When you think about punishment, what are you thinking? Are you thinking about something that makes you suffer, or something that turns you on?
A question raised on my forum got me thinking. What is the best punishment for unruly submissives?
Best is something of an odd word to use. Best for whom? For what results? I seem to be creating more questions the further I think about this subject.
It depends on the situation. How the need for punishment arose in the first place.
If your submissive needs punishing, it’s usually a direct consequence of one of two things.
- They’ve been disobedient.
- They want physical attention (corporal punishment and the like)
In the case of the first, you (ie the Top – Mistress, Master, Domme, Dom, owner etc) have a choice. You can choose to pretty much ignore and not care about the oversight and ‘punish’ by way of a spanking or humiliation, as befits your particular submissive. This does cross over into the second though.
Physical attention as wanted by the submissive. Most submissives and slaves have a desire for some kinky interaction, such as spanking, whipping, public humiliation, being trampled and the like. The list is limited only by your mutual imaginations. Is this really punishment, if they want it?
Not really, is the answer. That’s why I choose to label the second option, ‘funishments’. If my submissive does something to really upset me, or is truly disobedient, disloyal or goes too far testing my authority, I will punish them by either ignoring them a good long while or complete dismissal.
When I am in a good mood with my submissive, I may at my discretion choose to ‘funish’ them (which is oddly similar to ‘furnish’) with spankings, crops, whippings, chastity tease/denial, public humiliation, foot trampling, shoe, boot and heel worship and more.
I do find that this manner of punishment vs funishment is most motivational for submissives. If your submissive whines, moans or (horror of horrors) demands their choice of ‘funishment’, I would counter that you need to rethink who has the control in that relationship.
I am aware I’m strict in the area of owning submissives and slaves, but please think carefully before using the term ‘punishment’. I am writing this from a Lifestyle, power exchange, non sexual D/s point of view.
Is it a punishment that is required, a real one – or do you mean ‘funishment’?
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