How I prepare my body for my partner and sex

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cara sutra preparing for sex in the bath

Do you prefer your lover:

a) fresh from the bath and perfumed?
b) fresh from the bath without perfume?
c) clean but not right from the tub or shower?
d) slightly sweaty (or musky)?

I’d have to select a) because I’m a clean freak. The way we go about sex it gets to the slightly sweaty/musky stage pretty damn quickly. I would also pretty much live in the bat or shower if I had my way. It’s not only reassuringly clean, it’s also just so relaxing. Hey, why not just sex in the shower? Great combo.

Do you maintain your body for sex with respect to facial hair, body hair, pubic hair, fingernails or toenails?

Yes, I always trim my tache.

No but seriously I am aware of my body with regards to sex and I like to be ready. I therefore keep up with my beauty regimes as far as my personal preferences for pubic hair, nails and everything else goes.

Do you maintain/prepare according to your lover’s preferences?

I do, but this is more a happy coincidence rather than strictly obeying his wants. He never demands that I have my pubic hair a certain way, or my nails or body hair… but I know he would prefer smooth legs, pits and bits. To be honest I don’t think he minds if there’s some pubic hair as long as it’s not a complete jungle – it’s me that decides I want it all off at all times. Bare from the neck down, I try to keep to head hair and eyebrows only!

Do you have body adornments such as piercings or tattoos for sexual reasons? Does your lover?

I did. I had a vertical clitoris hood piercing. I loved it. I took the bar out for a couple of days though (it rattles on bullet vibrators) and the hole half closed up. I want a repiercing now, a horizontal clitoris hood piercing this time. Definitely for sexual reasons. A ring and a clip on leash… rawr. Hot.

I don’t have any tattoos, they’re not my thing (on me I mean; I love them on others). I have pierced ears and a pierced navel. Most definitely NOT for sexual reasons. Belly button sex? Um, no thanks.

Do you choose any cosmetics, lubes, condoms or other sexually relevant items according to how they taste? Do you not use them because of the taste?

Yes I have a weakness for cherry lube and I quite like other fruity flavoured lubricants too. Not a huge fan of chocolate based sexual accessories but they’re ok. I don’t particularly choose flavoured condoms as I prefer to suck him rather than a latex sleeve, even if it does taste faintly of bubble gum. Usually I have to try out various flavoured lubricants, condoms and other sex items due to my work as a sexual product reviewer.

Is there a taste or aroma that turns you on or that you can use to turn on your lover?

Our preferred scents on each other are for me to wear Obsession: Night, and if he wears his scent from Black Phoenix Alchemy Lab (a BPAL) then all women within a 10 mile radius have an orgasm. Or at least, that’s how it seems.

I also have a weakness for a real leather smell; that will be due to my kink factor. Paddles, floggers, whips… the scent of leather on these (as well as corsets and strap ons) is just SO horny. Oh and don’t forget new leather boots smell. ~melts~

Bonus: Do you prepare a room for sex–mood music, candles, scent, cleaning it or anything? Tell us about it.

Yes when we’re being particularly romantic and not rushing parental sex in the 10 minutes between toddler crying or something else happening. if we do get the rare occasion to get really sexy and romantic, it’s All Go on the romance. Candles, massage oils, sex toys, bubble bath or shared shower, clutter free room and everything organised and ready for a full on night of sex and sensuality.


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  1. BPAL makes excellent scents. I am also not really a fan of chocolate flavored lube or body powder. It’s always very… chalky.

    Happy TMI Tuesday. :]


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