By Cara Sutra: I have a weakness for submissives who are firmly in the slave category of BDSM. I love total power exchange. I'm not the kind who gets off simply on Femdom sessions with a guy acting sub, tending to his fantasies for an hour then getting back to ‘normal’ roles. Much preferred is the day-to-day reality of being a Dominant woman to a 100%-of-the-time submissive man.
Facesitting and Queening Facesitting is the act of, well, sitting on a person's face. Clue's in the name, really. Why would anyone do this? It's actually very erotic. Face sitting can be undertaken during vanilla...
When you think about punishment, what are you thinking? Are you thinking about something that makes you suffer, or something that turns you on? A question raised on my forum got me thinking. What is...
By Giles English: In the ideal kinky world, everybody talks before and after doing power exchange: “Communicate, communicate, communicate.” It’s the standard expectation in the BDSM community, where refusing to talk about kink is a red flag. And yes, communicating about kink feels like a no-brainer. How else will you both make sure that everything is safe and consensual?
By Cara Sutra: Sploshing. Say sploshing to most people on the street and they won’t know what you’re on about (they'll also give you a wide berth for randomly talking in their face). Sploshing in puddles? Get your wellies on and go for a run through the muddy woods after a good downpour? Erm, nope.
Of course I do love the kink aspects of D/s, in particular, long term male chastity, male humiliation, foot worship and suchlike. I definitely do NOT have sexual contact with any submissives or slaves.
By Cara Sutra: I’m quite proud, actually; proud that I’m not allowing myself to be restricted by a label. I love the irony in that statement. Loving bondage really doesn't make me any less of a dominant woman. Dommes can love being tied up too.
By Cara Sutra: Are shouty Dominants kinky or abusive? When you think of shouting in a the usual sense, you will probably experience certain visualisations. A couple mid-row. A parent chastising a child. Maybe you recall a personal, perhaps painful, memory.
Whether you agree with Valentine’s Day or not, February always brings out the romantic side of a relationship. Whether you bring your partner home a bunch of flowers, or you prefer to cuddle on the sofa with a takeaway and a film, it’s a time to celebrate your ‘togetherness’. For couples in a BDSM relationship, Valentine’s Day is a great reason to lock the door, dig out your collection of kinky treats and find subspace together.
By Cara Sutra: It seems strange to me that there hasn't been a connection made between corporal punishment and ageplay before. After a particularly hot session with my partner recently, it suddenly struck me. What's your first response? Is there any connection between ageplay and spanking?
Would you like to kneel, by my feet? Would you like to open your mouth wide, ready to receive? Would you keep your eyes obediently turned downwards, never raising above the level of my knee? Would you let the hot ash burn into your tongue, knowing you suffer for my pleasure?
In the BDSM scene, daddies little girls and anyone involved in this type of ageplay fetish are often regarded as overly perverse, disgusting and sometimes even worse labels than these are applied. This is the result of a misunderstanding of the fetish as a whole. The woman who wishes to revert mentally to being a little girl in part, is an adult aged woman, who has made an adult decision to fulfil her need to submit by relinquishing responsibility in the way a little girl would to her loving, protecting Daddy.
By Cara Sutra: A shared post on Facebook this morning turned my attention to the subject of sexy name calling. Not in a trolling or abusive way, although this post which was shared to my TL by the brilliant sexual educator that is Charlie Glickman does focus on in appropriate behaviour in what should have been a protective and safe environment for all who attended. As much as the actions of the sexist, inappropriate guy talked about in the post disgusted me, it was one word in particular which made me stop and think.