2017 Is The Year I Say No (A Surprisingly Positive Post)

By Cara Sutra:
No is a negative word by definition. That’s not to say no can’t ever be positive, however*. Saying no to some things can mean saying yes to others, meaning more control over your life, a more manageable schedule and less stress. That’s my main goal this year, my new year’s resolution if you like. 2017 is the year I say NO.

Goodbye 2016! It’s Been A Rollercoaster

By Cara Sutra:
What a year 2016 has been. Personally, it’s been an absolute rollercoaster of emotions, running the gamut from the crushing depths of anxiety to dizzying relief, contentment and happiness. And that’s just in our little family. I know plenty of people who have had an extra challenging 2016 – some have had a truly terrible year – and then there’s the shocking and at times, depressing world events. Ugh, politics. Ugh, celebrity deaths. Ugh, 2016. Goodbye, and thanks for all the tears.

Festive Fiction: The Best Christmas Gift Of All

By Mel MacFarlane:
I knelt on the floor giggling and listened intently to the soft rustle of paper as he moved swiftly around the room. His normally heavy footsteps surprisingly light as he navigated his way around me, hoping that I wouldn’t hear. Over my eyes the blindfold pressed firmly against my skin, allowing only a small chink of light to highlight his large black boots.

8 Ways To Sex Up Your Christmas

By Cara Sutra:
Christmas isn’t intrinsically sexy. The focus is on the home: gathering relatives and friends for a family closeness that often only happens this time of year. Traditional scenes of baking biscuits, sipping chocolate topped with cream and marshmallows and enjoying their excited little faces all aglow doesn’t exactly scream wanton and passionate romps with your partner. Let’s not miss an opportunity for adult mischief, though. I’ve got a few ideas to help make Christmas sexy for couples and get your name so indelibly on Santa’s naughty list he’ll only visit to deliver an over the knee spanking.

How To Gift Lingerie She Loves For Christmas

By Mel MacFarlane:
As a woman, I love opening expensive new lingerie on Christmas morning (hint, hint). I love the thought of my other half lovingly choosing the delicate fabrics, admiring the cut of the soft lace and his face as he dreams of me wearing it. I picture him assertively flicking through the hangers, and the final eureka moment when he spies the perfect garment to emphasise my long legs, disguise my saggy tummy and deliver a cleavage to die for.

Cancer Awareness Months Like Movember Have Limited Benefit

By Cara Sutra:
Cancer has not only affected my own close family, but also the lives of many friends. It’s an evil beast – completely dispassionate and non-discriminatory about who it strikes, when, and how. Cancer awareness months seem, on the face of it, a great idea. I feel they have a limited benefit though. Unless you also donate.

Sex Up Your Suitcase: What To Pack For A Sexy Summer Holiday

By Cara Sutra:
Gazing through the rain spattered window into the wet gloom this morning, it seems a cruel joke of nature that our summer officially started yesterday. Despite the evidence, thoughts are turning to a traditionally hot summer, with adverts for BBQs, barbecue food, garden furniture and the like reminding us of what we’re missing every time we turn on the TV.

Adult Sex Ed Month: Do We Really Need Any More Sex Education?

By Cara Sutra:
Adult Sex Ed Month has been created for easy and shame-free access to sex ed in adult life. June is Adult Sex Ed Month 2016 and I am very excited to be part of the campaign for more and for better sex education for adults – as well as raising awareness of its ongoing importance.

Happy Easter: Let’s Talk About Sex And Religion

By Zak Jane Keir
Of course, it’s Easter, which is the Christian festival most associated with ‘fertility rituals’ and symbols that are not really that Christian at all – though there is still no agreement, let alone any proof, as to which specific ancient pagan feast inspired the annual celebration of eggs, bunnies, flowers and binging on chocolate. I wish you all joy and delight in the springtime, whether your bunnies are battery-powered or the sort that moan with joy when you wrap them up in rope, and if you want to mark the occasion by eating a Creme Egg off your favourite playmate’s naughty bits then go right ahead.

Spring clean your sex life and try something new

By Cara Sutra:
As the weather turns warmer and brighter (long may it last) and the season rolls round to spring, thoughts do tend to turn towards spring cleaning. It’s in our nature. Spring is a time for new beginnings, fresh starts – whether that’s finally sorting out the cupboard under the stairs or taking all the old trash in the garage to the tip, finally. Perhaps this is the year you get rid of the worn out Christmas decorations and promise yourself you’ll be sensible and buy new ones in good time for December’s festivities.

And they call it bunny love

My body surrendered to the need and I luxuriated in the sinful feeling of a lazy self-fuck, my pussy slowly swallowing every part of the gently widening rabbit shaft. My labia, slick with cunt drool and lube, snug to the sides of this invader and the feel of them submitted to allow entry. A set of shivers came over me as I slowly slid the rabbit home.

How to find subspace together this Valentine’s Day

Whether you agree with Valentine’s Day or not, February always brings out the romantic side of a relationship. Whether you bring your partner home a bunch of flowers, or you prefer to cuddle on the sofa with a takeaway and a film, it’s a time to celebrate your ‘togetherness’. For couples in a BDSM relationship, Valentine’s Day is a great reason to lock the door, dig out your collection of kinky treats and find subspace together.

How To Have A Sexy Relationship When You’re Parents

I am a bit tired of reading relationship advice articles which seem to be directed towards 20-something couples who have no children and seemingly unlimited funds despite no job or other obligations (why yes, we really should go on a champagne hot air balloon ride together one weekday afternoon) so I thought I’d put my own ‘sexy relationship tips’ article together – for parents.

New Year’s Resolutions 2016 – 10 Surprising Promises To Myself

During Christmas 2015 I had the chance to reflect and reassess what I’m exactly doing here, with my blog, in life. What my actual goals are and what I want to get out of the work I put into projects. With that in mind, and moving on from the harsh realities of the past year noted above (and taking a pinch of inspiration from this excellent New Year’s Resolutions article by Hella Rude), I’ve written ten somewhat surprising promises to myself for the next year (and beyond) which will serve as my New Year’s Resolutions 2016.

New Year, New You? – Hella’s Body and Mind Positive New Year Resolutions

By Hella Rude
The first time I heard the phrase ‘new year, new you’ was during my first year working with Lovehoney. As someone who is blinkered to self-depreciating bollocks on the interwebs, this apparent cliche had managed to pass me by for my then 26 years. Since acknowledging the premise, my eyes have really been opened to how much consumerism can make you feel shit about yourself during the festive season…