Should You Ever Have Sex With An Ex?

By Mel MacFarlane:
A break up can trigger many different emotions. Some people may feel relief whereas others are heartbroken. After all, it isn’t just the breakdown of the relationship, but your future plans together too. Despite this, many of us still find it hard to resist the temptation of slipping back between the bedsheets with an ex – but why?

Anatomy Of A Personal Erotic Myth – One Woman’s Awakening | Part 1

By Galen Fous:
Many have asked to understand more about what exactly a Personal Erotic Myth (PEM) is, and how I work with client’s desiring to come to terms with their erotic desires in a conscious way. To help get a better understanding of this process, I am offering here glimpses from a case study, over the course of three sessions with a recent client.

How To Turn A Reluctant Partner Into Christian Grey

By Mel MacFarlane:
For those who are enchanted by the romance between Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey, a reluctant partner proves somewhat of a challenge. My inbox is full of disappointed lovers hoping for the Christian Grey bedroom experience, but struggling with their hapless partner who is quite clearly feeling the pressure.

Growing Acceptance of Sex Toys in India

By Aleena M Reyes:
When people think of India they may think that a place where the Kamasutra originated must be a huge believer in free and open sex with any consenting adults, right? Not quite. Contrary to western belief, the ancient Hindu text was a life manual that detailed the way a person should live their life both inside and outside of the bedroom.

The 10 Weirdest Kinds Of Porn That People Search For

By Smut6:
You can expect lots of people to make a scrunchy “eww” face once they discover that someone has a certain fetish – say for instance, spanking or licking feet. Those, however, pale in comparison to some of the really strange stuff that people Google to wank over. We scoured the internet for ten of the weirdest kinds of porn out there, and came up with this list.

How To Invite Her Sex-Creature On A Date

By Galen Fous:
Are you aware that wild sex-creatures of every stripe may secretly romp and frolic within your partner’s sexual psyche while they have sex with you. What began as pleasantly passionate love-making, may have suddenly felt like you were being ravaged and devoured by a powerful beast. You might have had the thought – “Wow, who was that!” Of course, your own secret sex-creature may have been as ecstatically engaged as your partners!

How To Gift Lingerie She Loves For Christmas

By Mel MacFarlane:
As a woman, I love opening expensive new lingerie on Christmas morning (hint, hint). I love the thought of my other half lovingly choosing the delicate fabrics, admiring the cut of the soft lace and his face as he dreams of me wearing it. I picture him assertively flicking through the hangers, and the final eureka moment when he spies the perfect garment to emphasise my long legs, disguise my saggy tummy and deliver a cleavage to die for.

BDSM: When Communication Stops After Consent

By Giles English:
In the ideal kinky world, everybody talks before and after doing power exchange: “Communicate, communicate, communicate.”
It’s the standard expectation in the BDSM community, where refusing to talk about kink is a red flag.
And yes, communicating about kink feels like a no-brainer. How else will you both make sure that everything is safe and consensual?

Is There A Difference Between D/s (Dominance/submission) And BDSM?

By Galen Fous:
I think of Ds/BDSM as the yin/Yang of Kink. Together they represent a sublime paradox. Two opposites. One side I consider sacred or light – the noble, romantic day-to-day relationship side of D/s. The other side I view as profane or dark – all that is taboo, forbidden, cruel and fierce within the sexual BDSM aspect.

Galen Fous: The Kinky Sex & Relationship Advisor

By Galen Fous:
I am very excited to be introducing my new column, The Kinky Sex & Relationship Advisor to the Cara Sutra audience.
As a sex-positive Transpersonal psychologist and guide over the last 18 years, I have worked with hundreds of men, women and couples who sought support to be honest and empowered in their Kink sexuality.

Preaching To The Perverted: Sequel!

Great news for fans of the 1997 cult film Preaching to the Perverted: Writer/Director Stuart Urban has come with an idea of for a sequel – Tortured in the Orchard – and wants to explore it first in the form of a graphic novel which will help raise funds towards the making of the film.