An online survey of over 2000 UK adults* has revealed some fascinating insights into our masturbation habits and attitudes. The Masturbation Matters survey was commissioned by TENGA for Masturbation Month and posed masturbation-related questions to people of various age groups (18+), genders and relationship status.
By Cara Sutra: Sex is not a race to orgasm. I don’t have sex in order to have an orgasm and my partner doesn’t just fuck me so he can ‘shoot his load’ and roll over, done. Although my initial stirrings towards sexual activity can feel similar to the urge to masturbate, there’s a whole other layer of thoughts and feelings happening in my mind as well as the increasing demands from my clit and the aching of my cunt.
Casual sex has always existed, and it is very much a regular thing these days, with many dating sites specialising exclusively in getting people hooking up together for wild nights of no-string sex. But within that scene comes a pre-made conception that once you hook up with a person that is it, you won’t see them again. But what about those of us who are looking to find a sex buddy? Are we doomed to only have sex once with that person?
By Hella Rude The Men's Health article you retweeted talked about the benefits of masturbation. Apart from resorting to porn (quite boring and I would never dream of looking online in case something I wasn't expecting turned up), what other ideas are there to fire the imagination, switch the ignition button and getting those of us who are a bit older (well, 50) going? They need to be interesting, different and ethical (and fun!)
Introducing Rebecca Dakin, The Great British Sexpert: If your car breaks down, you call a mechanic. If you start getting worrying aches and pains, you call the doctor. It makes sense then, to call a relevant expert when problems arise in our relationships and sex lives. Someone who can give good advice and offer solutions based on experience and/or officially recognised qualifications.
By Cara Sutra: Gazing through the rain spattered window into the wet gloom this morning, it seems a cruel joke of nature that our summer officially started yesterday. Despite the evidence, thoughts are turning to a traditionally hot summer, with adverts for BBQs, barbecue food, garden furniture and the like reminding us of what we’re missing every time we turn on the TV.
By Cara Sutra: Bums. Everyone has one, and very useful they are too. Our undervalued derrières not only house the exit which keeps our bodies functioning healthily, but offer comfortable padding when we need to take the weight off our feet. Did you realise that your bottom also has the potential to give you incredible pleasure, as well as a mere sigh of relief any time you sit down?
By Lauren Miller: What makes this such a popular fantasy? It may shock the faint at heart, but most women have a secret desire to take up the world's oldest profession. Yes, most women secretly want to be an escort. So what makes this fantasy so appealing?
Men, I find it very odd that some of you have a problem with sex toys. Not a hatred for rubber or silicone; but more specifically a feeling of angst when they are brought into the bedroom by your lover. There's this ongoing debate: Are sex toys better than real cock?
By Jon Pressick When it comes to sex, lust takes centre stage. Desire and craving are deliciously intertwined with sex—as they should be! Whether you’re in a committed relationship or keeping your sex casual, an absence of lust could indicate potential problems in your appetite for that situation.
By Mel MacFarlane: By Mel MacFarlane: By the end of 2015, it is estimated that almost 55,000 people will be diagnosed with breast cancer. According to Breast Cancer Care, this equates to one diagnosis every 10 minutes. Out of those diagnosed with breast cancer, 12,000 will not survive.
By Vanessa de Largie: This adamant refusal to let the events and the perpetrators have any further power over me, mentally or physically, ties in very much to why rape fantasy is such an enjoyable roleplay and sexual fetish of mine. Rape fantasy and rapeplay isn’t a choice for me, it’s a need.
Dear Cara: I've just discovered I might be gay, as I pulled a woman the other week when I went out! I was wondering if you could suggest anything we could use together during lesbian sex, bearing in mind it's the first time I've really been with a woman. Nothing too tricky please!
By Cara Sutra: A sex question I get asked fairly regularly is, “Is it safe to insert sex toys all the way into my vagina?” Let's take a look at the facts…
By Cara Sutra: Are Pelvic Floor Exercises important? The pelvic floor muscles are muscles which give a person important control over various facets of their personal life. Their main function is to control the flow of urination from the bladder and there is also control over the bowel.
By Cara Sutra: The sex blog genre is full of people writing about top shelf sexy stuff, whether it's their real life sex diaries or articulating mind-blowingly hot fantasies conjured by their beautifully perverse imaginations. But even when sex bloggers aren't writing, they're busy bonking super sexy strangers all day and posting pictures of their gorgeous bodies on social media for the world to admire. Right?
Dear Cara: I'm a single female that's recently been asked by a couple if I'd like to join them for some fun. We all seem to be on the same wave length. So far we have all been open and honest with each other and plan to keep it that way if it does go further. I have heard good and bad stories about threesomes. How do we make sure it turns out to be a good time for everyone? Are there any threesome dos and donts?