By Cara Sutra: You're in the middle of sexy time, they're seeking out your hot spots with their fingers but suddenly... ouch. That's not sexy at all. Sometimes the course of good sex doesn't run smooth, and can in fact be a bit of a drag. That's where sexual lubricants can help out. Lube is your super smooth new best friend, and I'm going to help you navigate the seas of this often underrated sex essential.
Dear Cara: I've just discovered I might be gay, as I pulled a woman the other week when I went out! I was wondering if you could suggest anything we could use together during lesbian sex, bearing in mind it's the first time I've really been with a woman. Nothing too tricky please!
By Cara Sutra: Have you ever heard a woman say similar? "Having a baby ruined my vagina!" isn't something you hear most mums say. So what's the truth, does childbirth ruin vaginas?
Agreeing that someone's sexy is one thing, but what about your and their real intentions? Things can quickly turn from hot to not if one of you wants no-strings sex while the other harbours long term relationship dreams.
Help! I want a threesome with my girlfriend Q: Me and my girlfriend have been together for nearly 3 years and I'm really happy with her but I want her to be more adventurous in bed....
By Cara Sutra: Natural dark curls, silky blonde fur, neat tufts or barely there at all. Is pubic hair sexy? Does it matter what you do with your pubes? For women, pubes are the central topic of an ongoing fight between popular culture purported by glossy magazines such as Cosmopolitan and Glamour and our innate right to do whatever we want with our own bodies.
By Cara Sutra: Today I want to talk about safe sex. Challenge how we translate the term ‘safe sex’. I know that I have a tendency to link safe sex and condoms together inextricably, probably due to sex writing work. This often takes the form of condoms reviews, safe sex articles and other sex education articles here at the blog.
By Cheryl Kaye: In my last column I mentioned that in the last six months I’d had more sexual partners than in the previous six years. I explained that I’d been voluntarily celibate for four years, it was actually six years...
A disgusting sex practice has come to my attention in the past few days – and I’m not talking about whatever you can find in so-called weird porn. No, I mean properly disgusting. The practice known as stealthing. I’m so angry I can barely type.
Men, I find it very odd that some of you have a problem with sex toys. Not a hatred for rubber or silicone; but more specifically a feeling of angst when they are brought into the bedroom by your lover. There's this ongoing debate: Are sex toys better than real cock?
By Cara Sutra: This week’s anonymous advice-hunter needs some tips to become a more dominant woman in the bedroom, which will turn both her and her partner on.
Where is your sex life at? Is it still as breathtaking and magical as in the honeymoon period, or just a quick roll under the duvet after lights out if you're lucky?
Parenthood of any variety complicates your sex life, first of all. If you’re on your own with children, it might seem all but impossible to find time to date, shag or even schedule a few minutes for a quick wank, particularly if your kids are still very small. But if you’ve got to the point where you really do feel the need for a bit of adult action, it’s not impossible to find it.
I love when we have those tender private times together, those reassuring moments of intimacy. It’s so good to feel like his special girl and I know (well, hope) that he loves feeling like my special man. Our relationship is far from what you’d call standard, normal or boring, and very often it can involve other people. Not that we’re swingers – not that there’s anything wrong with swinging but it’s not us. I may have girl lovers though and he may have boy lovers; we’re both very bi.
Whenever I hear about sex robots, I immediately conjure an image of the intensely charming Jude Law from the compelling and philosophical Spielberg movie, A.I. Artificial Intelligence. Beyond that likeable yet disturbing character, the phrase sex robot is an oxymoron to me. Sex is warm, wet, slippery and can be deeply emotional... whereas 'robotics' makes me think of computers; inanimate lumps of rigid cold metal and confusing tangles of wires.
Are there some sex positions you find yourself 'coming' back to time after time? My partner and I definitely have our favourite sex positions, and in the past I’ve worried that we might be getting stuck in a rut. A rut that, admittedly, feels so good. But then when I went through the sex positions we enjoy on a regular basis, it turns out we enjoy more variety than I’d feared.
By Cara Sutra: Gazing through the rain spattered window into the wet gloom this morning, it seems a cruel joke of nature that our summer officially started yesterday. Despite the evidence, thoughts are turning to a traditionally hot summer, with adverts for BBQs, barbecue food, garden furniture and the like reminding us of what we’re missing every time we turn on the TV.
By Cara Sutra: Consent is mandatory for any sexual, intimate or otherwise physically or psychologically invasive experience. We all know this, and if you don’t, you do now. It’s difficult to believe that there could be any confusion surrounding the issue of consent.