By Cara Sutra: What a year 2016 has been. Personally, it’s been an absolute rollercoaster of emotions, running the gamut from the crushing depths of anxiety to dizzying relief, contentment and happiness. And that’s just in our little family. I know plenty of people who have had an extra challenging 2016 – some have had a truly terrible year – and then there’s the shocking and at times, depressing world events. Ugh, politics. Ugh, celebrity deaths. Ugh, 2016. Goodbye, and thanks for all the tears.
2014 was a fantastic year. It's the year my family and I settled into a new home, very early in January. We left behind the personal bereavements and losses of 2013, and made a fresh start supporting each other and have felt strong and more bonded than ever. We've also just had the best Christmas we've ever had. The happy looks set to continue through 2015, for which I feel very lucky. I try not to take anything for granted. Life has a way of changing so quickly; all we can do is work the hardest we can on our personal relationships, continue being honest with each other and working from honourable motives.
By Cara Sutra: Upon hearing her vain exclamation to the other three rein-girls over dinner that they weren’t even needed anyway, that she could do the job all by herself and probably even better at that, they’d at first looked surprised then strangely smug. How was she to know Santa Sutra would choose that exact moment to re-enter the feeding shed from behind her?
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By Cara Sutra: No is a negative word by definition. That’s not to say no can’t ever be positive, however*. Saying no to some things can mean saying yes to others, meaning more control over your life, a more manageable schedule and less stress. That’s my main goal this year, my new year’s resolution if you like. 2017 is the year I say NO.
During Christmas 2015 I had the chance to reflect and reassess what I’m exactly doing here, with my blog, in life. What my actual goals are and what I want to get out of the work I put into projects. With that in mind, and moving on from the harsh realities of the past year noted above (and taking a pinch of inspiration from this excellent New Year's Resolutions article by Hella Rude), I’ve written ten somewhat surprising promises to myself for the next year (and beyond) which will serve as my New Year’s Resolutions 2016.
By Cara Sutra: Cancer has not only affected my own close family, but also the lives of many friends. It’s an evil beast – completely dispassionate and non-discriminatory about who it strikes, when, and how. Cancer awareness months seem, on the face of it, a great idea. I feel they have a limited benefit though. Unless you also donate.
However with things at work being busier than a vintage Laura Ashley dress, I have had my days taken up with writing about the sublime contours and luxurious massaging functions of seemingly every battery operated self pleasure device known to woman, as well as heavily featuring a new male sex toy.
The world has gone bondage mad. As if unrestrained restraint ‘outrageously’ demonstrated on morning TV wasn’t enough, everyone by now will be aware of the grey shaded movie being released on the 13th February. The day before Valentine’s Day. That’s right, it’s another year where we all go 50 shades of absolutely mad about bondage - and don’t forget the jiggle balls or lip balm, come to that. bettie page spanked and bondage in greyWith so much emphasis on being kinky and increasing expectation for adults across the world to be tied up and spanked this Valentine’s Day, it’s easy to feel just a little bit under pressure to perform. This should be the most romantic day of the year, traditionally, and pressure isn’t sexy. There’s really no need to feel guilty if you’re not a kinky type. The world may be Grey-obsessed but as long as your attention is on the one or ones you love that’s all that really matters. After all, Valentine’s Day is simply one day where we celebrate being able to publicly show what we should be feeling throughout the year.
This attempts to be something of a personal explanation of why I hate Mother's Day. I can completely get why some, maybe even most people love Mother's Day. Buying your lovely mother a big bunch of pink flowers, getting her favourite chocolates, a bottle of wine... taking her out for a Spring time lunch. Enjoying chatter together either daughter and mother or son and mother. Very picturesque. I imagine.
By Cara Sutra: Christmas isn’t intrinsically sexy. The focus is on the home: gathering relatives and friends for a family closeness that often only happens this time of year. Traditional scenes of baking biscuits, sipping chocolate topped with cream and marshmallows and enjoying their excited little faces all aglow doesn’t exactly scream wanton and passionate romps with your partner. Let’s not miss an opportunity for adult mischief, though. I’ve got a few ideas to help make Christmas sexy for couples and get your name so indelibly on Santa’s naughty list he’ll only visit to deliver an over the knee spanking.
I am a bit tired of reading relationship advice articles which seem to be directed towards 20-something couples who have no children and seemingly unlimited funds despite no job or other obligations (why yes, we really should go on a champagne hot air balloon ride together one weekday afternoon) so I thought I'd put my own 'sexy relationship tips' article together - for parents.
There's a whole cauldron of spooky, sexy offers to select from this Halloween. Witch one you choose (groan) is up to you, but there's not a ghost of a doubt that you can save a lot of your hard earned cash by haunting only the best sex toy shops this Halloween.
By Cara Sutra: The Black Friday phenomenon has well and truly got its feet under the table on this side of the pond. Although its origins are Stateside, we can’t resist a bargain here in good old Blighty, so Black Friday and Cyber Monday have been welcomed in with get-out-of-my-bloody-way arms.
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Having worked in adult retail for 5 years, I'm no stranger to penning a sexy Christmas gift guide or 10. However it's fair to say most of my work focuses on product marketing, even though buying the right things for sexy time does not a master make. I could tell you which toys and lingerie I rate highest as we wrap up 2015, but if you haven't done the ground work - there's little point in your spending £$£$ on gear. As is becoming a bit of a Cara Sutra tradition, I'd like to deviate from the obvious Christmas gift guides and focus on some advice we can all get on board with.
By Mel MacFarlane: As a woman, I love opening expensive new lingerie on Christmas morning (hint, hint). I love the thought of my other half lovingly choosing the delicate fabrics, admiring the cut of the soft lace and his face as he dreams of me wearing it. I picture him assertively flicking through the hangers, and the final eureka moment when he spies the perfect garment to emphasise my long legs, disguise my saggy tummy and deliver a cleavage to die for.