I moaned aloud as he took me by the shoulders and drove the full length of his cock deep into my achingly hungry pussy. My slippery, soft labia were spread apart as they massaged his welcome penetration. My head turned to the side, flat on the bed as he pinned it there with his heavy hand in my hair, he rammed his cock into me repeatedly, frenziedly. This wasn't love-making. This was primitive, carnal rutting.
By Cara Sutra: There’s a worrying trend in BDSM to spurn the use of safewords. For me, safewords are not an optional extra, they are a requirement for ‘play’. I use the term play not to lessen the importance of kinky activities, but rather as an umbrella term for anything that could be described as being part of BDSM.
I hated the Fifty Shades of Grey book, there I said it. I thought it was a boring story with tame sex and a couple of lacklustre, crazed idiots – one of whom wanted to mercilessly beat one and another who simpered, bit her lip and let him do exactly what he wanted. However, millions of women (and some men) fell in love with the story of Christian Grey and Anastasia Steele. Fifty Shades of Grey became one of the bestselling books of 2011 and the most anticipated movie of 2015. In Blackburn, the seats to all 7 showings on the 13th February were fully booked as couples flocked to experience the passionate love affair on the big screen. According to a member of management, this has never been seen before at our Cinema.
By Zak Jane Keir: Oh holy shit, my feet! Just have to start by saying that, because it’s the thought running most regularly through my head today. A kind friend passed on a pair of beautiful 40-hole black Doc Martens to me as they were, apparently surplus to her requirements. She said they had hardly been worn, and she was absolutely right. They had hardly been worn at all.
There are a lot of different terms bandied around both the fetish and mainstream circles, relating to the orientation of players in kink and BDSM. Slave, submissive, switch - as well as various pet names such as puppy or bitch - can leave you feeling confused as to exactly where you stand in the grand scale of things. The BDSM spectrum is very large (in fact I feel that vanilla or kinky, we are all on the same spectrum, not living synonymously) and the chances are you will find yourself drawn to one large label over another. My new article over at Erotica UK discusses why labels can be useful even if you're averse to labelling yourself normally, and what the difference is between the big three terms for submissive players in BDSM.
By Cara Sutra: What thrill could anyone get out of locking a man into a chastity cage? At a time when the spotlight is full blast on BDSM and kink it’s refreshing to see Uber Kinky coming to the fore and raising awareness about different types of alternative relationships. What I mean is, plenty of people are now aware of light bedroom bondage which has been mainly interpreted as female sub, male Dominant. Because all relationships consist of two people, hetero, cis, the whole gender binary he-she-bang. Well actually, no.
You will remember that I was meeting 'denied', my submissive of 6 years, for the first time last Friday. This is his update after the event. It made me smile all the way through....
Time no longer had relevance. There was a time he recalls being locked in this physical and mental cage. He vaguely remembers the drink that made him feel so weak and compliant. He can recollect the smug smile on her face as she led the way down that corridor as he was helplessly, virtually carried along by other slaves. He could also recall the arousal induced by that smile, the click and clack of those sexy high heeled boots as she sauntered along that hard tiled corridor and that derriere that shouted "Woman. Beautiful desirable woman". There was apprehension and some fear but it was indicative of the power of this woman, that arousal was the sensation he remembers most.
By Cara Sutra: Hearts, flowers, wine, chocolates, greeting cards… all this and more equates to the very best in romance that you can give your partner on Valentine’s Day, to prove your depth of feeling for them. So says commercialism, anyway.
The enduring popularity of BDSM cannot be attributed in its entirety to the relatively recent appearance of Fifty Shades Of Grey, no matter how much the media would love for that to be the case. Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism are all power exchange activities, either including sex or entirely and deliberately absent of it, which have been practiced for centuries.
By Cara Sutra: At the risk of incurring the wrath of gender warriors, I want to write a little about the difference between male and female submission today. I am speaking about the male gendered brain in submission, the female gendered brain in submission; and the differences between the two.
By Cara Sutra: When I asked a few weeks back, on Twitter and other social media, which fetishes people would like to see written up for Fetish Friday, I wasn’t expecting deep throat fucking to be one of them.
By Cara Sutra: Consensual Slut Project: I am proud to be a slut. That isn’t the same as saying I recognise that I am a woman of loose morals and I don’t care. What I mean is that I have an affinity with the phrase itself and its place and meaning in my life.