How to have a safe & satisfying sex life when you’re single

With so much sex advice focussing on couples foreplay, how to spice up a monogamous sex life and how to keep a relationship happy, it’s easy to overlook the fact that there are plenty of sassy singles out there who want and deserve a satisfying sex life too. Contrary to popular opinion, many singles are not spending all their waking hours masturbating sadly and alone in their bedrooms while pining for the comforts that only a relationship with another person can provide.

Threesome Dos and Donts? | Sex Tips & Advice

Dear Cara: I'm a single female that's recently been asked by a couple if I'd like to join them for some fun. We all seem to be on the same wave length. So far we have all been open and honest with each other and plan to keep it that way if it does go further. I have heard good and bad stories about threesomes. How do we make sure it turns out to be a good time for everyone? Are there any threesome dos and donts?

Can Women Ever Actually Submit? Gender Differences In BDSM

By Cara Sutra: At the risk of incurring the wrath of gender warriors, I want to write a little about the difference between male and female submission today. I am speaking about the male gendered brain in submission, the female gendered brain in submission; and the differences between the two.

Beginner’s Guide To Anal Sex Toys & Butt Plugs

By Cara Sutra: Bums. Everyone has one, and very useful they are too. Our undervalued derrières not only house the exit which keeps our bodies functioning healthily, but offer comfortable padding when we need to take the weight off our feet. Did you realise that your bottom also has the potential to give you incredible pleasure, as well as a mere sigh of relief any time you sit down?

Q&A: My Boyfriend’s Friend Hit On Me, What Do I Do?

By Cara Sutra: I’m in a long term relationship with my partner but recently one of his friends hit on me. It was unmistakable and I’m definitely not just being over-sensitive. The trouble is, I don’t know what to do.

Sex and Disability: A Peek Inside The Bedroom

I am disabled. I know. I don’t look disabled, right? In some comparatively small ways, my disability affects my sex life and masturbation. I have a severe high frequency hearing loss, making me deaf but not Deaf. The problems caused by my deafness in life are small and fairly easy to overcome or circumvent, therefore I don’t really class myself as disabled.

The Bite Size Guide to Sex Toys and Bedroom Essentials

Sex toys are not a replacement for a partner or pleasure, they are the seasoning on your sex life. A sprinkling of the right devices for you and your partner can spice up your sex life and masturbation immeasurably, leaving you fulfilled and confident in all walks of life.

Sinful Sunday World Cup Competition: Win a massive Fantasy by Cara Sutra bondage kit...

The huge Fantasy by Cara Sutra Sinful Sunday bondage prize haul: A Fantasy by Cara Sutra beginner’s bondage kit in your choice of black or red Fantasy by Cara Sutra bondage tape, red Lady Finger Vibrator (kindly donated by La Boudoir Boutique) Set of Vibratone Jiggle Balls (kindly donated by La Boudoir Boutique) Cherry Vanilla (-giggle-) scented Yankee Candle 2x Fantasy by Cara Sutra stickers 2x Fantasy by Cara Sutra button badges An extremely limited edition Fantasy by Cara Sutra coaster

ETO Show 2014 Part Two: Sunday, Day One, the show begins

I woke surprisingly early on Sunday morning, the first day of the ETO Show 2014. The doors didn’t open to the public until 10.30am, but Julian was going to be at the stand at 8am in order to make sure everything was perfect. I arrived about 8.45am, leaving my partner Sable in bed and minnie getting ready. Walking around the corner from the hotel to the NEC expo hall I mentally prepared for the day ahead. I felt excited but not nervous - this was the ETO Show after all and it feels like family being with all the familiar faces and great contacts in the industry that I talk to regularly.

Boob Watch for Breast Cancer Awareness Month

By Cara Sutra: Apart from either shoving them in a bra or in a lover’s face, how many times a day do you really pay attention to your boobs? I’m not talking about taking notice of other people’s breasts (hello missus), I actually mean paying your own boobs a bit more attention.

Sexy Single Valentine’s Day Ideas

By Cara Sutra: If you don't have a partner, the 'hearts and chocolate brigade' can really grate on you every February. Get loved up! It's Valentine's Day! Are there any sexy single Valentine's Day ideas to help you enjoy a spectacular solo day?

Consensual Slut Project: Proud To Be A Slut

By Cara Sutra: Consensual Slut Project: I am proud to be a slut. That isn’t the same as saying I recognise that I am a woman of loose morals and I don’t care. What I mean is that I have an affinity with the phrase itself and its place and meaning in my life.

Rise of HIV in gay men due to lack of condom use

Researchers have reported that the recent rise in HIV in gay men and bisexual men across the UK is due to less and less of these groups of people using condoms.

Is There A Connection Between Ageplay and Spanking?

By Cara Sutra: It seems strange to me that there hasn't been a connection made between corporal punishment and ageplay before. After a particularly hot session with my partner recently, it suddenly struck me. What's your first response? Is there any connection between ageplay and spanking?

Why Do People Enjoy BDSM?

A lot of people who only enjoy your run-of-the-mill sex don’t always understand the appeal behind bondage and sadomasochism. This is because they are used to seeing sex as a pleasure-giving activity; so they don’t always get why some people will want to be dominant or be dominated.

Age Gap Relationships – How Much Is Too Much?

By Cara Sutra: Most people have an opinion on age gap relationships, whether they are resolutely black and white about what's an acceptable age gap in a romantic relationship or they believe age differences just don't matter. What do you think about people of different ages being in a relationship?

How To Turn A Reluctant Partner Into Christian Grey

By Mel MacFarlane: For those who are enchanted by the romance between Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey, a reluctant partner proves somewhat of a challenge. My inbox is full of disappointed lovers hoping for the Christian Grey bedroom experience, but struggling with their hapless partner who is quite clearly feeling the pressure.

Horny In A Heatwave? 7 Refreshing Ideas For Cool Summer Sex

Hot weather and horniness can be a troublesome mix. Sure, you could go fap it out in the shower, but what about when you want to get up close and personal with your partner? There's nothing wrong with hot, sticky, sweaty sex, but some people (like myself) might find it a little too uncomfortable to thoroughly enjoy. When the temperature is soaring in the bedroom - in all the wrong ways – how can you keep your cool and the intimate romance? Here's a few of my refreshing ideas for cool summer sex.

Puppy Play For Mistress – Chastity Tease And Orgasm Denial

Puppy Play For Mistress is a short FemDom story written for me by one of my submissives. He's so very much into chastity tease and orgasm denial, as well as being made to act like a puppy... wagging tail, begging, barking for dinner - you get the idea. I hope you enjoy this story as much I repeatedly do. Happy Fetish Friday.

What’s it really like being a mother and a sex toy tester?

Being a mum is a hard enough job in itself, but mothers around the world take on a second job for a variety of reasons. Adding ‘sex toy tester’ to your CV might seem a strange choice, but what better balance to the challenging nature of motherhood than the pursuit of pleasure? I see more and more women balancing being a mum and a sex toy tester all the time, and as you can probably tell from this blog, I’m a sex toy tester myself. I'm also a mama to two beautiful boys.