How do I know? Because I’ve tried it. I’ve tried to give away my Domination as a free for all - to see it as a fun activity. To welcome all, with the open arms of the naive n00b and simply try to enjoy dominating those around who state that they’re submissive or want to be trained. What did I get? Hurt. Hurt, used, lied to, ditched and almost broken as a Mistress and as a Domme. Not quite, but nearly. I have been used as a service Top without my consent many times. Now, if I feel like someone comes to me and requests Domination, that they need a downpayment of some kind. If that downpayment is simply getting me to start their training with a great big grin on my face, then that will do for me. Not a, 'oh for fuck’s sake not another demanding little shit'. Not a, 'oh why yes of course I’ll meet you and see to all your fantasies and then even fuck you because I’m just an unpaid sex worker'.
By slave christina: This is my story of submitting to a Mistress. Sometimes you meet someone and there is an instant attraction. Other times you may take some time to find a level of happiness. Other times it is the situation you are both in that brings you together and sometimes it is the situation that keeps you together or forces you apart.
You crave nothing more than her largest strap-on wedged firmly up your ass. She, on the other hand, insists you spend the day doing the dishes dressed in sissy frills and heels. However, you're not a sissy and she doesn't own any strap on harnesses. How could things have gone so wrong?
By Cara Sutra: June is Adult Sex Education Month and June 2014 promises to be more resourceful, education, fun and sexy than ever before. I am sponsoring Adult Sex Ed Month 2014 along with a host of other sex positive adult companies and communities, to share the best in sex education as far and wide as possible.
Facial Hair Fetish It's Friday once more, so I turn my attention to a particularly fascinating fetish or other interesting area of BDSM. Knocking out three birds with one stone, as it were, this Fetish...
By Cara Sutra: Now here's an entirely new spin on the phrase “eating out”! Perhaps you’ve heard of vore but you’re not sure what it is. Vorarephelia is a fetish, and those who find themselves aroused by the idea of eating, or being eaten by, a person. Not in the literal eating of people, which is cannibalism. Dolcett Girls falls under the vore fetish category.
By Cara Sutra: There’s a worrying trend in BDSM to spurn the use of safewords. For me, safewords are not an optional extra, they are a requirement for ‘play’. I use the term play not to lessen the importance of kinky activities, but rather as an umbrella term for anything that could be described as being part of BDSM.
By Cara Sutra: Sploshing. Say sploshing to most people on the street and they won’t know what you’re on about (they'll also give you a wide berth for randomly talking in their face). Sploshing in puddles? Get your wellies on and go for a run through the muddy woods after a good downpour? Erm, nope.
He pulled her down with hands on her upper thighs, and there was pure joyful malice in her eyes as she become the bull rider to his bull. His hands were all over her beautiful body and her sounds of ravaged pleasure filled my ears, hitting me like a slap, again and again.
The no frills sex using hands, lips, bodies and lovely nakedness is perfect for me. It’s exactly what my husband and I both enjoy and it works for us. It’s not that I haven’t tried to implement fetish items into the bedroom, I really have, but we just didn’t enjoy it. I’ve tried paddles, whips and even a ball gag but I don’t like being hit (ouch!) and he didn’t like hurting me either. We’ve sat and discussed at length the things that we enjoy in the bedroom and it’s the straightforward sex that we both enjoy every time.
By Cara Sutra: Forced orgasms have been a source of curiosity to me for quite some time. It’s unusual for me to find intrigue through BDSM-based orgasms, as I have a penchant for male chastity as you may have noticed from my regular kinky writings on the subject.
By Hella Rude If you're new to this blog, stumbled across it because Google told you it might be what you're looking for because you've read Fifty Shades and want silver balls, handcuffs, Christian Grey or just some more information about bondage, or BDSM in general... you're in the right place.
By Cara Sutra: It seems strange to me that there hasn't been a connection made between corporal punishment and ageplay before. After a particularly hot session with my partner recently, it suddenly struck me. What's your first response? Is there any connection between ageplay and spanking?