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​Retroactive Jealousy – Why You’re Hung Up On Your Partner’s Sexual Past

Several years ago I used to suffer from what is known as retroactive jealousy — an irrational obsession with a partner’s sexual or romantic past. It all started with me when my new girlfriend and I were woken up at 2 am by one of her former hook-up buddies calling to see if she was “around” that night.

Am I Bisexual Or Pansexual? 

I've always thought of myself as bisexual. Well, not always – the realisation that I was sexually attracted to anyone at all came with puberty, and the shock of being attracted to girls as well as boys struck me around the same time.

INSTI HIV Self Test by bioLytical Laboratories: Test Yourself For HIV

1 in 7 people with HIV are unaware they have the virus, according to a report by the European Centre for Disease Prevention and Control. There's really no need for anyone to be in the dark about their HIV status. You don't need to go to a clinic to test for it, you can self test for HIV in the comfort and privacy of your own home.

85% Of Brits Happy With Partner’s Masturbation Habits, TENGA Survey Reveals

An online survey of over 2000 UK adults* has revealed some fascinating insights into our masturbation habits and attitudes. The Masturbation Matters survey was commissioned by TENGA for Masturbation Month and posed masturbation-related questions to people of various age groups (18+), genders and relationship status.

General Erection 2017: How To Enjoy Great Sex Despite A Politics Clash

How To Have Great Sex With Your Partner Despite A Politics Clash With the United Kingdom General Election 2017 fast approaching, tensions are high - particularly if you and your partner support different political parties. Very...
Sex Without Obligations: Pros and Cons

Sex Without Obligations: Pros and Cons

Sex in modern society has been discussed much more often and more frankly in the last decade. People are no longer afraid to reveal their preferences and desires. One of the most discussed themes today is “sex without obligations".

Should You Ever Have Sex With An Ex?

By Mel MacFarlane: A break up can trigger many different emotions. Some people may feel relief whereas others are heartbroken. After all, it isn’t just the breakdown of the relationship, but your future plans together too. Despite this, many of us still find it hard to resist the temptation of slipping back between the bedsheets with an ex - but why?

How To Turn A Reluctant Partner Into Christian Grey

By Mel MacFarlane: For those who are enchanted by the romance between Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey, a reluctant partner proves somewhat of a challenge. My inbox is full of disappointed lovers hoping for the Christian Grey bedroom experience, but struggling with their hapless partner who is quite clearly feeling the pressure.

Is Active Consent Required In A Relationship?

By Cara Sutra: Consent is mandatory for any sexual, intimate or otherwise physically or psychologically invasive experience. We all know this, and if you don’t, you do now. It’s difficult to believe that there could be any confusion surrounding the issue of consent.

Why Winter is The Sexiest Season

By Cara Sutra: Summer was my favourite time of year. None of that feeling frozen to the bone; just warm, sunny, dry weather over the seemingly never-ending summer holidays. As I’ve got older, my opinion has changed.

How To Be Romantic Without Spending Any Money

By Cara Sutra: It's so easy to be swept along into the great commercialisation of love and romance. To cave under the weight of the ads and believe that romance is measured in expensive bouquets, hotel stays, sparkling jewellery and weekends abroad. Don't me wrong – I love all that stuff. But it's definitely not required in order for me to know that my partner loves me. Whatever your bank balance, there are ways to be incredibly romantic without spending any money. Or at least, very little… using items you probably already have around your home.

8 Ways To Sex Up Your Christmas

By Cara Sutra: Christmas isn’t intrinsically sexy. The focus is on the home: gathering relatives and friends for a family closeness that often only happens this time of year. Traditional scenes of baking biscuits, sipping chocolate topped with cream and marshmallows and enjoying their excited little faces all aglow doesn’t exactly scream wanton and passionate romps with your partner. Let’s not miss an opportunity for adult mischief, though. I’ve got a few ideas to help make Christmas sexy for couples and get your name so indelibly on Santa’s naughty list he’ll only visit to deliver an over the knee spanking.

Forget Sex Positions; Hello Sex Locations

By Cara Sutra: When you’ve been having sex for a while -and especially with the same sexual partner- you’ll likely find a sex position that really works for you. You’ll enjoy having sex in that particular way because it pushes your buttons. And that’s ok, until someone comes along and tells you you’ve got to ‘spice it up’ and ‘try these new positions today’. If you really want to try something new, why not consider sex locations rather than sex positions?

How To Gift Lingerie She Loves For Christmas

By Mel MacFarlane: As a woman, I love opening expensive new lingerie on Christmas morning (hint, hint). I love the thought of my other half lovingly choosing the delicate fabrics, admiring the cut of the soft lace and his face as he dreams of me wearing it. I picture him assertively flicking through the hangers, and the final eureka moment when he spies the perfect garment to emphasise my long legs, disguise my saggy tummy and deliver a cleavage to die for.

My Single Sex Life: Jealousy

By Cheryl Kaye: “Jealousy can lead you to the very places where you most need healing. It can be your guide into your own dark side and show you the way to total self-realisation.” Deborah Anapol, Love without Limits.

Is Social Media Destroying Your Relationship?

By Mel MacFarlane: I know about your kids and the names of all your family pets. What I don’t know, is whether my husband has had a nice day. Until I check his Facebook status…

Self-Perception & Sex: How Do My Opinions Of Myself Affect My Sex Life?

By Cara Sutra: How I view myself has a big effect on my libido and, consequentially, on my sex life. Self-perception and sexuality is often discussed in sex advice articles, but I find that the majority of these simply focus on increasing your self-confidence in the bedroom so that you can enjoy sex more frequently, in more adventurous ways or just an improved sex life in general. I wanted to explore something beyond a crisis of confidence. How can the ebb and flow of self-perception alter desires towards and actions within masturbation and any shared sexual experiences?

How It Feels Watching Your Partner Fuck Someone Else

By Cara Sutra: How would you feel if you saw your partner fuck someone else? I guess for many the answer would be colourful variants of pissed off. Catch 5 minutes of a daytime TV chat show to watch lie detector frenzies and accusations of cheating descend into all-out battle. The reality, when we add in consent and pre-discussion, is more complex and nuanced. A partner having sex with someone else doesn't always mean they're cheating on you or that you'll feel betrayed.

Sexy Selfies And My Sex Life

By HornyGeekGirl: For me a big part of my sex life (especially with those sexy friends who live further away) is sharing sexy photos. This can take many different forms. From a simple and totally PG photo of my smiling face, all the way to a very graphic shot of a very private area.

10 Things You Should Know Before Having A Threesome

By Cara Sutra: Threesomes are often seen as the holy grail of sex. Plenty of people of all genders fantasise about getting it on with more than one partner, and those who have experienced a threesome often regale jealous mates with saucy anecdotes to make them drool.