This week we welcome the wonderful A Good Woman’s Dirty Mind blog into the Sex Blogger Spotlight Series. Thank you so much to Ms Quote for her direct, open and honest answers, it’s been fab to learn more about both you and your blogging.
Keep up the good sex blogging work and I very much look forward to joining in with #AdultSexEdMonth coming up this June.
– Cara Sutra
A Good Woman’s Dirty Mind
I started A Good Woman’s Dirty Mind back in September 2012 as being nothing more than a placeholder for my erotica. However, with a background founding, managing and editing a number of online lifestyle magazines, I wanted to dabble in a couple of articles about sex and relationships from time to time. Let’s put it this way, I’m doing a hell of a lot more than dabbling these days.
What’s your blog name/online handle and how did you come up with the idea?
By looking at and talking with me, no one would ever assume that I’m a sex blogger. I’m not overtly sexual; I pretty much look like a typical suburban housewife. I have what friends call a very professional, proper and joyfully spirited personality. However, I have some rather progressive views about sex, and at 49, I’m having the best sex of my life. It just keeps getting better. Sometimes I feel as if I picked up some kind of sexual Midas touch.
I didn’t set out to be the every woman’s example of embracing and feeling empowered my sexuality and sensuality, but it just happened. I just want every woman to know that it’s more than okay to accept, explore and embrace their sexuality and sensuality. I think women and the world as a whole would be happier and enjoy better relationships with their partners. I can say that I’ve never felt happier and more centered in my life since preaching what I practice.
As far as my nom de plume, Ms. Quote, goes, I wish I had given it a lot more thought. I came up with it on the fly when I registered on Literotica a few years ago. I never expected that I would wind up having a popular sex blog. There are times I’d like to use my legal name in order to lend some credibility and extend my sex writing to professional publications, but I come from a very socially conservative family and work for some companies that would not want to be associated with a sex blogger/writer.
Which country do you live in?
I live in the U.S. in a suburb of Detroit.
Approximately how long have you been sex blogging? Why did you start a sex blog?
I got back to writing erotica in 2012 and started my blog in September 2012 as a placeholder for my stories. However, with a background as a journalist and having done a lot of work in creating, managing and editing several online lifestyle magazines and corporate blogs, I couldn’t resist the urge to write about sex topics that fascinate me.
I love writing stories that get into the sexual minds of men as well as women. We really can’t have great sex or great relationships if we don’t understand or know what makes our partners and the opposite sex tick.
The more I started writing the more I discovered that there’s a lot that people don’t understand about sex. We’re just too embarrassed to talk openly and honestly about it in our culture. There’s so much about sex, especially from a woman’s point of view that professionals — therapists and physicians — don’t know. Why is it in that in this day and age that it’s almost impossible to find credible information about things like female ejaculation or the G-spot? Why can’t a number of middle-aged men find a clitoris or know what to do with it? Why are so many women absolutely clueless about the magic of the prostate gland? It’s why I started #AdultSexEdMonth last June. I wanted to mobilize other bloggers to share the great articles they were writing and expose them to the general public. I was thrilled with how many bloggers got behind the movement and contributed their stories. I cataloged everything I could find that was shared on my website (http://agoodwomansdirtymind.com/adult-sex-ed-month-stories-by-topic/). It’s one of the most popular features on my blog. I’m glad people use it as a resource even if it’s only the tip of the iceberg of the amount of informative and credible content that’s buried in the depths of “socially correct” search engines.
What’s your favourite thing about blogging?
Writing about sex fascinates me. It sure as hell is a lot more fun to write than the stuff I work on in my day job.
I’d also like to think that what I’m doing is groundbreaking in a way. Sex is something we all do, want to do, and enjoy even if it’s hush-hush and taboo to talk about. I hope by the time die that people will be more open-minded about sex and embrace sex as a normal and healthy part of their lives.
Do you use social media? If so, where can we find you?
Do your friends know you’re a sex blogger?
Very few. I have friends, even BFFs, who are way too uptight to talk about sex. It’s just not proper. Some just don’t have the maturity to talk about sex respectfully or not turn it into gossip fodder. Of the handful of friends that I’ve told, there’s only one who takes a genuine interest in my blog. Then again, he’s an erotica writer, too.
Of course my gentleman friend, Parrot, knows about my blog. He gets a kick out of reading what I write about him and us. I often kick around story ideas with him and he’s written a few guests posts. He’s an incredibly gifted writer. I fell in love with his writing before I fell in love with him. His stories will make you melt in your panties. He keeps some of his erotica at Parrot’s Pen.
Have you ever done anything specifically so you can blog about it afterwards?
Yes and no. For us, sex is not a project, but when it turns out to be a story telling-worthy experience, hell, yes, I write about it! Sometimes It’s inspiration for an erotic short fiction story, (See High Class Hooky). Sometimes it’s fodder for a blog post. (See My Sex Bucket List: Le déjeuner sur l’herbe.) I’m still trying to figure out how to write about our first experience with a sex swing beyond three words: Oh. My. God!
Will you still be blogging in 5 years time?
Oh hell yes!
If not already a professional blog: would you say you’re looking to earn a living from blogging eventually, or will it remain a hobby?
I make some money off my blog, but not enough to make a living off of it. If I could, it would be my dream job.
Tell us about three other bloggers you admire, and why.
I have a big colleague crush on Jon Pressick of Sex in Words. I love his curiosity, fascination and insatiable thirst for knowledge about sex. I also like that he’s a big supporter and promoter of so many sex bloggers, writers and experts.
I love what Walker Thornton does to educate and empower Boomer women. She writes about sex with intelligence and class.
How can I not cheer about what you do with and beyond your blog? You cover almost the entire spectrum of sex with something for everyone — gay, straight, vanilla, kinky. It’s a sinfully good sexual smorgasbord. [Thank you so much! – Cara xx]
Who is your favourite adult shopping company, and why?
I’m very partial to Little Shop of O’s. Yes, I do some work for them, but I absolutely adore the co-owner. She’s a sweetheart of a gal. I don’t think there’s anything that they don’t carry.
Do you prefer blogging fictional erotica, real life sex anecdotes or factual based content such as reviews and advice guides?
I like to write the real-life stuff as much as I do fact-based stories. I like being able to indulge in my exhibitionist and journalistic sides.
– Ms. Quote
A Good Woman’s Dirty Mind