Kinky Valentine’s Day Ideas: The Alternative Romance Of BDSM

By Cara Sutra: Hearts, flowers, wine, chocolates, greeting cards… all this and more equates to the very best in romance that you can give your partner on Valentine’s Day, to prove your depth of feeling for them. So says commercialism, anyway.

How to find subspace together this Valentine’s Day

Whether you agree with Valentine’s Day or not, February always brings out the romantic side of a relationship. Whether you bring your partner home a bunch of flowers, or you prefer to cuddle on the sofa with a takeaway and a film, it’s a time to celebrate your ‘togetherness’. For couples in a BDSM relationship, Valentine’s Day is a great reason to lock the door, dig out your collection of kinky treats and find subspace together.

The Time I Made Him Make Me Safeword

By Cara Sutra: He had his fingers inside me. It sounds so gorgeously innocent, doesn’t it? So young, almost like the first gentle corruption of a fresh faced virgin. They're just fingers; sweet, dipping in-and-out fingers.

Fetish Friday: Pony Girl

"Keep those fucking knees up." The crop landed on my fleshy buttock once again, where the red lines were already vividly striping my pale flesh. Her hand, tightly, mercilessly holding on to the lunge rope, connected...

Fetish Friday: Sploshing – How to have your cake and fuck it

As thoughts turned to Friday, I realised I needed to write something for my Fetish Friday meme. As some of you may know, it has become something of a joke that I like a...

Forced Bi Fuck Buddy Slaves for Mistress

By slave penny: I had learned to arrive punctually when fulfilling any command my Mistress had imposed. She could not abide tardiness. It was exactly 7.45 pm as I entered the large entrance to the hotel.

Mistress Cara FemDom Diary Update: November 2011

Every morning I am woken at 6.45am with a cup of hot coffee, as well as a mug of tea for my man next to me. I know it shames minnie dreadfully having to serve us in this way and in whichever way I wish. Always knowing he is nothing, so insignificant compared to his Mistress Cara and Her real man.

BDSM: When Communication Stops After Consent

By Giles English: In the ideal kinky world, everybody talks before and after doing power exchange: “Communicate, communicate, communicate.” It’s the standard expectation in the BDSM community, where refusing to talk about kink is a red flag. And yes, communicating about kink feels like a no-brainer. How else will you both make sure that everything is safe and consensual?

Fetish Friday: Owning a slave from a Mistress’ point of view

Of course I do love the kink aspects of D/s, in particular, long term male chastity, male humiliation, foot worship and suchlike. I definitely do NOT have sexual contact with any submissives or slaves.

Beginner’s Guide to Bondage Sex Toys And Fetish Gear

By Cara Sutra: There’s quite a bit of confusion even in seasoned sex toys circles about what certain terms refer to regarding bondage sex toys and fetish gear. For this week’s Fetish Friday, I want to help clear up some of that confusion - with this handy guide.

Forced Orgasms: Orgasmic Consensual Non-Consent

By Cara Sutra: Forced orgasms have been a source of curiosity to me for quite some time. It’s unusual for me to find intrigue through BDSM-based orgasms, as I have a penchant for male chastity as you may have noticed from my regular kinky writings on the subject.

When A Rough Sex Session Leaves You With Kinky Bruises & Bite Marks

Kinky bruises and bite marks - how do you feel about them? Like so many parts of BDSM, opinion is divided on whether being left with bruises, scratches, bite marks etc is a good way or a bad way to end a scene or rough sex session with your partner.

Fetish Friday: 5 reasons you want a Mistress to sit on your face

Facesitting and Queening Facesitting is the act of, well, sitting on a person's face. Clue's in the name, really. Why would anyone do this? It's actually very erotic. Face sitting can be undertaken during vanilla...

Loving Bondage Doesn’t Make Me Any Less Of A Dominant Woman

By Cara Sutra: I’m quite proud, actually; proud that I’m not allowing myself to be restricted by a label. I love the irony in that statement. Loving bondage really doesn't make me any less of a dominant woman. Dommes can love being tied up too.

Best Tools for Corporal Punishment & Spanking

By Cara Sutra: So you want to get hitty with it? Has Fifty Shades of Grey got you all fired up for a bit of corporal punishment? Or do you hate absolutely everything 50 Shades and want to ‘do it properly’?

Keyholding Services: When DIY Chastity Gets Too Hard

By Cara Sutra: I've written various articles on the subject. What I get out of locking a guy up in a chastity cage. Female chastity. Slaves have written their experiences, and there are several chastity device reviews. This year, I'm focusing on Keyholding services.

Deep Throat Fucking: When You Have A Cock Sucking Fetish

By Cara Sutra: When I asked a few weeks back, on Twitter and other social media, which fetishes people would like to see written up for Fetish Friday, I wasn’t expecting deep throat fucking to be one of them.

Can Women Ever Actually Submit? Gender Differences In BDSM

By Cara Sutra: At the risk of incurring the wrath of gender warriors, I want to write a little about the difference between male and female submission today. I am speaking about the male gendered brain in submission, the female gendered brain in submission; and the differences between the two.

Can You Be A Homophobic Bisexual Submissive Male?

By Cara Sutra: Can you be a homophobic bisexual submissive male? Let's explore this fascinating subject. First, here's two interesting facts about a recent new slave.

Fetish Friday: Why teddy bears are important to Daddy’s little girls

In the BDSM scene, daddies little girls and anyone involved in this type of ageplay fetish are often regarded as overly perverse, disgusting and sometimes even worse labels than these are applied. This is the result of a misunderstanding of the fetish as a whole. The woman who wishes to revert mentally to being a little girl in part, is an adult aged woman, who has made an adult decision to fulfil her need to submit by relinquishing responsibility in the way a little girl would to her loving, protecting Daddy.