Female Chastity & Orgasm Denial
I’m wondering today, how many orgasms per week someone needs in order to feel fulfilled. Perhaps several each day, several an hour? Or are you a one-a-day man or woman? How do you choose to travel to this destination? Does it involve female chastity for you?
Even though I could orgasm daily, I choose not to. Why? I like to build up the anticipation.
My particular libido means that I require mental stimulation as well as physical. I feel that my orgasm is not merely a physical need but rather a release from erotic mental/emotional stimulation.
Oh sure, I get those times where I feel I simply have to cum, or else I’ll explode. But for the most part, as long as I orgasm every three or four days, I am ticking along nicely.
I have had some comments from people not understanding my enjoyment of the week+ female chastity while my new clit hood bar made my clitoris unavailable for stimulation. This delves into the chastity kink, which is the enjoyment (or not, I guess! but always consensual activity) of orgasm denial.
Personally I always like to remain in control, but I do have masochistic tendencies that run synonymous to my sadistic side. I’m particularly kinky!
This means that I will abstain from orgasms until the need is just touching intolerable, to really get the most enjoyment from making the anticipation last. Building that sexual tension into a frenzy, either alone or by being teased during my female chastity by various lovely friends. You know who you are!
In the past, I have refrained from an orgasm for two years. This was with an ex who did not ‘allow‘ me to have sex toys, plus I couldn’t orgasm through sex with him. After months of denial, my libido all but died anyway, so the torturous agony from the kink of female chastity wasn’t there.
The trick is getting that balance between orgasming too much (in this context, as I can hear shouts of, ‘you can’t orgasm too much!’) so that it becomes instant gratification, merely flicking a button (!), and not orgasming often enough so that your libido disappears and any female chastity enjoyment along with it.
My partner is purely vanilla and does not participate in anything beyond mildly kinky. I feel that I would only be able to lightly touch upon chastity play with a woman anyway, one that I trust and who I could give myself over to sexually, in the bedroom only, for fun.
For the most part, I tease myself to a point of needing to climax. Whether wearing butt plugs for a while, a love egg along with it or simply edging almost to climax then stopping, with one of my bullet vibrators, or just some ID Glide lubricant and fingers… I enjoy the long drawn out journey to orgasm more than simply a race to the finish line.
This delicate weaving journey, alongside erotic mental stimulation (filthy talk, role play etc) and romantic tangible accoutrements mean that the final release is so much more fulfilling after a period of female chastity. Your entire soul is caught up in the pure delights of the moment, rather than simply ending the frustration of the nerve endings.
How do my readers feel about this, I wonder? Do you masturbate simply to end that need, as often as possible? Or do you enjoy the tease along the way?
What is the most fulfilling route to orgasm for you? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comment below!
Have fun and stay sexy, blog angels!
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