Female Chastity & Orgasm Denial

Female Chastity & Orgasm Denial

Masturbation Diary

orgasm masturbation woman Female ChastityI’m wondering today, how many orgasms per week someone needs in order to feel fulfilled. Perhaps several each day, several an hour? Or are you a one-a-day man or woman? How do you choose to travel to this destination? Does it involve female chastity for you?

Even though I could orgasm daily, I choose not to. Why? I like to build up the anticipation.

My particular libido means that I require mental stimulation as well as physical. I feel that my orgasm is not merely a physical need but rather a release from erotic mental/emotional stimulation.

Oh sure, I get those times where I feel I simply have to cum, or else I’ll explode. But for the most part, as long as I orgasm every three or four days, I am ticking along nicely.

I have had some comments from people not understanding my enjoyment of the week+ female chastity while my new clit hood bar made my clitoris unavailable for stimulation. This delves into the chastity kink, which is the enjoyment (or not, I guess! but always consensual activity) of orgasm denial.

Chastity can involve teasing or not. You might like to use a lockable device such as the DOMINIX Deluxe First Time Female Chastity Belt or the CB-6000 Male Chastity Cage Kit.

Personally I always like to remain in control, but I do have masochistic tendencies that run synonymous to my sadistic side. I’m particularly kinky!

This means that I will abstain from orgasms until the need is just touching intolerable, to really get the most enjoyment from making the anticipation last. Building that sexual tension into a frenzy, either alone or by being teased during my female chastity by various lovely friends. You know who you are!

In the past, I have refrained from an orgasm for two years. This was with an ex who did not ‘allow‘ me to have sex toys, plus I couldn’t orgasm through sex with him. After months of denial, my libido all but died anyway, so the torturous agony from the kink of female chastity wasn’t there.

The trick is getting that balance between orgasming too much (in this context, as I can hear shouts of, ‘you can’t orgasm too much!’) so that it becomes instant gratification, merely flicking a button (!), and not orgasming often enough so that your libido disappears and any female chastity enjoyment along with it.

My partner is purely vanilla and does not participate in anything beyond mildly kinky. I feel that I would only be able to lightly touch upon chastity play with a woman anyway, one that I trust and who I could give myself over to sexually, in the bedroom only, for fun.

For the most part, I tease myself to a point of needing to climax. Whether wearing butt plugs for a while, a love egg along with it or simply edging almost to climax then stopping, with one of my bullet vibrators, or just some ID Glide lubricant and fingers… I enjoy the long drawn out journey to orgasm more than simply a race to the finish line.

This delicate weaving journey, alongside erotic mental stimulation (filthy talk, role play etc) and romantic tangible accoutrements mean that the final release is so much more fulfilling after a period of female chastity. Your entire soul is caught up in the pure delights of the moment, rather than simply ending the frustration of the nerve endings.

How do my readers feel about this, I wonder? Do you masturbate simply to end that need, as often as possible? Or do you enjoy the tease along the way?

What is the most fulfilling route to orgasm for you? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comment below!

Have fun and stay sexy, blog angels!



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  1. You keep writing all these really good blog posts that make me feel like I should write my own blog post as a response. I can't keep up! 😛

    Another great post, my response to which would be impractical to write as a comment. I'll have to blog about my masturbation routine later.

  2. Great post! I may steal this idea and do as Ecksvie and write my own response. 🙂

    For me, it depends. Some days I need the instant gratification, while other times I'll spend ages working up to a mega-orgasm. I think where I am in my monthly cycle has something to do with my preferences, because I have noticed a pattern. Around ovulation, I'm horny as hell and can't get enough. At other times, I can take it or leave it and it's harder for me to climax.

    • Oestrogen (a group of endocrine compounds) is chiefly responsible for informing the feminine libido (impulse to seek a mate) and this hormone typically peaks during the four days around ovulation.

      This peaking actually activates Lutenising hormone to trigger ovulation, so it’s *fairly common* that a lady feels innate libido most keenly at that time in her fertility cycle.

      Note that a different mechanism (based on Oxytocin) influences human response to a *located* mate (or current partner if your mate-search is short) and that can be conditioned (by feedback) to produce a *response* to the advances of a partner, which can override the oestrogen-driven promotion of, or progesterone-driven demotion of the impulse to mate.

      The gentlemen run on a mixture of two or more androgens that inform a fairly constant degree of libido with a time-escalating component (dihydrogenated testosterone, synthesised at a base rate from testosterone) that is consumed by the orgasmic pathway in the brain, lowering male libido towards the testosteronal baseline. (But c.f. Oxytocin above. Some of us are Cuddlers too, ya know).

      But that’s just the biology, not the social and intellectual conditioning. That can demote or promote either of these pathways by the Dopamine/Cortisol reward/punishment mechanisms in the brain.

      Given the societal, social and intellectual influences on our Lizard Brains (thanks, remittancegirl) it’s a miracle we can respond on instinct at all.

      Hope that was informative 🙂

  3. Thank you for your comments, Ecksvie & Buzz on Vibes!

    I'll read your blog post now, Ecksvie 🙂

    BOV, I'm the same, always horny around ovulation and also just the day before I begin …

    Thank for your comment, let me know when you have a post written up if you wish! xx

  4. Orgasm the word itself so SEXY and horny.wow.I think sucess of sex lies in pure Orgasm of woman.It is so seductive,just have to feel deeply.

  5. Orgasm the word itself so SEXY and horny.wow.I think sucess of sex lies in pure Orgasm of woman.It is so seductive,just have to feel deeply.

  6. Im a 42 yr old, heterosexual switch male, from Tennessee. Im new to the Ls, pegging lead me to BDSM. I love orgasm denial game and long term chastity, it heighten my desire to sub, to be dominated

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