ve got a book I’m working on right now, and some shorter pieces to be shopped around, so I figure I’ll be making money off of my writing one way or another.
Tell us about three other bloggers you admire, and why.
Beck from Beckandherkinks.com is my first. She is so incredibly helpful and welcoming to new bloggers. I can barely keep my own life and blog together, and she is running hers and helping everyone out. I can’t even begin to explain how much that means to me. I am a huge person for taking care of your community, and she is the shining example of that.
Second, is Rayne because she did something long before I tried and probably does it better. She’s an ambassador of the kink lifestyle to readers that aren’t always kinky. She answers questions constantly. Plus, she’s fucking kick ass and hilarious.
My last one is Lilly from Dangerouslilly.com because Lilly won’t stop talking about the problems with an unregulated industry. This is so important. I’ve learned so much from her about toxic toys and the bullshit that happens in the industry. What she is doing is so important. We need to help her. We need to talk about the things she’s talking about.
If you review sex toys, what are the top three toys you wish you could get your hands on next?
Oh, man. I hate this. Because I’m so mercurial, it changes depending on what kind of sex I’m fantasizing about. The Eleven by Njoy has been at the top of my list for about 2 years. I’m also desperate to try the Ora by Lelo even though I am the opposite of a Lelo fangirl. After that, I think it would have to be the Vamp Silicone Sprinkle. I am well known for my love of girthy dildos, and that one just seems perfect.
Who is your favourite adult shopping company, and why?
I actually prefer to shop in person. Being able to actually see the product and talk to the people who handle it everyday is important to me. And, since I appreciate their work, I’ll buy from the store so it can continue to be in business. I often buy from the store I work at because, hey, store discount is nice, but if they don’t have what I want, I’ll try to shop local somewhere else.
Do you prefer blogging fictional erotica, real life sex anecdotes or factual based content such as reviews and advice guides?
Personally, I love breaking down media and marketing that reinforces the shame about sex. I am very punk on a philosophical level, so I am at my happiest ranting about some kind of bullshit or injustice that I see. The last year’s been a bit rough for me, so I stopped doing it, but I’m totally working on a few pieces in that vein because they are my favourite things to write.