Relationship Advice

People in relationships often come up against hurdles and challenges; after all, as Shakespeare said, "the course of true love never did run smooth." Maybe you have worries arising from dating, or from trying to keep the spark alight in a long-distance relationship, or simply find dealing with day-to-day coupledom difficult. Welcome to the relationship advice section here at the Cara Sutra sex blog.

There are many types of relationship help available to couples, but reading the advice in the articles found below present some huge advantages over other options. Talking about the intricate and intimate problems in your relationship to a friend might feel awkward and embarrassing, or just really inappropriate. There are various professional marriage guidance counsellors and therapists, but these can seem quite intimidating to book an appointment with -not to mention expensive.

Usually it’s direct, clear and honest communication with your partner themselves which is the correct course of action to put you well on the way to solving any relationship problems. The next issue to rear its head, then, is how to broach the subject with your partner without causing more friction and tension.

My relationship advice articles are free to read and full of real, useful advice on a range of relationship issues. You can read about dating, specific sex problems, the major causes of arguments, jealousy, dealing with exes and much more. I hope these features give you the guidance and help you need, so that you are soon feeling happier about going forwards in your relationships.

How The Winter Season Can Boost Your Sex Life

Good news! You can officially stop feeling blue about winter - it's the perfect season to grab some quality time and a hotter sex life with your partner. It may not seem like it, with frosty weather and early dark skies each day, but there are plenty of ways in which the winter season can boost your sex life.
Massage For Intimacy Not Just As A Prelude To Sex

Massage For Intimacy, Not Just As A Prelude To Sex

Erotic massage is a fantastic way to shake up foreplay and can be a new way to arouse each other before sex – but today I want to talk about massage for intimacy, not just as a prelude to sex.
How To Give A Sexy Webcam Show

How To Give A Sexy Webcam Show

Treating your partner to a sexy show via video call is an easy & imaginative way to reignite the spark in your sex life, or to keep the passion stoked in a long-distance relationship. However, I know how easy it is to feel apprehensive about anything involving cameras, never mind during intensely vulnerable moments of shared intimacy. In this feature I will be sharing my top tips & advice on how to give a sexy webcam show where you will seduce your partner with confidence, creativity & sensuality.

Sex Up Your Suitcase: What To Pack For A Sexy Vacation

Whatever else you’ve got on your packing checklist, today I’m going to help you sex up your suitcase. I'll also show that no matter what sort of holiday you’re looking forward to, intimate solo or shared erotic pleasure should be a priority. Welcome to my guide to packing for a sexy vacation!

Benefits Of A Regular Sex Life In Middle-Age

When I was younger, I thought sex was strictly reserved for the young. People in their 40s, 50s, 60s and older having sex? Talk to the hand! Time marches on for all of us though, and as I approach my mid-40s myself I have to admit that I was totally wrong. Not only do I still have a strong libido and active love life, there are various unexpected benefits to a regular sex life in middle-age as well.

Safe Sex Guide: Healthy Hook-Ups Every Time

After the severe social restrictions of the last couple of years, many people will be enjoying some tentative freedoms with regards meeting people in-person again. Dating is back! The term 'dating' is a bit vague - it could mean searching for a long-term partner or hooking up for some no-strings sex. How can you ensure healthy hook-ups and enjoy safe sex, though?
Edging In Masturbation How To Edge And Why You Should Try

What Is Edging In Masturbation? How To ‘Edge’ & Why You Should Try It

Experimenting with new bedroom techniques, positions and sensations is a great way to ensure your sex life remains healthy and varied. It's easy to discount masturbation as not really part of your 'sex life', but don't make that mistake - exploring new solo sexual ventures keeps things fresh and exciting. You're worth it!

Vaginismus: How To Ease Vaginal Tightness

Vaginismus is a condition where the muscles in and around the vagina spasm and painfully tighten during penetration. This tightening is involuntary; the person suffering with vaginismus has no control over it and is unable to make it stop.

Sexual Foreplay Guide: Hot Pre-Sex Arousal Tips & Ideas

Brilliant sexual foreplay can mean the difference between a stagnant, monotonous sex life and keeping the spice and magic of a relationship alive. Are you stuck for ideas for fantastic before sex arousal and supremely arousing foreplay? Welcome to my comprehensive guide to lovers' arousal techniques: my sexual foreplay 101.

Being Kink Compatible In BDSM Relationships

You crave nothing more than her largest strap-on wedged firmly up your ass. She, on the other hand,  insists you spend the day doing the dishes dressed in sissy frills and heels. However, you're not a sissy and she doesn't own any strap on harnesses. How could things have gone so wrong? It's time to talk about kink compatibility in BDSM relationships.

Imaginative Sexual Role Play Ideas

The world of sex advice is awash with tips in this regard, with ‘trying out role-play with your partner’ being a popular one. But what sort of role-play situation is sexy? And what type of role-play suits your sort of relationship, in particular? Today, I’d like to share with you 10 steamy role-play ideas to try with your partner.

Can You Be Just Friends With An Ex?

Whether the ex was a regular booty call or a long-term partner in a relationship, many of us have people we've been emotionally and physically intimate with in the past. This prior closeness engenders strong emotion, and they say love and hate are two sides of the same coin. Are you friends with any of your exes? Is it even possible? Can you ever be just friends with an ex?  

What Is Active Consent? Is It Required In A Relationship?

Consent is mandatory for any sexual, intimate or otherwise physically or psychologically invasive experience. We all know this, and if you don’t, you do now. It’s difficult to believe that there could be any confusion surrounding the issue of consent.

Change Where You Have Sex: Fucking Somewhere New

When you’ve been having sex for a while -and especially with the same sexual partner- you’ll likely find a sex position that really works for you. You’ll enjoy having sex in that particular way because it pushes your buttons. And that’s ok, until someone comes along and tells you you’ve got to ‘spice it up’ and ‘try these new positions today’. If you really want to try something new, why not consider sex locations rather than sex positions?

How It Feels Watching Your Partner Fuck Someone Else

How would you feel if you saw your partner fuck someone else? I guess for many the answer would be colourful variants of pissed off. Catch 5 minutes of a daytime TV chat show to watch lie detector frenzies and accusations of cheating descend into all-out battle. The reality, when we add in consent and pre-discussion, is more complex and nuanced. A partner having sex with someone else doesn't always mean they're cheating on you or that you'll feel betrayed.

How To Be More Dominant In The Bedroom

By Cara Sutra: This week’s anonymous advice-hunter needs some tips to become a more dominant woman in the bedroom, which will turn both her and her partner on.

Age Gap Relationships

By Cara Sutra: Most people have an opinion on age gap relationships, whether they are resolutely black and white about what's an acceptable age gap in a romantic relationship or they believe age differences just don't matter. What do you think about people of different ages being in a relationship?

Disability And Sex

I am disabled. I know. I don’t look disabled, right? In some comparatively small ways, my disability affects my sex life and masturbation. I have a severe high frequency hearing loss, making me deaf but not Deaf. The problems caused by my deafness in life are small and fairly easy to overcome or circumvent, therefore I don’t really class myself as disabled.

Sex And Religion: Perverting Religious Symbolism

Of course, it’s Easter, which is the Christian festival most associated with ‘fertility rituals’ and symbols that are not really that Christian at all – though there is still no agreement, let alone any proof, as to which specific ancient pagan feast inspired the annual celebration of eggs, bunnies, flowers and binging on chocolate. I wish you all joy and delight in the springtime, whether your bunnies are battery-powered or the sort that moan with joy when you wrap them up in rope, and if you want to mark the occasion by eating a Creme Egg off your favourite playmate’s naughty bits then go right ahead.

Hot Kissing Tips: How To Be A Fantastic Kisser

Kissing tips: Kissing is often a forgotten or at least neglected area of our love lives. Whether you’re in a relationship or a sassy single with a satisfying sex life, kissing adds a uniquely passionate element to sex and lovemaking.