By Cara Sutra: Is this you? Are you living with a vanilla partner when you're kinky? Perhaps you need some element of BDSM to get your kicks in your sex life. If so, living with someone for whom these activities are distasteful or simply don’t feature can be hard work, frustrating and upsetting. For everyone involved.
By Cara Sutra: At the risk of incurring the wrath of gender warriors, I want to write a little about the difference between male and female submission today. I am speaking about the male gendered brain in submission, the female gendered brain in submission; and the differences between the two.
By Cara Sutra: Are shouty Dominants kinky or abusive? When you think of shouting in a the usual sense, you will probably experience certain visualisations. A couple mid-row. A parent chastising a child. Maybe you recall a personal, perhaps painful, memory.
If I had to distil my love of everything (well, most things) kinky into a 'Top 5' compilation... what would make the list? Today I'm going to share with you my 5 favourite kinks, then explain why I find them so sexy.
By Cara Sutra: For me, female submission is an entirely sexual act, not a lifestyle choice or a facet of my personality. I submit to my partner for my pleasure, as well as for his. The act of him taking pleasure in my sexual submission or bedroom roleplay keys into an underlying vanity.
Of course I do love the kink aspects of D/s, in particular, long term male chastity, male humiliation, foot worship and suchlike. I definitely do NOT have sexual contact with any submissives or slaves.
I moaned aloud as he took me by the shoulders and drove the full length of his cock deep into my achingly hungry pussy. My slippery, soft labia were spread apart as they massaged his welcome penetration. My head turned to the side, flat on the bed as he pinned it there with his heavy hand in my hair, he rammed his cock into me repeatedly, frenziedly. This wasn't love-making. This was primitive, carnal rutting.
By Giles English: In the ideal kinky world, everybody talks before and after doing power exchange: “Communicate, communicate, communicate.” It’s the standard expectation in the BDSM community, where refusing to talk about kink is a red flag. And yes, communicating about kink feels like a no-brainer. How else will you both make sure that everything is safe and consensual?
By slave penny: There was light. To some extent I took it for granted, but the fact that light from the small window, high on the wall of the cellar that was my home, should penetrate the blanket that covered my cage, would, by many, have been regarded as unusual and welcome.
By Cara Sutra: There’s a worrying trend in BDSM to spurn the use of safewords. For me, safewords are not an optional extra, they are a requirement for ‘play’. I use the term play not to lessen the importance of kinky activities, but rather as an umbrella term for anything that could be described as being part of BDSM.
By slave penny: The mere softness of the bed looked so inviting. In fact the imagined comfort of the deep cushioned bedroom chairs would have been pleasure beyond imagination. It had been many years since I had experienced what, at one time, would have been a routine amenity.
Facesitting and Queening Facesitting is the act of, well, sitting on a person's face. Clue's in the name, really. Why would anyone do this? It's actually very erotic. Face sitting can be undertaken during vanilla...
He pulled her down with hands on her upper thighs, and there was pure joyful malice in her eyes as she become the bull rider to his bull. His hands were all over her beautiful body and her sounds of ravaged pleasure filled my ears, hitting me like a slap, again and again.
By Cara Sutra: Sometimes I wonder what it would be like if you were completely submissive to me. My mind tends to stray towards a sexual kinky fantasy - a Domme's fantasy. They're not talked about much, right? Usually all eyes are on the submissive - the submissive male, in the majority of FemDom - but what does a Domme dream about?
Kinky bruises and bite marks - how do you feel about them? Like so many parts of BDSM, opinion is divided on whether being left with bruises, scratches, bite marks etc is a good way or a bad way to end a scene or rough sex session with your partner.
Terrible lighting and focussed on his face only briefly... just in case. Sessions of him milking into a pet bowl, licking up the consequences. Having to bark in order to be able to touch himself.
By slave penny: The room was clearly set for a party. A table full of nibbles and canapes, mini plates, glasses and decorations. Music was also playing but as yet no guests. I stood with a tray full of filled champagne flutes awaiting the arrival of the revellers.