Why Do Straight Women Love Gay Erotica?

Why Do Straight Women Love Gay Erotica?

Do straight women love gay erotica? Natasha Braithwaite answers that question…

I write it, I read it, I watch it. Yeah, that’s right, man-on-man action is one of my all-time favorite leisure activities. In my personal life, people think it’s rather strange, which is why I have decided to keep that interest of mine private. Fortunately, as a result of the myriad of ways to connect with like-minded people via social networking, I have learned there are other gay-sex groupies just like me.

Why Do Straight Women Love Gay Erotica?Don’t get me wrong, it’s not that I don’t like reading straight erotica and watching straight porn, I do. Lots. But there is just something about the idea of gay sex that is a huge turn-on for me, but it’s for completely different reasons than the turn-on from hetero sex.

I’ve begun to consider why it is that I have always been a man-love fanatic. How could such a “fetish” develop? Is it something in the wiring of my brain? Did something go astray in the development of my sexuality? Gee, can you tell I work in the field of psychology?

The reasons for my fascination with MM are numerous, many of them obvious, some of them less so, and I’m certain a portion of the causes are completely subconscious. But I do want to cover the reasons that I’m consciously aware of.

To begin with, let’s talk about the male physique. There is something beautiful about the masculine form—the virility and raw power in the taut muscles, hard planes and sharp edges. I’m a sucker for sexy bodies, and have been obsessed with male nudity since I can remember. In fact, my high school art teacher told me I had to “tone down,” my drawing of naked men.

Is this an Electra complex? Does it say something about my deep hidden desire for an incestuous relationship with my father? Um, no. Seriously, no.

With such a reverence for the masculine form, it makes sense to enjoy seeing two naked men at once, right? There is just something so amazing about seeing (or reading about) rippling, glistening muscles of two men groping and clawing at each other in orgasmic ecstasy, no?

And I have evidence that I’m not the only freak who loves this. According my twitter friend, FLGirl, man-love is different because there is “something so sensual about it.” Why Do Straight Women Love Gay Erotica?Another twitter friend, Dee, said this about the topic: “I find it more erotic. Seeing two strong men being tender, caring & loving. The way they touch, kiss, look. Penetration does it for me tho.”

Turns out straight women love gay erotica. Yes, there is something sensual about it, and I suspect our perception of that sensuality has a lot to do with sex roles in society. As women, we are often seen as weaker, submissive and we may feel powerless. Men are seen as the more dominant gender, the sex partner who “gives” the sex, rather than receives it. There is also a societal stigma to gay sex, as if the bottom, or the partner who “receives” is more submissive. More feminine.

You may be wondering how the topic of gay sex turned into a sociology lesson. Okay, hang in with me for just another minute here. I have a point, honest…

Perhaps as women, if we feel we’ve been painted the “subordinate” gender, it may lead us to fantasize about men being in a position of submission. Just as those of us who enjoy the odd BDSM play in the bedroom, acting out our need for domination, maybe that’s why we also love to watch men submit to the power of the “dominant” top?

Oh, boy. Now this is getting psychological, isn’t it?

Now, does this perhaps mean we, as women, wish to fantasize about ourselves as men? Do we enjoy imagining ourselves in a role of sexual power, dominating other men, making the other man a receiver, a role traditionally defined as female?

According to a blog post on the topic by Brian Moylan on Gawker.com, this is precisely the reason: “In Western sexual dynamics, women are often assumed to be passive, the ones who are ravaged by men. But, by aligning herself with a gay male identity, the straight female reader can envision herself as powerful, sexually potent, voracious, and the active participant (or top)—all things that are associated with macho sexuality. And all of this while still in the company of another man.”

Why Do Straight Women Love Gay Erotica?I want to go back to the hotness of man on man action. Two sweaty, hard bodies, pulsing hard-ons, writhing in sexual ecstasy, giving and receiving pleasure with another hot man. This is just… So. Fucking. Sexy.

Oh, boy! Isn’t human sexuality the most interesting, confusing, complex interplay of mind, body and sensory stimulation? What do you think? Are you turned on by boy-on-boy lovin’? Is there a reason for our love of M/M that I haven’t thought of? Do straight women love gay erotica?

– Natasha Braithwaite

About the author

Natasha Braithwaite is the author of The Proposition: A Compendium of Carnality, an MMF ménage à trois erotica novel. She enjoys exposing her characters to unexplored sexual territory.

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  1. I hate the fact that most hetero porn is fugly men with small to average penis size giving half hearted performance while the woman is breaking her back to bring HIM to orgasm. Yawn.

      • Thanks for your comment. Have you read any Tiffany Reisz? I do go on about the Original Sinner series but I love it SO much. A great mix of… well, pretty much everything lol x

  2. My slave and I were very discrete. Now that we are older and it no longer matters we can discuss our bedroom play. We started our journey in BDSM femdom play when I gave my husband his first intense bare bottom spanking. Listening to him cry out and watching him squirm I knew I made a statement that from now on I was in charge. I was a closet bi-women who enjoyed pussy more than cock. I made love to my close lady friend behind my husbands back. My husband was very submissive and whenever I raised my voice he jumped to anything I asked. I started making excuses about intercourse seducing my husband into my crotch to service my pussy. He was superb at cunnilingus and when I couldn’t stand it any longer I made him eat my ass. I found lots of excuses to reprimand him for discipline spanking his bare ass at least once a week. I used my hairbrush and his own belt to punish him. When he buckled his pants it always reminded of his welts burnt on his cheeks.
    My girlfriend and I went to a Hollywood sex shop bought a few lesbian strapon videos and purchased our own harnesses and several different size dildoes. While my husband was at work we watched the videos then experimented in fucking each other. We had to experiment but once we got the hang of it we could fuck each other’s pussies and asses coming like crazy. We used condoms on the dildoes and lots of slippery lube to avoid feces in our vaginas. By the end of the afternoon we both felt so nasty we took turn spanking each other’s butts to tears with our new leather paddle we picked up at the store.
    After several months of strapon sex with my girlfriend she suggested that I fuck him in the ass. I was already finger fucking him giving him prostate massages to milk his come avoiding fucking him with my pussy. My girlfriend suggested we come clean with my husband about our lesbianism. I knew he would never leave me seeing two hot naked ladies going at it. We decided if he got used to seeing us doing it we would have his catch us playing with strapons. If this turned him on we had his ass.
    We decided to get down and dirty that day starting before my husband/slave cane home from work. We did lots of kissing, rubbing, caressing, tribbing and very vocal pussy licking. My husband came in catching me eating my girlfriend, standing there until she had a screaming orgasm.
    I knew he was there so I invited him to not say a word get naked and I would suck his cock until his balls turned inside out from coming. I knew he was mad, angry and upset for dining behind his back. Fortunately he couldn’t pass up the suck of a lifetime. My girlfriend sat in his face while sucked. Instead of bitching he cried passionately from my vacuum mouth and velvet slippery tongue. When he was about to come I stopped, bit and sucked his balls which always keeps him from shooting. My girlfriend was delirious as he licked her pussy. I sucked my husband dry during two successive blowjobs. Filling my belly with come.
    After my husband recovered he demanded payback forcing us to submit to over the knee spankings blistering our butts good. Knowing we wouldn’t stop he told me divorce was out of the question but he wanted us to be more open about our lesbianism. I paid more attention to both my girlfriend and husband so all three of us were sexually satisfied. I still disciplined my husband weekly and my girlfriend and we certainly kept spanking our naughty butts on occasion.
    We introduced my husband to strapon sex during a wild three way introducing him to anal sex taking his virginity. He actually liked it wondering why I didn’t fuck him sooner. I now have my strapon slave/husband and my live in lesbian girlfriend. I have a cock and eat pussy too!

  3. My husband when we were in our 30s would do anything I asked. Of course it helped giving him the strap on his bare ass to convince him to do it. I found out that he liked anal play and behind the closed doors of our bedroom I took his virginity away with my strap on dildo. I also teased him by shoving the strap on dildo down his throat and to my surprise he didn’t even choke and enjoyed sucking my “cock“. I worked in a clinic and believed in safe sex and one of my fellow workers Dan was gay hung and good looking. We got to talking and I told him all about how much my husband loves sucking my dildo and taking it in in the ass and then he asked me what about exposing him to the real thing?
    I knew my friend would definitely not be a threat but I wasn’t interested in screwing him and being gay he liked me as a friend but not as a sex partner. I was really interested in watching my husband in action watching him lose his virginity to an experienced guy. Working at a blood clinic my husband and I always get tested and I requested that Dan get tested today. Dan passed with flying colors and I called my husband on the phone with my sexy voice telling him he was going to get it in the ass tonight so he had better take an enema before I get home. He was actually excited but little did he know he was going to get it in the ass with the real thing.
    We have a nice warm Jacuzzi by the pool in our secluded backyard and I figured that would be the perfect place for Dan to fuck my husband. We have a rule in our backyard where everyone goes naked. I tell people a had of time so they can bow out if they wish. Dan I thought that was a great idea, guaranteed that he could seduce and fuck my husband by the end of the night. My husband gets home at 3:30 giving him plenty of time to clean himself up. Dan and I drove to my place getting there after six and there was my husband in the living room sitting on the couch on top of a towel stroking his cock stark naked. I could see he was watching porn on TV. He didn’t even take his hand off his cock and was still stroking it as he greeted Dan having met him before. Dan was rather amused and actually excited knowing that my husband liked this type of porn. Dan was already thinking it was going to be a piece of cake to get his cock up my husband’s ass. I actually like it when he watches porn because it gets his hormones revved up. To my surprise I looked at the TV and he had in an FMM bi-sexy video. and at the moment the stud was fucking the husband in the ass.
    I still cussed my husband out telling him to shut the TV off and make us three martinis then we are all going to go out to the Jacuzzi. My husband was a 6 foot tall good-looking stud with a 7 inch cock that I personally kept completely shaved of pubic hair. Dan had seen my husband naked before in the backyard but knowing he was going to fuck him, Dan was quite excited. I actually took Dan out to our pool dressing room to undress. We have clothes lockers and two showers so we can clean up before the Jacuzzi. It was actually exciting to strip down with a gay guy finding out he didn’t even get an erection when he saw my beautiful naked body. We actually got into one shower together soaping each other’s bodies just because we were very intimate friends. He watched me clean my own pussy quite embarrassed to touch me there but he did allow me to soap his cock and balls until he had a raging erection. I told him I was disappointed that he was gay because I would’ve loved to fuck him right then and there. I kept stroking his cock thinking that it was about 9 inches long and over 2 inches wide knowing it was going to be a chore to push it all away into my husbands balls deep. Dan wondered if I had second thoughts and I told him as long as he goes slow I was going to enjoy watching my husband take it for the first time by a real cock and a sexy man. Dan suggested that we only keep to the main event tonight since it was my husband‘s first time and refrain from making him suck his cock until the next time we met. Dan said truthfully when he takes someone’s anal cherry they usually pop their wad quite soon because it’s so exciting. I told him that I was totally convinced my husband was not going to hold off when he feels that huge cock sliding in and out of his ass.
    I didn’t care if Dan was gay and I wanted to make my husband a little jealous so I led him out to the Jacuzzi but his erection where my husband was waiting with our martinis. He acted quite amused telling me I see that you two got to know each other. When my husband saw Dan‘s big cock his own reaction was coming back making him rather embarrassed because he knew he was a lot smaller. We got into the Jacuzzi and sipped on our martinis making small talk at first but then the conversation got around to bisexuality. My husband and I were party swingers screwing around with our best friends whenever they were in the mood. The ladies in our group are a little more liberal than the guys and I think all of us have had lesbian sex together. The husbands in our group are still homophobic and several have sucked cock and two of the guys got drunk at one party and fucked each other in the ass while we all cheered them on. My husband was quite timid, bashful, and would be quite embarrassed if our group knew he sucked cock and took it in the ass. But tonight the only eyes that would be watching were mine and I was sure I was going to get an eye full.
    In the Jacuzzi I invited the guys to sit next to each other as the talk started to get more and more erotic. Dan openly talked about being gay and how much he enjoyed fucking guys in the ass. He told us he had seduced and fucked some of the most adamantly heterosexual guys he’s ever met. My husband jumped as Dan grabbed his cock and start stroking it under the bubbles. My husband was already stroking Dan’s cock and I had no idea he was that horny and interested. The martinis were doing the trick because Dan asked me if I had any lubricant available. I handed him some anal lube that would really do the trick making his cock slippery enough for a virgin. My husband looked at me with a big question mark and I knew it was time for me to put my foot down. I looked at him point-blank in the eyes and told him he was going to get the best Jacuzzi fuck he would ever get and I was going to watch him lose his virginity right here and now.
    My husband‘s face turned red with embarrassment when Dan pushed him over the top of the Jacuzzi bottoms up he didn’t fight it. I helped lube my husband’s ass pushing several fingers inside stimulating his prostate making sure that he could take a good fuck with plenty of lube. Dan got behind my husband and I slipped up his cock with more lubricant and I grabbed his cock and started rubbing the head around my husband’s anus. I wanted to be the one to push the head inside for my own personal excitement and Dan sensed that. I already trained my husband to push out on rear entry fucks with my dildo and that’s exactly what he did when I popped the huge glans inside my husband’s anus. I’m sure my neighbors heard my husband crying out but that was nothing new because I fuck him in the Jacuzzi with my strap on quite a bit. Once the head was inside I gave Dan a sharp slap on the ass gave him a kiss and told him to take my husband’s cherry. For me Dan took it nice and slow popping his cock in an out, pushing it in deeper and deeper a little bit at a time while my husband could barely breathe as his ass was opened up like never before. He tried to hold down his cries trying to be macho but I told him to give in to the feelings because he didn’t have to take it like a man, he was already being taken like a woman. When Dan got past the six inch point my husband started crying out my name begging forgiveness thinking he was being punished. I slapped his face to wake him up and told him as my slave this was just another step to make me happy and I told him I was going to make him take dick for me whenever I wanted so he better enjoy it. Just then Dan grabbed my husband’s hips driving the rest of his cock inside balls deep making him squeal like a baby. My husband fought the impalement wiggling and squirming all over but it was too late Dan rode him like a bucking bronco until my husband finally gave in and stopped squirming. Dan apologized telling both of us there’s not really an easy way to take someone’s virginity with a cock like his. Slapping my husband on the ass telling him he may as well enjoy the ride now because his own wife knows I’m no longer a virgin. My husband felt defeated as Dan started out slow fucking his ass with half strokes and about five minutes later he was pumping my husband like a fine tuned machine. My husband has been trained to enjoy prostate stimulation and after that painful rear entry the big head of Dan‘s cock was doing a number on my husbands prostate and his cock was drooling pre-come all over the deck. I was quite turned on fingering myself with one hand in it pinching my clip with the other excitingly watching my husband take my friends cock fucking his virgin butt. My husband actually settled down and enjoyed the rest of the fuck just like he does when I screwed them with my strap on. I knew my husband really enjoyed the fuck when he started blasting his come all over the deck. Dan who practices semen retention continued fucking my husband’s ass enjoying every thrust. I got up next to him to give him a long French kiss ask him how much he enjoyed it? he told me that my husband was one of the best fucks he ever had wondering if he could spend some time with us to get him hooked on cock. This sounded even more exciting because I didn’t know if he’d like breaking in virgins. I told him after he blasted his come into my husband’s ass to ask him personally. I also said that my husband will definitely need cocksucking lessons. I pushed a finger into Dan’s butt hole and started fingering his prostate to hurry up his ejaculation. calling me a nasty girl Dan said that I push the right button shoved his cock all the way into my husband‘s ass and started coming I could feel his anus tightening around my fingers every time he squirted. As soon as he finished coming down slowly pulled his cock out of my husband’s ass leaving it wide open dilated. It seemed like my husband was in a trance because he was still wiggling his ass as if he was getting fucked. I giggled and told Dan he didn’t need ito get an OK from my husband telling him to give me a call and come over anytime he wished.

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