By Cara Sutra: Is this you? Are you living with a vanilla partner when you're kinky? Perhaps you need some element of BDSM to get your kicks in your sex life. If so, living with someone for whom these activities are distasteful or simply don’t feature can be hard work, frustrating and upsetting. For everyone involved.
By Cara Sutra: Threesomes are often seen as the holy grail of sex. Plenty of people of all genders fantasise about getting it on with more than one partner, and those who have experienced a threesome often regale jealous mates with saucy anecdotes to make them drool.
Busy lives and long-term relationships have a habit of forming the perfect recipe for a stale sex life. If you've been in a relationship with your partner for a while, you might have noticed that sex isn't quite as exciting as it was when you first met. Is there any way to recapture your honeymoon sex life?
Dear Cara: I'm a single female that's recently been asked by a couple if I'd like to join them for some fun. We all seem to be on the same wave length. So far we have all been open and honest with each other and plan to keep it that way if it does go further. I have heard good and bad stories about threesomes. How do we make sure it turns out to be a good time for everyone? Are there any threesome dos and donts?
Do you ever look at the sexy selfies people have taken and posted on their blogs and wonder how you could do the same? You don’t need expensive equipment or even a second pair of hands in order to be able to take sexy or erotic photos of yourself.
By Karma Tantric: I have been a huge fan of erotic massage ever since I encountered my first body to body massage a few years ago. My willingness to try new things unknowingly opened a whole new playground of sexual pleasure into my life. It’s a combination of total sensory relaxation, coupled with the up-close skin to skin sensation that induces some of the most wildly intense orgasms I have ever managed to achieve.
Several years ago I used to suffer from what is known as retroactive jealousy — an irrational obsession with a partner’s sexual or romantic past. It all started with me when my new girlfriend and I were woken up at 2 am by one of her former hook-up buddies calling to see if she was “around” that night.
By HornyGeekGirl: For me a big part of my sex life (especially with those sexy friends who live further away) is sharing sexy photos. This can take many different forms. From a simple and totally PG photo of my smiling face, all the way to a very graphic shot of a very private area.
I'll be providing the best sex tips, giving sex toy advice, calming concerns and presenting guides on how to help you make the most of your love life in this new column here at CaraSutra. Whether you're single, with a partner/partners or venturing into the world of orgasms with sex toys, you'll find the answers you're looking for here.
By Cara Sutra: This week’s anonymous advice-hunter needs some tips to become a more dominant woman in the bedroom, which will turn both her and her partner on.
If you're in a relationship, it's unlikely that you're physically with your partner 24/7. Even if you live together, one or both of you may work outside the home, and the pace of modern life means regular temporary separations are normal and unavoidable.
By Cara Sutra: Can the world please stop caring so damn much about what (supposedly) all men do? Or what all men think? And how, all these things that ALL MEN DO! Or ALL MEN THINK! are immediate and obvious signs that you, as a woman, are unattractive/unloved/neglected/totally shit in bed and should go and live under a rock with only a masturbatory twig for company?
By Mel MacFarlane: For those who are enchanted by the romance between Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey, a reluctant partner proves somewhat of a challenge. My inbox is full of disappointed lovers hoping for the Christian Grey bedroom experience, but struggling with their hapless partner who is quite clearly feeling the pressure.
An online survey of over 2000 UK adults* has revealed some fascinating insights into our masturbation habits and attitudes. The Masturbation Matters survey was commissioned by TENGA for Masturbation Month and posed masturbation-related questions to people of various age groups (18+), genders and relationship status.
By Cara Sutra: Consent is mandatory for any sexual, intimate or otherwise physically or psychologically invasive experience. We all know this, and if you don’t, you do now. It’s difficult to believe that there could be any confusion surrounding the issue of consent.
By Cheryl Kaye: In my last column I mentioned that in the last six months I’d had more sexual partners than in the previous six years. I explained that I’d been voluntarily celibate for four years, it was actually six years...
Been Friendzoned? Why You Need To Ditch The Friendzone Myth Heard of the friendzone? Perhaps you've been friendzoned, or friendzoned someone else. I've most heard the term amongst men, but a few women have referred to it as...
By Mel MacFarlane: A break up can trigger many different emotions. Some people may feel relief whereas others are heartbroken. After all, it isn’t just the breakdown of the relationship, but your future plans together too. Despite this, many of us still find it hard to resist the temptation of slipping back between the bedsheets with an ex - but why?