Casual sex has always existed, and it is very much a regular thing these days, with many dating sites specialising exclusively in getting people hooking up together for wild nights of no-string sex. But within that scene comes a pre-made conception that once you hook up with a person that is it, you won’t see them again. But what about those of us who are looking to find a sex buddy? Are we doomed to only have sex once with that person?
Sarah Berry: How do I fit BDSM into our relationship when I’m busy with work and kids? I’m happily married to a beautiful woman and, during our relationship, we have started to explore kink. We’ve discussed chastity and having a Female Led Relationship (FLR) but we have some problems.
By Jon Pressick: Anger, in sex and relationships, is not an easy matter to discuss. The societally enforced fantasy is that we find someone, we fall in love, we stay in love and we live happily ever after. Never is there a problem. Never is there an argument. Never is there disagreement...
By Hella Rude If you're new to this blog, stumbled across it because Google told you it might be what you're looking for because you've read Fifty Shades and want silver balls, handcuffs, Christian Grey or just some more information about bondage, or BDSM in general... you're in the right place.
There have probably been a million and one how to articles connected to BDSM after the success of THAT book, you know the one with all the grey and the lip biting and stuff. Well, I’m going to add to that pile but today I’m going to focus in on one aspect used in BDSM that can be seen in more vanilla play too. Bondage.
By Jon Pressick When it comes to sex, lust takes centre stage. Desire and craving are deliciously intertwined with sex—as they should be! Whether you’re in a committed relationship or keeping your sex casual, an absence of lust could indicate potential problems in your appetite for that situation.
During the weekend, some amazing people were promoting electro sex toys, with none other than Linsey Dawn McKenzie stopping by for an ElectraStim demo. The fantastic Anna Quinn and Ruby Derriere were running rampant with an ElectraStim paddle and pinwheel while the breath-taking Goddess Sophia picked up an electro strap-on and spanking paddle for use in her dungeon, which she was trying out on TV Goth Natalie on some of the bondage furniture.
By Hella Rude Every woman with a penchant for sex toys should own at least one good bullet vibrator. They're small enough for precise clitoral stimulation, don't get in the way during partner play and thanks to continued innovations in tech, they're more powerful than ever. Gone are the days of endless packs of LR44 cell batteries, the bullet vibes of today are usually USB rechargeable and they're even waterproof. Sold!
Fellow writers of all things erotic: we’re in the business of being sensual, but today I don’t mean that in the smexy- sexy way we usually do. I’m talking about including all the various senses in your sex scenes. It sounds pretty simple and kind of obvious but believe you me it isn’t as straight forward as it looks.
‘He came back with a scarf which was taken from a snowman in the garden and some large sprigs of holly. Lee wrapped the scarf around my head and took some miniature pegs from the Christmas card holder around the fire. He fastened two pegs to my nipples and told me to bend over and hold my ankles.‘ The officer shifted in his seat and moved closer into the table. Does he have an erection? wondered Kerry, stifling a giggle. The officer silenced her with a glare and gestured for her to continue.
By Hella Rude Working in the adult retail sector is super-happy fun times and most people working in the industry have full-time contracts or their own company, so as a freelancer you feel somewhat disconnected from everyone. It's therefore unusual to form a bond with anyone who isn't your client. You know and like lots of folk, but there's never any real time to forge friendships.
When they find out I’m a phone sex operator, a lot of people tell me they struggle with dirty talk: “I never know what to say.” Here’s the thing: dirty conversations are a lot like regular conversations, in that if you don’t know what to say, ask a question. You can get lots of useful information about your partner and what they want, if you ask questions in the right way.
There are loads of different apps available for face to face conversations on line. Some people use them for meetings and work purposes, others for keeping in touch with family members. Personally I prefer to use these applications for something naughtier, like a thrilling internet strip tease or a personal sex show with my lover.
By Mel MacFarlane: For those who are enchanted by the romance between Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey, a reluctant partner proves somewhat of a challenge. My inbox is full of disappointed lovers hoping for the Christian Grey bedroom experience, but struggling with their hapless partner who is quite clearly feeling the pressure.
by Hella Rude Regardless of your anatomy, a good rabbit vibrator is able to simultaneously tickle your clit and massage your G-spot thanks to the flexible nature of rabbit ear stimulators. With plenty of power on standby (but the option to turn it down a notch to give you a good build-up) and a good set of flexible ears, you should find that rabbit vibrators give you fantastic climaxes.
We all know about ropes and floggers and cuffs – they feature not just in porn but in most erotica, in sex tips and magazines and That Book. But while it might be easy to ask your partner if you can handcuff them because you've seen this one tip in Cosmo, it could be a hell of a lot harder to explain the thrill of an actual power exchange. Of you giving yourself over to them, or them to you, to be led and moulded and treated and punished and all the things I personally love about being at the collar end of that strip of leather. You might not like that kind of thing, of course. But judging by how even a couple of my vanilla friends were keen to put it on, and be playfully led from sofa to garden, back to the sofa and straight onto my lap, it's certainly intriguing to many. And not just in a giggly 'oh we've had too much wine and sex toys are funny' way, in an 'ooh, I think I could get to like this but I'm not sure I'd admit it when sober' way.