By Cara Sutra: It's so easy to be swept along into the great commercialisation of love and romance. To cave under the weight of the ads and believe that romance is measured in expensive bouquets, hotel stays, sparkling jewellery and weekends abroad. Don't me wrong – I love all that stuff. But it's definitely not required in order for me to know that my partner loves me. Whatever your bank balance, there are ways to be incredibly romantic without spending any money. Or at least, very little… using items you probably already have around your home.
Dear Cara, How can I find a girl to be intimate with? I am a shy lady, in late twenties and only just coming to terms with the fact I am bi-curious/bisexual. I fantasise about...
By Cara Sutra: How would you feel if you saw your partner fuck someone else? I guess for many the answer would be colourful variants of pissed off. Catch 5 minutes of a daytime TV chat show to watch lie detector frenzies and accusations of cheating descend into all-out battle. The reality, when we add in consent and pre-discussion, is more complex and nuanced. A partner having sex with someone else doesn't always mean they're cheating on you or that you'll feel betrayed.
By Cara Sutra: Have you ever heard a woman say similar? "Having a baby ruined my vagina!" isn't something you hear most mums say. So what's the truth, does childbirth ruin vaginas?
By Cheryl Kaye Just a few years ago I was certain about so many things. I was positive I was ‘straight’, I could acknowledge that I found some girls more attractive than others but I figured that was just what everyone thought. Occasionally, I would think about what it would be like to kiss a girl, to taste her, to run my hands over her body, and to have her do the same to me. But I knew I loved cock, I wasn’t gay.
By Cara Sutra: Adult Sex Ed Month has been created for easy and shame-free access to sex ed in adult life. June is Adult Sex Ed Month 2016 and I am very excited to be part of the campaign for more and for better sex education for adults - as well as raising awareness of its ongoing importance.
Been Friendzoned? Why You Need To Ditch The Friendzone Myth Heard of the friendzone? Perhaps you've been friendzoned, or friendzoned someone else. I've most heard the term amongst men, but a few women have referred to it as...
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Sarah Berry: How do I fit BDSM into our relationship when I’m busy with work and kids? I’m happily married to a beautiful woman and, during our relationship, we have started to explore kink. We’ve discussed chastity and having a Female Led Relationship (FLR) but we have some problems.
By Cara Sutra: Keeping the fires of passion stoked and alive in a long term relationship can be incredibly challenging. You love your partner dearly, but trying to capture that first impetuous rush of emotion and the sensations of being newly in love is difficult even for couples with incredibly strong emotional bonds.
When it comes down to finding potential partners, there is now an increasing availability of people out there. Whether people are looking for life partners or just a bit of fun, the modern web now has many specialist websites where like-minded people can meet up to get what they want. What were once called unusual dating practices have emerged away from the underground scene and are now part of the mainstream scene.
By Mel MacFarlane: Between juggling feeds, changes, routines, weaning and play dates it’s hard to forget that you are in fact, a couple. As much as we love our children and they should absolutely be our priority, we also need to remember to work on our relationships too. After all, they also need to be nurtured.
By Cara Sutra: This week’s anonymous advice-hunter needs some tips to become a more dominant woman in the bedroom, which will turn both her and her partner on.
You crave nothing more than her largest strap-on wedged firmly up your ass. She, on the other hand, insists you spend the day doing the dishes dressed in sissy frills and heels. However, you're not a sissy and she doesn't own any strap on harnesses. How could things have gone so wrong?
By Cheryl Kaye: I finally worked my way out of an abusive relationship, and swore off men for a while. However, that realisation got me thinking about how cautious I have always been about certain things, and how that is spilling over into this. I want all the sex but I want it to be safe too.
Whether you agree with Valentine’s Day or not, February always brings out the romantic side of a relationship. Whether you bring your partner home a bunch of flowers, or you prefer to cuddle on the sofa with a takeaway and a film, it’s a time to celebrate your ‘togetherness’. For couples in a BDSM relationship, Valentine’s Day is a great reason to lock the door, dig out your collection of kinky treats and find subspace together.
Parenthood of any variety complicates your sex life, first of all. If you’re on your own with children, it might seem all but impossible to find time to date, shag or even schedule a few minutes for a quick wank, particularly if your kids are still very small. But if you’ve got to the point where you really do feel the need for a bit of adult action, it’s not impossible to find it.
By Cara Sutra: Sexy time is important time. It doesn't matter whether you're involved in a relationship or single, whether you're male or female. Regardless of your personal circumstances, making time to satisfy your sexual needs should be a priority for every adult. A big question, though, is how to make time for sexy time with a busy life?
I hear so often of couples or people within other relationships complaining about their partner on Twitter or Facebook these days. The phrase may take the route of, 'he doesn't understand me any more' or 'she never listens' or something along those lines. I find it a real shame that these outbursts, so honest and fixing squarely on the root of the problem, or at least on the centre of the person's feelings about the problem, are directed to their social media, rather than to their partner.