Sex advice – I want to have a threesome with my girlfriend

Help! I want a threesome with my girlfriend

Q: Me and my girlfriend have been together for nearly 3 years and I’m really happy with her but I want her to be more adventurous in bed. When we first started going out we talked about a lot of the sexual things we’d like to try and one of the things she mentioned was a threesome with another girl. I’ve thought about it a lot since then, and having a threesome with my girlfriend is something I’d really like to do. How do I talk to her about it?

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A: Having a threesome is a common fantasy, but it’s worth remembering that there can be a lot of emotional upheaval and jealousy if you decide to act on it. I’d suggest it might be worth working your way up to that conversation as by the sounds of things, bringing another woman into the bedroom for a night isn’t going to fix your sexual dissatisfaction.

When you commit to a monogamous relationship, you are informally agreeing that your sexual exploration will be with that one person. I think there are probably a lot of new things you can try before bringing someone else into the equation.

These discussions are usually best to have in an intimate or romantic setting. The flow of conversation should feel natural to have, so choose your moment carefully. When you feel the time is right, reminisce about your past conversation and if she mentions having a threesome again, let her talk about it but don’t butt in. Often what people fantasize about isn’t what we want in their everyday lives, so listen carefully to what she has to say. Once you’ve heard what she would and wouldn’t like to experiment with, you’ll have options for exploration and it’s something that you can make happen. It takes two people to have adventurous sex, so make sure you play your part too.


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