By Hella Rude There are a lot of reasons men experiment with anal play and contrary to belief, it isn't the preserve of gay men. The first and foremost reason is that it just feels good. There are plenty of sensitive nerve endings inside your ass that respond very well indeed to a good stroke. Anal play can also escalate erotic response, bringing both men and women to orgasm quicker.
By Cara Sutra: There’s a worrying trend in BDSM to spurn the use of safewords. For me, safewords are not an optional extra, they are a requirement for ‘play’. I use the term play not to lessen the importance of kinky activities, but rather as an umbrella term for anything that could be described as being part of BDSM.
By Hella Rude Heartbreak is a big topic this Autumn, so I wanted to dedicate a blog to those of you saying 'so long' to a lover. It's not easy to overcome the biochemistry and mental exhaustion that floods you when you break up with your significant other, but you can make it easier on yourself by following my top 8 rules to help you get over your ex husband/wife/girlfriend/boyfriend/lover.
By Cara Sutra: A man who enjoys using a butt plug. Does that notion conjures up any homosexual connotations for you? Then you have fallen prey to one of the most common and persistent sexuality myths. When it comes to men's sex health, a surprising number of guys are questioning, "will anal sex toys make me gay?"
By Cara Sutra: I’ve had some fantastic shower sex in the past. I’ve also had some pretty naff shower sex, and some shower sex which has been, quite frankly, dangerous. I’ve been thinking about shower sex recently because we’ve just moved into a sparkly new house, and have a couple of showers… one in the en-suite, and one over-bath in the family bathroom. Along with nostalgic memories of shower fun I’ve been thinking something else, too.
...I have an interest both in sex toys - well, adult products - as well as fetish. With the recent surge in popularity in bondage (thanks Fifty Shades of Grey), it made complete sense to
By Cara Sutra: If you think that all sex begins and ends with penis-in-vagina, you are wrong on so many levels. And I'm talking about everyone there, but for the purposes of this article: especially women who love women, whether bisexual or lesbian. There are plenty of creative ways to tantalise and stimulate without resorting to the heteronormative, phallo-centric ideals society often loves to *ahem* thrust upon us. Yes, you can have amazing lesbian sex.
By Cara Sutra: A few articles I have read recently about lesbian sex have ignited a bit of fire in me; for a start they tend to read like they were written by either men who get their lesbian sex facts from porn, or by bi-curious fantasists who write purely from the point of view of someone who cannot see outside the blinkers of a sex life involving a penis. Today I'm talking lesbian sex myths - the 10 biggest girl on girl sex myths that you'll probably recognise.
1. Do not use wysiwyg website or blog creators! They make you look instantly cheap and tacky from the outset, as well as incredibly amateur. If you are serious about your website and presence...
By Cara Sutra: Social media can be intense at the best of times. As this certainly isn’t the best of times, social platforms have fast become hot hubs of fear-mongering, panic and the high emotion that comes with them. For those who need to use social media like Twitter & Facebook as part of their job – or those who just have the 21st century addiction – it can be near impossible to visit socials and remain unaffected by the constant stream of negativity.
By Cara Sutra: The cathedral was awe-inspiring. We'd held back from the tourist party that day, had only tagged along with the crowd to enter surreptitiously. Confession booths were such convenient places for two girls to snuggle down, confess secrets of their own and await the time when darkness within the ancient, religious building matched that of the outdoors.
Writing is one of the most undervalued jobs out there and on top of that, it’s hard work. Yes, it is a vocation to some, but that doesn’t mean that it’s merely a hobby. We all have bills to pay so you need to set your prices and avoid letting yourself get bartered down to a disrespectful amount for your hard work, time, knowledge and experience. This is especially true in the adult industry where you build up a specialist knowledge of products, anatomy, personal and physical safety, sensuality, BDSM, industry contacts and much more. We’ll get on to prices in a future part of the course.
By Cara Sutra: It's been a great pleasure to sample some lovely new sex lubes lately and wanted to share my research with you.
By Mel MacFarlane: For those who are enchanted by the romance between Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey, a reluctant partner proves somewhat of a challenge. My inbox is full of disappointed lovers hoping for the Christian Grey bedroom experience, but struggling with their hapless partner who is quite clearly feeling the pressure.
Sarah Berry: How do I fit BDSM into our relationship when I’m busy with work and kids? I’m happily married to a beautiful woman and, during our relationship, we have started to explore kink. We’ve discussed chastity and having a Female Led Relationship (FLR) but we have some problems.
By Cameryn Moore Calling someone greedy, for example, and making them beg desperately for getting fucked, this is a classic domination combo. The same derogatory names that really hurt on the playground—“fattie”, “sissy”, “faggot”, racial slurs—can be put to good use in humiliation scenes. Even calling a person’s junk something that normally squicks them out—“cunt” instead of “pussy”—can flip your partner into a different and sizzling-hot headspace.
I'm male and I want to buy some toys for anal training. However, other than fingers, nothing else has successfully penetrated me there. I'm wondering what's the best beginner anal sex toy for a man? What kind of thickness would be advisable to look at? Also do you recommend inflatable or solid form?
By Hella Rude ...fetish clubs and sex / swingers clubs are not the same thing. If you're thinking you're guaranteed an easy lay, a hardcore spanking or group sex for the price of your club ticket, snap out of it. There are plenty of places who offer these services but none of them are the fetish clubs you've heard so much about - they're generally BDSM-themed nights run by swinger's clubs. Don't get the two confused or you're likely to wind up disappointed or in trouble.