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Enjoy reading educational and enjoyable sex articles at the Cara Sutra sex blog. If you have a sex related interest, query or worry, have a look through the archives and find out more about your chosen subject. We're not shy here at CSHQ so prepare yourself for revealing takes on all aspects of sexuality. Themes covered include masturbation, dating and relationships, introducing kink into your sex life, which sex toys are best for you and gender & sexuality diversity. These sex positive articles are entertaining as well as educational, balancing a light approachable tone with an in depth look at the heart of sex and sexuality.

Chastity Release – Unlocking & Orgasm

By Cara Sutra: He looked up at me from where he knelt on the kitchen floor, a solitary tear running down his defeated face. That just caused my cunt to become wetter in beautifully cruel empathy. Finally, he’d completed the distasteful task. His expert tongue protruded, but not out of rudeness or as a plea for pussy. On the tip was a small, very shiny key.

How to ‘foreplay’ and why it’s so important

It’s important to learn about foreplay and how to do it (and do it well, don't forget) so that you can become a more caring lover for your partner. Not only will you soon be named their Ultimate Sex God or Goddess, you will also make sure that sex is actually comfortable for both of you, which in turn will lead to you having even more (moar!) sex. What’s not to like?

Sex Blogger Spotlight Series: Scarlet Amor

My most popular sex blog post was about my experience dating a BDSM top who rocked my world and left a welt on my ass that didnʼt allow me to sit properly for a month. I found him on a “vanilla” online dating site, but by our second date he had me tied up, naked, hanging from the rafters in his livingroom.

Black Friday & Cyber Monday 2016: The Sexiest Offers

By Cara Sutra: The Black Friday phenomenon has well and truly got its feet under the table on this side of the pond. Although its origins are Stateside, we can’t resist a bargain here in good old Blighty, so Black Friday and Cyber Monday have been welcomed in with get-out-of-my-bloody-way arms.

Beginner’s Guide To Sexual Lubricants

By Cara Sutra: You're in the middle of sexy time, they're seeking out your hot spots with their fingers but suddenly... ouch. That's not sexy at all. Sometimes the course of good sex doesn't run smooth, and can in fact be a bit of a drag. That's where sexual lubricants can help out. Lube is your super smooth new best friend, and I'm going to help you navigate the seas of this often underrated sex essential.

Sex, sex blogging and selling your story to the press

Working and blogging in such a sensitive and already overly misinformed area of life as sexuality and the sex industry, it’s very disappointing on a personal level that someone who believes themselves to be in the same field would choose to naively speak to national press and not ensure they had full rights over what is published.

How Can I Be A More Dominant Woman In The Bedroom? | Sex Tips...

By Cara Sutra: This week’s anonymous advice-hunter needs some tips to become a more dominant woman in the bedroom, which will turn both her and her partner on.

Does using sex toys mean your partner isn’t good enough?

Picture the scene: You get home at the end of the day, and not seeing your boyfriend downstairs, you head to the bedroom. You walk in, and... he's there. Making love to her.

How to become a Dominant in the bedroom

"Being Dominant" encompasses a lot more than merely slapping some handcuffs on your chosen 'submissive' and flailing around with a flogger, enjoying the sound of your own berating voice. Here, however, we will be looking at what may be your first foray into the world of Dominance over your partner - in a mutually enjoyable and completely consensual way, of course.

What is a Fetish Club? Are There Any Rules At Fetish Events?

By Hella Rude ...fetish clubs and sex / swingers clubs are not the same thing. If you're thinking you're guaranteed an easy lay, a hardcore spanking or group sex for the price of your club ticket, snap out of it. There are plenty of places who offer these services but none of them are the fetish clubs you've heard so much about - they're generally BDSM-themed nights run by swinger's clubs. Don't get the two confused or you're likely to wind up disappointed or in trouble.

Erotic Author Spotlight Series: Faith Ashlin

We welcome Faith Ashlin into the erotic author spotlight this week and three arousing excerpts from her delectable erotic writings. Enjoy learning more about the lady behind the books and discovering her talents for turning...

Kinkly Reveals the Top 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes 2014! Congratulations to the Best Sex...

It's finally here: Kinkly have announced the Top 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes of 2014! I am honoured to have reached the Top Ten and I'm currently dancing around the lounge in a dangerously long cape and wearing sparkly knickers over my Lycra catsuit. A huge congratulations to all the hardworking sex bloggers (because it IS hard work, believe it or not) who made the Top 100 - you're all contributing to a global phenomenon of sex positivity, education and an inspiration to others to learn and try something new relating to sexuality and sensuality every single day. Want to see the full list? Here's Kinkly's Top 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes 2014 - the very best sex bloggers in the world:

Living With A Vanilla Partner When You’re Kinky | BDSM Advice

By Cara Sutra: Is this you? Are you living with a vanilla partner when you're kinky? Perhaps you need some element of BDSM to get your kicks in your sex life. If so, living with someone for whom these activities are distasteful or simply don’t feature can be hard work, frustrating and upsetting. For everyone involved.

The Casual Naughty Dater

People have different habits when it comes down to dating. Some look for a long-term life partner whilst others are just after a quick fling. That is because we are all individuals with needs which can vary from simple physical desires to more complex emotional ones. Most of the time our needs, wants and lusts all combine together into our personalities, determining what we are looking for when going out on that next date. Looking for love Who doesn’t want to be loved? Since the dawn of times, human beings have had the need for affection. The feeling of being adored by someone else makes us feel like a better person, and being able to reciprocate this emotion towards another person adds a sense of balance to our lives, as though it is something that is forever meant to be. The truth is that a lot of us often get confused between loving someone and being infatuated by someone. Some of us understand love to be a caring sensation, like the one we feel towards our parents who have looked after us our whole lives; whilst for others, love is more of an obsession; often linked to our emotional balance. Love is a very complex phenomenon and some believe it is what defines us as human beings.

The Seven Deadly Sex Sins: Envy

By Jon Pressick: We live in a world of want. There are so many things around us, so many shiny baubles that tempt and drive us to distraction. Depending who you are and what privilege you have, these fun things we desire have overtaken the needs we used to work and strive for. For many, the lap of luxury, in terms of eating, housing, clothing and education is a pretty comfortable place.

Can You Lose Sex Toys Up Your Bum?

By Cara Sutra: Can you lose sex toys up your bum? If you use butt plugs and other anal sex toys, it's a sensible question to ask.

What to Do When You’re No Longer Attracted to Your Partner

Then again, the two of you may not be a good fit anymore. Unfortunately, this is a reality that affects a lot of couples and it is one that is highly emotional and confusing. The good news is that this is something that couples have come back from, leading to even stronger relationships.

World Domination (And Protecting Myself From Hurt)

After asking today what I should blog about next, the first part of this blog post's title came about, for some mysterious reason. Well yes it might seem I've been on a bit of a world domination spree lately. Ok, not just lately I admit, it's in my blood, my nature, my character. I wasn't always this way. I used to be a doormat when I was younger, but times change us and any knocks or bad experiences just callous the heart and make us harder. I have had my share of those, more than my fair share, in fact.

Lovehoney Desire Bullet & We Vibe Tango Vibrator Comparison Review

Poppycat22 from the Cara Sutra Pleasure Panel recently wrote an in-depth review of the Lovehoney Desire Bullet Vibrator. In addition, Poppycat22 very kindly provided a comparison review between this Lovehoney Desire Bullet Vibrator and the We Vibe Tango.

Erotic Author Spotlight Series: Isabelle Drake

Soon, both of her legs were bound from ankle to thigh, her slick lips completely open. Damian moved to the floor. The chair he’d been sitting in hit the carpet with a soft thud when he kicked it out of the way. Tommy pointed to the other chair, and Damian kicked it away too. “Put your hands on your tits.”