Intercourse is painful for her. Which sex toys should we use?

Intercourse is painful – what to do?

intercourse is painful which sex toys to useDear Cara: Which sex toy should I buy my wife for Christmas? She has severe endometriosis so intercourse is painful for her – extremely painful, in fact. We haven’t had intercourse in months, so slow and steady is the way. She has used clitoral vibrators in the past but found them to be too intense.


Cara: Thanks for the question and I am sorry to hear about the troubles you’ve been having.

I would first advise to ensure you keep levels of intimacy at a high during this difficult time, so lots of cuddles, hand holding and time spent together in bed even just naked and giving pleasure by light strokes and touches.

There are ways for you to ease your frustrations with her of course, because if and when she is in the mood there are alternatives to intercourse. As you have asked about pleasures for her because intercourse is painful, I would advise that instead of a vibrator or intrusive penetrative style toy, try a massager to be used not only on the vaginal external area but which can be applied to nipples or other erogenous areas as a tangible treat.

Some fun and non phallic massagers which can be used for all over erotic massage and sexy stimulation are:

I Rub My Duckie Massager Vibrator (great for sexy bathtimes together)

Fun Factory Layaspot

The We Vibe Touch

Swoon Cross My Palm Massager Vibrator

OhMiBod Wanderlust Heart Tipped Massager Vibrator

Due to the pain with the medical issues, does she like having warm baths? Try introducing a bath toy, such as the Bodywand Aqua Massage Wand Vibrator. There’s no physical penetration as this is an external massager, and as it’s waterproof the vibrations should be easier to control and subdue through the warm water as well.

I hope this helps and that you and your wife can enjoy closeness together despite her troubles.

 

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