This week’s sex blogger in the spotlight is Switch Studies, who has an easy to navigate, ‘clean feeling‘ blog which ironically houses education on all things ‘filth‘! By which I mean sex and sexuality, of course. There are resources about alternatives to the stereotypical ‘norms’ of sexuality and orientations, which is simply brilliant. Non-monogamy/poly, kink, bi, gay, cis and non-cis – whatever info you require you can find blog articles about it or links to where you can find more information from Switch Studies.
In addition to being a sex ed resource of your dreams, Switch Studies is Nic’s place to write about the raw thoughts surrounding her own sex life and relationships. It would be easy to lose many hours travelling around these posts, losing oneself in the complexities of emotions, interactions with others and refreshingly honest point of view when it comes to sex.
Find out more about this amazing sex blogger below.
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I’m Nic, ginger in charge at SwitchStudies.com. I write about kink, nonmonogamy, and sexuality with the occasional bit of erotic non fiction thrown in for variety.
What’s your blog name/online handle and how did you come up with the idea?
“Switch Studies” was a bit of a joke. Some people in the kink community treat switches as fascinating anomalies who need to be studied and questioned at length. Since I’m a switch with a scientific bent, I decided to run with it.
Which country do you live in?
New Orleans. It may not technically be a nation to itself, but you try telling the locals that.
Approximately how long have you been sex blogging?
Switch Studies has been around for a year and a half. There was another, years ago, but it has long since been deleted. Let’s never speak of it again.
Why did you start a sex blog?
I read quite a few sex blogs. Many of them are excellent, but I hadn’t found any written by someone who shares my identity as a polyamorous bisexual switch. I’d find myself nodding along with a perspective about kink only to be jarred by a sentence that implied that of course all relationships are monogamous, or reading about polyamory from a perspective that doesn’t allow for consensual power dynamics in relationships. It felt as though reading a representation of sexuality that encompassed my experience required cobbling bits and pieces of others’ writing into a sort of kinky Frankenstein’s monster. If I was going to be doing that anyway, I may as well put it out there for anyone else who might be interested.
Also I was unemployed at the time and writing helped prevent going stir crazy.
What’s your favourite thing about blogging?
Two things. First, writing forces me to articulate situations and responses carefully. I’m parsing out emotions that I would formerly have locked in a trunk marked “Hazardous Materials, do not unseal” and just refused to deal with. Training myself to think critically about relationships has (I think) improved my ability to communicate with partners. Second, the feedback. There isn’t a whole lot, but I love the unexpected solidarity in a comment, the question that makes me rethink, and the random ridiculous conversations occasionally sparked on Twitter.
Do you use social media? If so, where can we find you?
Do your friends know you’re a sex blogger?
One very old friend who lives very far away reads it. I’ve mentioned to partners and one or two other friends that I write about sex on the Internet, but never said where. Writing anonymously lets me be more open than I would be if partners or friends were reading: I’d feel obligated to censor myself for the sake of others’ privacy.
Have you ever done anything specifically so you can blog about it afterwards?
No. I have written a ranty blog post in order to prevent myself starting an unnecessary fight on FetLife though.
Will you still be blogging in 5 years time?
I’ll be writing somewhere, goodness knows whether it will still be this blog. I rather hope so.
If not already a professional blog: would you say you’re looking to earn a living from blogging eventually, or will it remain a hobby?
No, I enjoy writing it, but I’m contrary; if I felt like I had to, it’d be a chore.
Who is your favourite adult shopping company, and why?
Home Depot. No, really. Impact toys, clothespins, cling wrap, hardware for attaching cuffs and collars to things, supplies for making kink furniture; it’s all there. It’s also open late and walking distance from home.
Do you prefer blogging fictional erotica, real life sex anecdotes or factual based content such as reviews and advice guides?
I write a few different things. There are general thoughts on kink, polyamory, and sexuality, which I wouldn’t quite call advice but which I hope help a few people find a more solid footing in their own thoughts on the matter. There are more specific situations, relationship issues, etc. that can pull those general thoughts out of the realm of ideas into applied situations. Things are always so much messier in the real world!. And finally, there are some sex and kink anecdotes. I write whichever I prefer on any given day.
– Switch Studies