By Cheryl Kaye: I finally worked my way out of an abusive relationship, and swore off men for a while. However, that realisation got me thinking about how cautious I have always been about certain things, and how that is spilling over into this. I want all the sex but I want it to be safe too.
I get phases where I'm not as interested in sex as I used to be, and I worry that this is it. I'm in my late 30s; I'm finally at a point where I hate sex, I'll never want sex again and nothing will ever turn me on. At other times of my life I feel just as horny as I was in my early 20s. When you're enduring a dry spell is there anything you can do to reignite your libido?
By Hella Rude Prior to my introduction to Andy at Cyrex (ElectraStim's parent company), my knowledge of erotic electrostimulation (EES) was full of holes. I had an understanding of the physics surrounding the practice and I'd certainly used EES in my work as a dominatrix but I hadn't explored electrosex beyond the realms of external sensory play. My personal experience wasn't marrying with the interesting array of electrodes I was discovering, so being the curious-minded creature I am, I got in touch with Andy in regard to reviewing some of his products.
By Cameryn Moore Calling someone greedy, for example, and making them beg desperately for getting fucked, this is a classic domination combo. The same derogatory names that really hurt on the playground—“fattie”, “sissy”, “faggot”, racial slurs—can be put to good use in humiliation scenes. Even calling a person’s junk something that normally squicks them out—“cunt” instead of “pussy”—can flip your partner into a different and sizzling-hot headspace.
Working in the adult industry I see my fair share of explicit photos. Dick pics: amateur and porn star. Naked breasts: pendulous to Parisienne. Spread vulva: hairless to hirsute. I follow blogs and social media where imagery from artistic nudes to hardcore porn are welcomed, celebrated and shared. So why do some explicit photos anger me so much? Well sometimes, explicit photos are a breach of consent.
By Cara Sutra: Bums. Everyone has one, and very useful they are too. Our undervalued derrières not only house the exit which keeps our bodies functioning healthily, but offer comfortable padding when we need to take the weight off our feet. Did you realise that your bottom also has the potential to give you incredible pleasure, as well as a mere sigh of relief any time you sit down?
Continuing my series of escort-themed articles, I want to explore in more detail the fun you could be having with the London girl of your dreams. London girls just wanna have fun with you! That's to say, the beautiful ladies of Babes of London do.
By Jon Pressick: This article is about pride, small ‘p’, meaning “the quality of having an excessively high opinion of oneself or one's importance.” In no way am I equating sin and Pride, capital ‘P’, the universally accepted word that exemplifies the LGBTQ+ movement...
Working in the sex industry, I've recently heard the term orgasm gap a number of times in blog posts, on social media and in press emails to me. What is this orgasm gap? Why is the spotlight on it now? And why do I believe there are dangers associated with it?
By Cara Sutra: It's been a great pleasure to sample some lovely new sex lubes lately and wanted to share my research with you.
By Cheryl Kaye Just a few years ago I was certain about so many things. I was positive I was ‘straight’, I could acknowledge that I found some girls more attractive than others but I figured that was just what everyone thought. Occasionally, I would think about what it would be like to kiss a girl, to taste her, to run my hands over her body, and to have her do the same to me. But I knew I loved cock, I wasn’t gay.
Where is your sex life at? Is it still as breathtaking and magical as in the honeymoon period, or just a quick roll under the duvet after lights out if you're lucky?
There are far too many articles in existence giving advice on how to please someone else during sex. 10 Ways To Drive Your Man Wild In Bed! 8 Sex Techniques To Make Her Fall In Love! How To Give Them Sex They'll Never Forget! Unexpected Sex Stuff They'll Adore! What They Really Want You To Do During Sex! et al, ad infinitum. Meanwhile, selfish sex is massively underrated.
I love when we have those tender private times together, those reassuring moments of intimacy. It’s so good to feel like his special girl and I know (well, hope) that he loves feeling like my special man. Our relationship is far from what you’d call standard, normal or boring, and very often it can involve other people. Not that we’re swingers – not that there’s anything wrong with swinging but it’s not us. I may have girl lovers though and he may have boy lovers; we’re both very bi.
Agreeing that someone's sexy is one thing, but what about your and their real intentions? Things can quickly turn from hot to not if one of you wants no-strings sex while the other harbours long term relationship dreams.
By Cara Sutra: Are Pelvic Floor Exercises important? The pelvic floor muscles are muscles which give a person important control over various facets of their personal life. Their main function is to control the flow of urination from the bladder and there is also control over the bowel.
Flirting is a common practice amongst adults of any gender, and it's not limited to those not in a relationship either. The attraction of flirting is that it's a way to gain the attention and approval from those you flirt with, and I don't believe it's always sexually motivated. Flirting can be a brilliant ego boost for both the flirter and the flirtee.
Whether you agree with Valentine’s Day or not, February always brings out the romantic side of a relationship. Whether you bring your partner home a bunch of flowers, or you prefer to cuddle on the sofa with a takeaway and a film, it’s a time to celebrate your ‘togetherness’. For couples in a BDSM relationship, Valentine’s Day is a great reason to lock the door, dig out your collection of kinky treats and find subspace together.