By Cara Sutra: It was during the Human Puppy programme on Channel 4 recently that my partner and I came to discuss other ways in which relationships might break down over personal preferences or just what a person is like. The main question discussed for some time between us was very interesting: would you leave your partner if they were transgender?
By Hella Rude The Men's Health article you retweeted talked about the benefits of masturbation. Apart from resorting to porn (quite boring and I would never dream of looking online in case something I wasn't expecting turned up), what other ideas are there to fire the imagination, switch the ignition button and getting those of us who are a bit older (well, 50) going? They need to be interesting, different and ethical (and fun!)
By Cara Sutra: Do women-specific lubricants really matter? When you first realise that what your sex life needs is a little more glide, you will doubtless turn to sex lubricants to transform that dry chafe into sexy friction. It’s only when you start shopping for lubricants (at a well stocked online sex shop as Lubezilla) that you begin to realise that this task isn’t as simple as you’d first imagined.
By Cara Sutra: A shared post on Facebook this morning turned my attention to the subject of sexy name calling. Not in a trolling or abusive way, although this post which was shared to my TL by the brilliant sexual educator that is Charlie Glickman does focus on in appropriate behaviour in what should have been a protective and safe environment for all who attended. As much as the actions of the sexist, inappropriate guy talked about in the post disgusted me, it was one word in particular which made me stop and think.
I'm a very feminine woman. In the lesbian world, there are terms to describe the different types of lesbians. Of course not all women will fit these categories exactly, it is impossible to pigeon hole absolutely everyone with a few labels. However, I do identify with these types both from personal experience with women and how I feel in myself.
It's my answer to the legendary sex myth that somehow still gets worried about, a lot: will using anal sex toys make me gay? Obviously this question is being asked by male-identified people, who worry that inserting a butt plug, or enjoying something inserted into their rear, will mean that they're suddenly gay.
By Cara Sutra: What is a sexpert? What makes someone a sexpert? Nothing, really. I could just as confidently announce that I am, in fact, Santa. There are no qualifications that lead to someone being titled an official ‘sexpert’ (notice how it’s usually in quotes, denoting something unofficial or for merely for creative merit).
By Cara Sutra: Gazing through the rain spattered window into the wet gloom this morning, it seems a cruel joke of nature that our summer officially started yesterday. Despite the evidence, thoughts are turning to a traditionally hot summer, with adverts for BBQs, barbecue food, garden furniture and the like reminding us of what we’re missing every time we turn on the TV.
By Cara Sutra: There's a particularly stomach-churning part of the internet which insists on foisting sexy roleplay on to others while completely bypassing the need for consent or even an ounce of interest from the other party. Without turning it into a gender war, this does majorly seem to be men viewing unsolicited sexy roleplay as a way to 'pull' women on the internet.
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By Cara Sutra: Anal sex is still a taboo for many people, and that's quite understandable. It's your butt. You poop out of there. It's very tight, so all the poop doesn't just fall out. And you want to shove what up there? Surely it's an exit, not an entrance. How can it possibly feel nice? And what about all the, well… poop?
By Cara Sutra: A sex question I get asked fairly regularly is, “Is it safe to insert sex toys all the way into my vagina?” Let's take a look at the facts…
How To Have Great Sex With Your Partner Despite A Politics Clash With the United Kingdom General Election 2017 fast approaching, tensions are high - particularly if you and your partner support different political parties. Very...
By Cara Sutra: Buying your first sex toy, whether alone or as part of a couple, is a very exciting experience. You’re about to embark on a new adventure in your sexual life and the chance to try something new is deliciously alluring. The chance to ignite your orgasms by a new masturbation method or discover higher levels of satisfaction with a lover comes rarely in our adult lives. Embrace this thrilling opportunity and get ready for more fulfilling sexual pleasure.
7 steps to a better sex life Whether your sex life is standard or sizzling, achieving the best sex of your life is undeniably a tempting idea and admirable ambition for anyone. Want to know the best sex secrets? Read on as I explore 7 ways you can reach a better sex life...
By Cara Sutra: When you feel the urge for physical satisfaction, it's easy to reach for your vibrator or Fleshlight and stimulate yourself to the quick climax your body needs. Sex toys don't replace sex, though. People usually yearn for something more than self love, which is why skin to skin bonding starts on day one and carries on into the warmth and tenderness of hugs and cuddles.
By Cara Sutra: Today I want to talk about safe sex. Challenge how we translate the term ‘safe sex’. I know that I have a tendency to link safe sex and condoms together inextricably, probably due to sex writing work. This often takes the form of condoms reviews, safe sex articles and other sex education articles here at the blog.