Female Chastity & Orgasm Denial

I'm wondering today, how many orgasms per week someone needs in order to feel fulfilled. Perhaps several each day, several an hour? Or are you a one-a-day man or woman? How do you choose to travel to this destination? Does it involve female chastity for you?

The best Halloween themed sex toys – plus, scary but sexy adult costumes

Think Halloween is just for kids and goths? Think again! Everyone can find something to enjoy at Halloween, and I don’t just mean a bucket of teeth-rotting sweets. Sink your teeth into something juicy and fun after bedtime… a sexy treat for yourself or shared with a lucky partner. Seeing as you’re here at Cara Sutra it’s safe to assume you have at least a little interest in sex toys. Hopefully, quite a strong and healthy interest. Did you know that there are Halloween sex toys? Ok, I admit it: some of the sex toys you find in the Halloween areas of sex shops have less than tenuous links, but a little imagination goes a long way. It’s all in the name of fun - solo or shared - so overlook the creative licence on some of these so-called spooky sex toys and get in the spirit of things.

Online Dating Commandments – Make the Best Tinder or POF Online Dating Profile

by Hella Rude If you're single and you're open to the idea of meeting someone new, chances are that you've tried online dating. When I became single 3 years ago (yikes!) I really wanted to date men. I'd been a serial monogamist for 11.5 years and all of my relationships evolved from friendships. I was curious about the chase and the evolution of cyber dating and I didn't waste a whole lot of time getting stuck in.

Are Rabbit Vibrators a Good Way to Orgasm?

by Hella Rude Regardless of your anatomy, a good rabbit vibrator is able to simultaneously tickle your clit and massage your G-spot thanks to the flexible nature of rabbit ear stimulators. With plenty of power on standby (but the option to turn it down a notch to give you a good build-up) and a good set of flexible ears, you should find that rabbit vibrators give you fantastic climaxes.

How Can I Get A Bigger Penis?

By Cara Sutra: Dear Cara: How can I get a bigger penis? There are loads of products on the web but I'm not sure which one to try - please help!

How to find subspace together this Valentine’s Day

Whether you agree with Valentine’s Day or not, February always brings out the romantic side of a relationship. Whether you bring your partner home a bunch of flowers, or you prefer to cuddle on the sofa with a takeaway and a film, it’s a time to celebrate your ‘togetherness’. For couples in a BDSM relationship, Valentine’s Day is a great reason to lock the door, dig out your collection of kinky treats and find subspace together.

Why Winter is The Sexiest Season

By Cara Sutra: Summer was my favourite time of year. None of that feeling frozen to the bone; just warm, sunny, dry weather over the seemingly never-ending summer holidays. As I’ve got older, my opinion has changed.

8 Things All Men Do During Sex Which Spells The End Of Your Relationship

By Cara Sutra: Can the world please stop caring so damn much about what (supposedly) all men do? Or what all men think? And how, all these things that ALL MEN DO! Or ALL MEN THINK! are immediate and obvious signs that you, as a woman, are unattractive/unloved/neglected/totally shit in bed and should go and live under a rock with only a masturbatory twig for company?

What Is A Sexpert? Lose The Sexpert Label And Get Real

By Cara Sutra: What is a sexpert? What makes someone a sexpert? Nothing, really. I could just as confidently announce that I am, in fact, Santa. There are no qualifications that lead to someone being titled an official ‘sexpert’ (notice how it’s usually in quotes, denoting something unofficial or for merely for creative merit).

Professional Copywriting for the Adult Industry – Part 1

Companies need copywriters. They are important not only to help turn their site visitors into customers, but also to help their website rank higher on the web. Effective copy on a website, known as ‘optimised copy’, will not only persuade the natural visitors the website gets to make a purchase, but it will also efficiently tell Google and the other search engines information about that page to help it rank higher for relevant searches by people on the internet.

The Human Puppy Programme & Why I Love Puppy Play

By Cara Sutra: I don't have a kink for pretending to be a dog. I'm not even a 'dog person'. However, the national furore surrounding people who want to be a human puppy this week really made my hackles rise. The cause of the outrage? TV shows giving an insight into the puppy play scene and/or fetish, including a Channel 4 documentary entitled The Secret Life Of The Human Pups.
Ask Cara

What Are The Best G-Spot Sex Toys?

Cara Sutra: What is the G-Spot? Does stimulating it actually feel any good - and more to the point, does the G-Spot even exist? In this Q&A, I answer a reader's question about the best G-Spot sex toys.

What is Erotic ElectroStimulation and How Does it Feel?

By Hella Rude Prior to my introduction to Andy at Cyrex (ElectraStim's parent company), my knowledge of erotic electrostimulation (EES) was full of holes. I had an understanding of the physics surrounding the practice and I'd certainly used EES in my work as a dominatrix but I hadn't explored electrosex beyond the realms of external sensory play. My personal experience wasn't marrying with the interesting array of electrodes I was discovering, so being the curious-minded creature I am, I got in touch with Andy in regard to reviewing some of his products.

Sexy Name Calling: Goddess, Bitch Or Slut? What’s In A Name?

By Cara Sutra: A shared post on Facebook this morning turned my attention to the subject of sexy name calling. Not in a trolling or abusive way, although this post which was shared to my TL by the brilliant sexual educator that is Charlie Glickman does focus on in appropriate behaviour in what should have been a protective and safe environment for all who attended. As much as the actions of the sexist, inappropriate guy talked about in the post disgusted me, it was one word in particular which made me stop and think.

Bare-faced chic – let’s talk about anonymity and sex blogging

Face. Bothered? I decided my anonymity level right at the start of my sex blogging life. I was semi-anonymous in my previous Fetish scene online persona and website, but upon evolving to and adding a sex blog I knew I still wanted to keep my home address private but it didn’t matter to me if people knew my real name or general location.

I’m A Secret Submissive | Why Female Submission Is A Private Kink For Me

By Cara Sutra: For me, female submission is an entirely sexual act, not a lifestyle choice or a facet of my personality. I submit to my partner for my pleasure, as well as for his. The act of him taking pleasure in my sexual submission or bedroom roleplay keys into an underlying vanity.

Am I Too Old To Be A Sex Educator? Are My Views On Sexuality...

For some time now I’ve been harbouring a worry. Am I getting too old to correctly educate others in the ways of sexuality, gender and suchlike? My worry is that I’m coming up to 40 in a few years, and perhaps I’m just not cutting-edge as a sex educator any more.

Living As A Slave To My Ex, The Bitch

By slave penny: There was light. To some extent I took it for granted, but the fact that light from the small window, high on the wall of the cellar that was my home, should penetrate the blanket that covered my cage, would, by many, have been regarded as unusual and welcome.

ETO Show 2014 Part Two: Sunday, Day One, the show begins

I woke surprisingly early on Sunday morning, the first day of the ETO Show 2014. The doors didn’t open to the public until 10.30am, but Julian was going to be at the stand at 8am in order to make sure everything was perfect. I arrived about 8.45am, leaving my partner Sable in bed and minnie getting ready. Walking around the corner from the hotel to the NEC expo hall I mentally prepared for the day ahead. I felt excited but not nervous - this was the ETO Show after all and it feels like family being with all the familiar faces and great contacts in the industry that I talk to regularly.

Fifty Shades of Grey bridges the gap between vanilla and kink

No matter your personal opinion of Fifty Shades of Grey, this trilogy has achieved what no other kink themed book has done before. It has been accepted into the mainstream. I believe it has helped the majority of 50 Shades lovers who had been living their sex life through vanilla fulfilment only, to draw closer to kink and help them experiment with power exchange, if not the full range of BDSM potential. As is their choice, of course.