By Jon Pressick: Anger, in sex and relationships, is not an easy matter to discuss. The societally enforced fantasy is that we find someone, we fall in love, we stay in love and we live happily ever after. Never is there a problem. Never is there an argument. Never is there disagreement...
By Hella Rude Prior to my introduction to Andy at Cyrex (ElectraStim's parent company), my knowledge of erotic electrostimulation (EES) was full of holes. I had an understanding of the physics surrounding the practice and I'd certainly used EES in my work as a dominatrix but I hadn't explored electrosex beyond the realms of external sensory play. My personal experience wasn't marrying with the interesting array of electrodes I was discovering, so being the curious-minded creature I am, I got in touch with Andy in regard to reviewing some of his products.
An online survey of over 2000 UK adults* has revealed some fascinating insights into our masturbation habits and attitudes. The Masturbation Matters survey was commissioned by TENGA for Masturbation Month and posed masturbation-related questions to people of various age groups (18+), genders and relationship status.
By Cara Sutra: The sex blog genre is full of people writing about top shelf sexy stuff, whether it's their real life sex diaries or articulating mind-blowingly hot fantasies conjured by their beautifully perverse imaginations. But even when sex bloggers aren't writing, they're busy bonking super sexy strangers all day and posting pictures of their gorgeous bodies on social media for the world to admire. Right?
By Cara Sutra: Anal sex is still a taboo for many people, and that's quite understandable. It's your butt. You poop out of there. It's very tight, so all the poop doesn't just fall out. And you want to shove what up there? Surely it's an exit, not an entrance. How can it possibly feel nice? And what about all the, well… poop?
By Cara Sutra: There have been so many suddenly shocked faces during my conversations over the past few years that I’m thinking perhaps I’m getting a bit immune to the typically taboo realm of kink and fetish. That moment when you realise everyone at the surrounding tables in a restaurant have fallen quiet as you’re openly discussing anal reaming...
By Hella Rude There are a lot of reasons men experiment with anal play and contrary to belief, it isn't the preserve of gay men. The first and foremost reason is that it just feels good. There are plenty of sensitive nerve endings inside your ass that respond very well indeed to a good stroke. Anal play can also escalate erotic response, bringing both men and women to orgasm quicker.
By Cara Sutra: Hearts, flowers, wine, chocolates, greeting cards… all this and more equates to the very best in romance that you can give your partner on Valentine’s Day, to prove your depth of feeling for them. So says commercialism, anyway.
By Karma Tantric: I have been a huge fan of erotic massage ever since I encountered my first body to body massage a few years ago. My willingness to try new things unknowingly opened a whole new playground of sexual pleasure into my life. It’s a combination of total sensory relaxation, coupled with the up-close skin to skin sensation that induces some of the most wildly intense orgasms I have ever managed to achieve.
By Jon Pressick: This article is about pride, small ‘p’, meaning “the quality of having an excessively high opinion of oneself or one's importance.” In no way am I equating sin and Pride, capital ‘P’, the universally accepted word that exemplifies the LGBTQ+ movement...
Cara Sutra: It’s come to my attention recently that certain folks are against people having their fantasies and acting them out, consensually, with their adult partner(s). Rape fantasy, to be specific. Now, I’ve taken this a little bit personally, as rape fantasy is a very important part of my sex life - a very enjoyable part of my fantasy and real life.
Whether you agree with Valentine’s Day or not, February always brings out the romantic side of a relationship. Whether you bring your partner home a bunch of flowers, or you prefer to cuddle on the sofa with a takeaway and a film, it’s a time to celebrate your ‘togetherness’. For couples in a BDSM relationship, Valentine’s Day is a great reason to lock the door, dig out your collection of kinky treats and find subspace together.
Wanking is great, isn't it? All those delicious, erotic sensations travelling through your body, at any convenient time you choose, resulting in a sensory overload and glorious climax.
There are a lot of different reasons a man or woman might suffer from anorgasmia, or the inability to reach orgasm. Physiology, biochemistry, psychological issues and age are all attributed to anorgasmia and it's a condition more commonly found in women than in men. Treatment for men with anorgasmia is much further advanced than it is for women and is often associated with erectile dysfunction.
By Cara Sutra: A man who enjoys using a butt plug. Does that notion conjures up any homosexual connotations for you? Then you have fallen prey to one of the most common and persistent sexuality myths. When it comes to men's sex health, a surprising number of guys are questioning, "will anal sex toys make me gay?"
By Cara Sutra: Today I want to talk about safe sex. Challenge how we translate the term ‘safe sex’. I know that I have a tendency to link safe sex and condoms together inextricably, probably due to sex writing work. This often takes the form of condoms reviews, safe sex articles and other sex education articles here at the blog.
By Ruffled Sheets: You want me to stick that, a long metal spike, in... where? That's what most people think when they're told about sounding. Or, to be more descriptive, urethral sounding, the act of stimulating the inside of the urethra with long, thin implements. It may 'sound' scary (sorry), but it really isn't. In fact, it's a lot of fun and immensely pleasurable.
Dear Cara: I've just discovered I might be gay, as I pulled a woman the other week when I went out! I was wondering if you could suggest anything we could use together during lesbian sex, bearing in mind it's the first time I've really been with a woman. Nothing too tricky please!