Fetish Friday: 5 reasons you want a Mistress to sit on your face

Facesitting and Queening

Facesitting is the act of, well, sitting on a person’s face. Clue’s in the name, really. Why would anyone do this? It’s actually very erotic. Face sitting can be undertaken during vanilla sex, with either a partner of the opposite sex or same sex, or it can be dialled all the way up to kinky and beyond, by adding a touch of control and power exchange into the equation.

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When face sitting is undertaken in a kinky way, with a Dominant woman sitting on a submissive or slave’s face, it’s known as Queening. This may move on to smothering, which is bringing in asphyxiation fetish as well as general control desires.

Is Queening better than face sitting? Well, it’s different. It depends on your personal fetishes and sexual preferences. For the submissive male or female, it can be an intense experience where they feel vulnerable, completely submissive, at the mercy of their Top/Owner/Mistress and if permitted, able to pleasure their Dominant through oral sex.

For me, Queening isn’t about oral sex. I don’t have sexual contact with my slaves and submissives, which you can read more about here. I also Queen submissives and slaves while I am clothed, as  I subscribe to the CFNM (clothed female, naked male) school of FemDom.

I’ve found 5 reasons why a Mistress sitting on your face tops vanilla / sexual facesitting every time.

  1. There is a highly kinky element to the submissive or slave feeling forced to endure, that both the submissive and the Mistress enjoys
  2. The sadistic heart of the Mistress is sure to love the cruelty of the submissive being so near, yet so far from her sexual regions
  3. You can combine kinky facesitting or Queening with a range of other kinks for a more intense session, such as female or male chastity devices, bondage, hoods, masks and asphyxiation
  4. The aim is the enjoyment of the power exchange and display of Dominance and submission, not merely sexual contact and/or orgasm
  5. Should the Mistress desire or require sexual contact with her submissive, she can of course order this too!

Have you ever experienced facesitting? Did you do this to a partner or did they do it to you? What were your feelings on the matter? Would you try it in a more kinky way?

Please comment below with your thoughts. I’ll be interested in reading your thoughts!


Please read my other Fetish Friday posts here

– Cara Sutra


  1. I love how a simple act like facesitting can vary from mild to very intense. Whilst I’m not a traditional slave and that my practice of BDSM in general is very mild and I’m pretty illiterate in the etiquette of a D/s relationship I love how this act in particular can evoke a lot of emotion in me. I love the power exchange, the lack of eye contact and lack of acknowledgement reducing me down to a mere inanimate object. Forced to remain absolutely still as I’m slowly smothered and used as chair/sofa whilst she watches TV, reads a book. I love the sensual feeling of being smothered, the skin on skin which with more pressure feels like I’m becoming one with her ass and becoming an extension of it. i love the musks and scents after a long day and if combined with her flatulence on occasion it is the most highly erotic experience for me.

    • Thanks for your comment and for reading my post. You have captured your desires perfectly there, and what you describe sounds highly appealing right now!

  2. I have had a wonderful gf now for a year next month. It wasn’t long after we started our sexual relationship that we starteds engaging in face sitting. It started out of us engainen in the 69 position. I would climax before she did but we would stay in that position although she would sit up more on my face so that I could easily get her off. Either she kneels on one keg and stretches the other out or just kneels right above my face & grinds herself to orgasm. I love her sexy panties so @ times she will leave them on & pull them to the side or just take them initially. Either way sliding my mouth lips across her perenium pussy & ass is a dream come true

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