The sex toys conundrum: what to do when your clitoris stops working

panic buttonIt’s an issue for many women who use sex toys regularly. You buy a sex toy, you fall in love, then after a while you’re having to leave it to buzz longer and longer on your clitoris before you reach orgasm. Eventually it’s difficult to orgasm even with the “Jack-Hammer Clit Vibe 1000” that used to be a dead cert for a mindblowing orgasm in under 10 seconds. Now you have to book half a day to reach that destination and as for manual masturbation… forget about it.

Is there a cure? How is this treated? Will you ever be able to orgasm in less than an hour ever again?

Fear not, for yes, you can take steps to resolve this problem. The bad news is that this is a pattern of behaviour in your body that is learned from vibrating sex toys used on the nerve endings in the clitoris, something that will repeat time and time again if you are partial to clitoral vibrators.

Just like the effects on society from overly graphic violence in the many forms of media (an article that is perhaps for another time), the clitoris loses its sensitivity and becomes more immune to stimulation after sustained and prolonged exposure to it. This is especially the case when it comes to the overly intense vibrations found in mains powered wand vibrators, bullet vibrators and sometimes, even in your bog-standard, innocent looking rabbit vibe.

If and when this happens to you it can be easy to panic. Give up. Resign yourself to a life of locking yourself away for a weekend in the hope of one elusive orgasm. In reality, it’s just time for a mini-break for your clitoris. That’s right, bag up your beloved clit vibes for a while and give it a rest. Literally.

After my recent 60 Days of Sex Toy Chastity I found that my natural levels of clitoral stimulation returned after two weeks of no vibration to the area. Of course it will be different for every woman, everyone’s physiology is different.

Whether you choose to have a break from purely clitoral vibrators or other styles of vibrators or even all sex toys for your chosen period of time is completely up to you. I found that using static butt plugs and vaginal dildos such as glass dildos and metal G-spot dildos had no detrimental effect on my clitoral stimulation levels returning.

I need to undergo this ‘clitoral cleanse’ about 2-3 times a year, which overall doesn’t seem too big a thing to ask. It’s a refreshment to your sex life to rediscover more natural methods of arousal. This can be through either manual self stimulation or through enjoying a more varied spectrum of intimacy with a partner.

In the unlikely event that after a break from vibrating sex toys you still do not regain the sensation in your clitoris or indeed have any other sexual issues, you are advised to seek the help of a medical professional.

 

1 COMMENT

  1. What a interesting read. I never realised a clit could become basically bored!. im extremely lucky as I balance between vibrators and manual stimulation so Im still able to achieve orgasm through both.

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