Facesitting and Queening
Facesitting is the act of, well, sitting on a person’s face. Clue’s in the name, really. Why would anyone do this? It’s actually very erotic. Face sitting can be undertaken during vanilla sex, with either a partner of the opposite sex or same sex, or it can be dialled all the way up to kinky and beyond, by adding a touch of control and power exchange into the equation.
When face sitting is undertaken in a kinky way, with a Dominant woman sitting on a submissive or slave’s face, it’s known as Queening. This may move on to smothering, which is bringing in asphyxiation fetish as well as general control desires.
Is Queening better than face sitting? Well, it’s different. It depends on your personal fetishes and sexual preferences. For the submissive male or female, it can be an intense experience where they feel vulnerable, completely submissive, at the mercy of their Top/Owner/Mistress and if permitted, able to pleasure their Dominant through oral sex.
For me, Queening isn’t about oral sex. I don’t have sexual contact with my slaves and submissives, which you can read more about here. I also Queen submissives and slaves while I am clothed, as I subscribe to the CFNM (clothed female, naked male) school of FemDom.
I’ve found 5 reasons why a Mistress sitting on your face tops vanilla / sexual facesitting every time.
- There is a highly kinky element to the submissive or slave feeling forced to endure, that both the submissive and the Mistress enjoys
- The sadistic heart of the Mistress is sure to love the cruelty of the submissive being so near, yet so far from her sexual regions
- You can combine kinky facesitting or Queening with a range of other kinks for a more intense session, such as female or male chastity devices, bondage, hoods, masks and asphyxiation
- The aim is the enjoyment of the power exchange and display of Dominance and submission, not merely sexual contact and/or orgasm
- Should the Mistress desire or require sexual contact with her submissive, she can of course order this too!
Have you ever experienced facesitting? Did you do this to a partner or did they do it to you? What were your feelings on the matter? Would you try it in a more kinky way?
Please comment below with your thoughts. I’ll be interested in reading your thoughts!
– Cara Sutra