A Rant About Rants: Venting On Social Media

By Cara Sutra: I believe we all know people that we genuinely like – but wow, their social media updates really push our buttons. I know I do. And if you’re thinking it’s you, it’s probably not you. I’m talking about people who seem to spend the majority of their time venting on social media. It doesn’t seem to matter if it’s Twitter, Facebook or any other social media (does anyone even bother putting text updates on any other social media platform?) – their feed is just vent after wail after whinge after whine.

Social Media Filters & Other Ways To Stay Calm On Twitter & Facebook

By Cara Sutra: Social media can be intense at the best of times. As this certainly isn’t the best of times, social platforms have fast become hot hubs of fear-mongering, panic and the high emotion that comes with them. For those who need to use social media like Twitter & Facebook as part of their job – or those who just have the 21st century addiction – it can be near impossible to visit socials and remain unaffected by the constant stream of negativity.

Despair Over The Stench Of A Presidential Trump

By Cara Sutra: Shocked. Devastated. Emotionally drained. Physically wiped-out. Like many other people, I’m feeling the effects of a particularly grim year. We’ve lost so many creative, courageous and inspiring people from the world of media and the arts. The world barely has time to move on from one catastrophic happening before another tragedy, natural or man-made, strikes, bringing death but also terror and fear-inspired divisions among those left alive.

Lovehoney Moves Affiliate Scheme From Paid on Results To Webgains

By Cara Sutra: The big news this week has got to be Lovehoney’s move from Paid on Results affiliate platform to Webgains. This was a huge blow for many affiliates, who like myself have written numerous posts and reviews containing PoR links – as well as all the social media updates out here containing PoR links too. Once the Paid on Results Lovehoney programme ends, those links will all be broken – leading nowhere, affecting blogs, readers, traffic numbers and of course, affiliate commissions.

You Don’t Have To Pay Creative Freelancers Who Love Their Job (& Other Bullshit...

By Cara Sutra: Inexplicably, when you’re freelance/run your own business/work from home/work in a creative niche such as professional blogging, copywriting or marketing, some businesses feel that paying you for your work is just an option, not a requirement. Requesting payment for skilled creative work such as marketing and copywriting can give rise to attitudes anywhere from surprise and reluctance, to offence and flat refusal.

Why Do Sex Shops Still Sell Gender Categorised Sex Toys?

By Cara Sutra: The majority of online sex shops still sell gender categorised sex toys. In an admittedly slow to change world where education about the existence of people outside of the gender binary is on the increase, should sex shops really still sell sex toys in this way?

10 Reasons To Become A Sex Toy Tester

By Mel MacFarlane: I began a brand new business venture and declared that I couldn’t write about sex toys forever. However, when push came to shove, I found that I couldn’t walk away from sex toy reviewing because it’s a part of my life that I absolutely love.

How Your Adult Business Should Respond To Unhappy Customers

By Cara Sutra: I doubt there’s any business out there that has never experienced unhappy customers at one point or another. As genuine and admirable as your company values may be, unhappy customers are part and parcel of being in business.

I Don’t Feel Sexy Enough To Write A Sex Blog

By Cara Sutra: The sex blog genre is full of people writing about top shelf sexy stuff, whether it's their real life sex diaries or articulating mind-blowingly hot fantasies conjured by their beautifully perverse imaginations. But even when sex bloggers aren't writing, they're busy bonking super sexy strangers all day and posting pictures of their gorgeous bodies on social media for the world to admire. Right?

A Blogger’s Guide To Using Images On The Internet

By Cara Sutra When I first started blogging, I didn’t really have a clue about how to properly use images on the internet. I thought pictures on my blog posts were simply to help them look pretty, things for the words to flow round, to give the readers’ imaginations a bit of help.

What’s it really like being a mother and a sex toy tester?

Being a mum is a hard enough job in itself, but mothers around the world take on a second job for a variety of reasons. Adding ‘sex toy tester’ to your CV might seem a strange choice, but what better balance to the challenging nature of motherhood than the pursuit of pleasure? I see more and more women balancing being a mum and a sex toy tester all the time, and as you can probably tell from this blog, I’m a sex toy tester myself. I'm also a mama to two beautiful boys.

What’s happening at BlogSpot at the ETO Show 2016

Following on from this call for BlogSpot at the ETO Show 2016 sponsors, I'm very happy to announce the several companies and fellow bloggers who have come forwards with support for this exciting project. Thank you so much - you're making a bigger and better BlogSpot possible for everyone.

Why you need to be a part of BlogSpot at the ETO Show 2016

The BlogSpot area at the UK’s annual premier adult industry trade show (the ETO Show) is devoted to sex bloggers and sex toy testers. The first BlogSpot was at the ETO Show 2015.

How To Shop For Sex Toys & Write A Sex Toy Review

Buzzfeed published a piece entitled Here’s How To Shop For Sex Toys Without Being Embarrassed which was put together by Emma Cooke. This article has advice and tips on how to shop for sex toys from three experts in the world of sex toy shopping: Rose Compton from Harmony, the multi ETO award winning Renée Denyer from Sh Women’s Erotic Emporium and Eve Fifer from Ann Summers.
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Avoiding accusations of content theft from bloggers

As there seems to be some mystery surrounding how to publish something from someone’s (my) blog without them (me) being annoyed about it and shouting 'content theft!', I thought I'd write about how anyone can put my content on their site and be assured I will have a smiley face, not that frowny-faced ‘take it down immediately or imma DMCA your ass’ look quite a few companies have left me with lately.

How to sell advertising on your sex blog

An area of sex blogging I get asked about a lot is selling advertising. How? When to start? How much to charge? How do I 'live the dream' and make money from writing about sex? This is a huge subject and to be honest, as one of and quite possibly the first sex blogger in the UK to sell on-site advertising to the adult industry I’ve made it up as I go along. There, I said it.

Bare-faced chic – let’s talk about anonymity and sex blogging

Face. Bothered? I decided my anonymity level right at the start of my sex blogging life. I was semi-anonymous in my previous Fetish scene online persona and website, but upon evolving to and adding a sex blog I knew I still wanted to keep my home address private but it didn’t matter to me if people knew my real name or general location.

What Is The Pleasure Panel?

Cara Sutra: Whether you're a business or a blogger, I hope you'll take a look at my new initiative. It's called the Pleasure Panel and it's been created to bring even more adult product reviews to CaraSutra.com.

Secrets of Successful Sex Blogging

If you missed the handouts at last week's ETO Show BlogSpot area, or couldn't attend and was curious about the tips, you're in luck. Below you can find the handout in its entirety - enjoy, and best of luck with your sex blogging.

Blank page, blank mind: Dealing with writer’s block

It’s no use sitting gazing at a blank document for hours on end if the words simply aren’t coming. It could be that a short break will revive your creative juices (I find a shower or a bite to eat helps on these occasions) but other times it will just be that today is not a writing day. Every day is a writing day, ideally, but we don’t live in an ideal world. It’s time we were big enough and brave enough to admit that we can’t be the best version of ourselves absolutely every single day. We all have down days, off days and days when our brains just don’t work as they should. Accept it and use the time to do something else, something positive, while your creativity restores in the background.