By Cara Sutra: "A man only cheats due to lack of sex." This is a particularly insulting yet persistent myth relating to sex and relationships. Strangely, it specifically identifies men, as if men a) are the only ones unfaithful in relationships and b) are always entirely blameless for said infidelity, as if it is part of their nature to fuck at will and without care for the consequences.
In the BDSM scene, daddies little girls and anyone involved in this type of ageplay fetish are often regarded as overly perverse, disgusting and sometimes even worse labels than these are applied. This is the result of a misunderstanding of the fetish as a whole. The woman who wishes to revert mentally to being a little girl in part, is an adult aged woman, who has made an adult decision to fulfil her need to submit by relinquishing responsibility in the way a little girl would to her loving, protecting Daddy.
by Hella Rude People often wince when I mention I once worked as a Dominatrix. It's hard to guess if it's because they can picture me George Fording someone in the balls or if they think I was a rubber-clad prostitute. See, there's a really strange fog around what a dominatrix is and I'm hoping this article will go a way to explaining exactly what the job spec means.
By Cara Sutra: I believe we all know people that we genuinely like – but wow, their social media updates really push our buttons. I know I do. And if you’re thinking it’s you, it’s probably not you. I’m talking about people who seem to spend the majority of their time venting on social media. It doesn’t seem to matter if it’s Twitter, Facebook or any other social media (does anyone even bother putting text updates on any other social media platform?) – their feed is just vent after wail after whinge after whine.
By Lauren Miller: What makes this such a popular fantasy? It may shock the faint at heart, but most women have a secret desire to take up the world's oldest profession. Yes, most women secretly want to be an escort. So what makes this fantasy so appealing?
Guest: 8 Satisfying Sex Ideas for Women in Their Forties: When you reach your forties, it can be easy to think that your sexual peak is behind you. In fact, quite the opposite is true! With increased levels of confidence and more comfort in your own skin than you ever experienced in your twenties or thirties, now is the time to shine in the bedroom. Sometimes, you just need a few tricks up your sleeve to get you there!
By Cara Sutra: The Black Friday phenomenon has well and truly got its feet under the table on this side of the pond. Although its origins are Stateside, we can’t resist a bargain here in good old Blighty, so Black Friday and Cyber Monday have been welcomed in with get-out-of-my-bloody-way arms.
By Cara Sutra: Please help! My partner and I are looking for a decent wrist/ankle restraint to enjoy a bondage hogtie or reverse hogtie situation, so I can be on my back legs spread and which gives her full access to my cock and balls.
By Cara Sutra: Shocked. Devastated. Emotionally drained. Physically wiped-out. Like many other people, I’m feeling the effects of a particularly grim year. We’ve lost so many creative, courageous and inspiring people from the world of media and the arts. The world barely has time to move on from one catastrophic happening before another tragedy, natural or man-made, strikes, bringing death but also terror and fear-inspired divisions among those left alive.
Introducing Rebecca Dakin, The Great British Sexpert: If your car breaks down, you call a mechanic. If you start getting worrying aches and pains, you call the doctor. It makes sense then, to call a relevant expert when problems arise in our relationships and sex lives. Someone who can give good advice and offer solutions based on experience and/or officially recognised qualifications.
I have been musing recently on how some women are like cats, and some like kittens. The kitten play fetish is quite popular with those identifying as women, and puppy play more usually seen in those identifying as men or boys. There's a whole world of furry fetish fun out there in BDSM!
By slave penny: There was light. To some extent I took it for granted, but the fact that light from the small window, high on the wall of the cellar that was my home, should penetrate the blanket that covered my cage, would, by many, have been regarded as unusual and welcome.
By Cara Sutra: It was during the Human Puppy programme on Channel 4 recently that my partner and I came to discuss other ways in which relationships might break down over personal preferences or just what a person is like. The main question discussed for some time between us was very interesting: would you leave your partner if they were transgender?
When you think about punishment, what are you thinking? Are you thinking about something that makes you suffer, or something that turns you on? A question raised on my forum got me thinking. What is...
By Mel MacFarlane: For those who are enchanted by the romance between Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey, a reluctant partner proves somewhat of a challenge. My inbox is full of disappointed lovers hoping for the Christian Grey bedroom experience, but struggling with their hapless partner who is quite clearly feeling the pressure.
By Cara Sutra: Natural dark curls, silky blonde fur, neat tufts or barely there at all. Is pubic hair sexy? Does it matter what you do with your pubes? For women, pubes are the central topic of an ongoing fight between popular culture purported by glossy magazines such as Cosmopolitan and Glamour and our innate right to do whatever we want with our own bodies.