What springs to mind when you hear the word 'threesome'? Have you ever had the pleasure of one - or is a threesome high on your list of fantasies yet to be made reality? Although porn has helped to make threesomes seem really easy to arrange and always super sexy, the reality can often be far removed from the fantasy.
By Mel MacFarlane: A break up can trigger many different emotions. Some people may feel relief whereas others are heartbroken. After all, it isn’t just the breakdown of the relationship, but your future plans together too. Despite this, many of us still find it hard to resist the temptation of slipping back between the bedsheets with an ex - but why?
By Cara Sutra: Sex toy subscription boxes have been rising in visibility over the past few years, at least that’s how it seems to me. Several years back a new sex toy subscription box service would launch once a year, then it steadily rose to two or three new ones a year and over the past year it seems to be every few months that a new adult subscription box service has launched.
The huge Fantasy by Cara Sutra Sinful Sunday bondage prize haul: A Fantasy by Cara Sutra beginner’s bondage kit in your choice of black or red Fantasy by Cara Sutra bondage tape, red Lady Finger Vibrator (kindly donated by La Boudoir Boutique) Set of Vibratone Jiggle Balls (kindly donated by La Boudoir Boutique) Cherry Vanilla (-giggle-) scented Yankee Candle 2x Fantasy by Cara Sutra stickers 2x Fantasy by Cara Sutra button badges An extremely limited edition Fantasy by Cara Sutra coaster
Terrible lighting and focussed on his face only briefly... just in case. Sessions of him milking into a pet bowl, licking up the consequences. Having to bark in order to be able to touch himself.
By Hella Rude ...fetish clubs and sex / swingers clubs are not the same thing. If you're thinking you're guaranteed an easy lay, a hardcore spanking or group sex for the price of your club ticket, snap out of it. There are plenty of places who offer these services but none of them are the fetish clubs you've heard so much about - they're generally BDSM-themed nights run by swinger's clubs. Don't get the two confused or you're likely to wind up disappointed or in trouble.
Think Halloween is just for kids and goths? Think again! Everyone can find something to enjoy at Halloween, and I don’t just mean a bucket of teeth-rotting sweets. Sink your teeth into something juicy and fun after bedtime… a sexy treat for yourself or shared with a lucky partner. Seeing as you’re here at Cara Sutra it’s safe to assume you have at least a little interest in sex toys. Hopefully, quite a strong and healthy interest. Did you know that there are Halloween sex toys? Ok, I admit it: some of the sex toys you find in the Halloween areas of sex shops have less than tenuous links, but a little imagination goes a long way. It’s all in the name of fun - solo or shared - so overlook the creative licence on some of these so-called spooky sex toys and get in the spirit of things.
It seems that an extraordinary amount of people, myself included, have a fascination or near obsession with shoes - sexy, alluring, high heeled shoes in particular. What is it about these simple pieces of footwear that tug at our heart strings (or clit nerve endings) so much? Is there such a thing as a high heels fetish?
Time to devote a bit of time to lingerie shopping! I hit the sexy lingerie button on my favourite lingerie shopping website, and had a browse. Unfortunately, a lot of the admittedly lovely and lacy items seem to be designed to be worn for a maximum of half an hour, during which time your lover oohs, ahhs, caresses, undresses, does the business then puts the kettle on.
Absolute submission vs safe, sane & sensible BDSM We can’t even blame 50 Shades for the idea of ‘absolute’ submission, because it’s been around for at least 30 years. And, while Anastasia Steele might be a vacant fumbletrumpet who appears to have reached adulthood without even knowing what an email is, she does dump Creepy Christian more than once and even answers back from time to time.
An area of sex blogging I get asked about a lot is selling advertising. How? When to start? How much to charge? How do I 'live the dream' and make money from writing about sex? This is a huge subject and to be honest, as one of and quite possibly the first sex blogger in the UK to sell on-site advertising to the adult industry I’ve made it up as I go along. There, I said it.
By slave christina: This is my story of submitting to a Mistress. Sometimes you meet someone and there is an instant attraction. Other times you may take some time to find a level of happiness. Other times it is the situation you are both in that brings you together and sometimes it is the situation that keeps you together or forces you apart.
By Karma Tantric: I have been a huge fan of erotic massage ever since I encountered my first body to body massage a few years ago. My willingness to try new things unknowingly opened a whole new playground of sexual pleasure into my life. It’s a combination of total sensory relaxation, coupled with the up-close skin to skin sensation that induces some of the most wildly intense orgasms I have ever managed to achieve.
By Cara Sutra: I don't have a kink for pretending to be a dog. I'm not even a 'dog person'. However, the national furore surrounding people who want to be a human puppy this week really made my hackles rise. The cause of the outrage? TV shows giving an insight into the puppy play scene and/or fetish, including a Channel 4 documentary entitled The Secret Life Of The Human Pups.
FemDom is the Marmite of the BDSM world. Female Domination usually elicits a response firmly on one end of the scale or the other: yes please! or ...um, no thanks. While female submission has been warmly embraced by the masses, with sexualised imagery of restrained women now prevalent even in mainstream music and film media, FemDom is still viewed as extremely niche.
Your heart is beating faster and faster. You feel hot but cold and clammy all at once and you're not really sure why. You can barely think to open your mouth to reply to whatever question he just asked; in any case you know whatever reply you give will be words falling over each other and stuttering their way out into the air, catching in your throat with inexplicable nerves.
By Vanessa de Largie: This adamant refusal to let the events and the perpetrators have any further power over me, mentally or physically, ties in very much to why rape fantasy is such an enjoyable roleplay and sexual fetish of mine. Rape fantasy and rapeplay isn’t a choice for me, it’s a need.
I hated the Fifty Shades of Grey book, there I said it. I thought it was a boring story with tame sex and a couple of lacklustre, crazed idiots – one of whom wanted to mercilessly beat one and another who simpered, bit her lip and let him do exactly what he wanted. However, millions of women (and some men) fell in love with the story of Christian Grey and Anastasia Steele. Fifty Shades of Grey became one of the bestselling books of 2011 and the most anticipated movie of 2015. In Blackburn, the seats to all 7 showings on the 13th February were fully booked as couples flocked to experience the passionate love affair on the big screen. According to a member of management, this has never been seen before at our Cinema.