By Ruffled Sheets: You want me to stick that, a long metal spike, in... where? That's what most people think when they're told about sounding. Or, to be more descriptive, urethral sounding, the act of stimulating the inside of the urethra with long, thin implements. It may 'sound' scary (sorry), but it really isn't. In fact, it's a lot of fun and immensely pleasurable.
By Guest: Kinky bruises and bite marks - how do you feel about them? Like so many parts of BDSM, opinion is divided on whether being left with bruises, scratches, bite marks etc is a good way or a bad way to end a scene or rough sex session with your partner.
By Cara Sutra: In this Ask Cara feature I answer a question about how a woman can give a man anal sexual pleasure. This can be done through manual stimulation (fingers) or sex toys. You might have prostate massage in mind or simple anal sexual pleasure fun. Includes pegging tips for newbies.
By Cara Sutra: I've written various articles on the subject. What I get out of locking a guy up in a chastity cage. Female chastity. Slaves have written their experiences, and there are several chastity device reviews. This year, I'm focusing on Keyholding services.
By Cara Sutra: Uber Kinky has put together the most amazing periodic table. No, not for those yawny-boring chemicals from science class. Elements of life which are much more interesting: a comprehensive table of fetishes and kinks. Introducing the UberKinky Periodic Table of Kink.
By Cara Sutra: Forced orgasms have been a source of curiosity to me for quite some time. It’s unusual for me to find intrigue through BDSM-based orgasms, as I have a penchant for male chastity as you may have noticed from my regular kinky writings on the subject.
By slave penny: The mere softness of the bed looked so inviting. In fact the imagined comfort of the deep cushioned bedroom chairs would have been pleasure beyond imagination. It had been many years since I had experienced what, at one time, would have been a routine amenity.
Once you have established which people are the leaders in the sex toy reviews and sex toy shopping fields, you may wish to send a couple of polite (not demanding) emails asking for any help and advice that the person or company can spare time for. Example questions you may ask another reviewer are, “Which companies do you recommend approaching for a newbie toy reviewer?” and “What are your top tips for writing great sex toy reviews?” Questions you may like to approach sex toy companies with, to their customer care email or similar, are “Do you have any community schemes in place for sex toy reviewers?” and “Are there any products you are seeking honest, well written reviews for at the moment?” Avoid begging for free sex toys or making demands for high priced products; this screams ‘greedy’ and ‘newbie’ and may well dissuade the company from working with you right from the start.
By Cara Sutra: How would you feel if you saw your partner fuck someone else? I guess for many the answer would be colourful variants of pissed off. Catch 5 minutes of a daytime TV chat show to watch lie detector frenzies and accusations of cheating descend into all-out battle. The reality, when we add in consent and pre-discussion, is more complex and nuanced. A partner having sex with someone else doesn't always mean they're cheating on you or that you'll feel betrayed.
I moaned aloud as he took me by the shoulders and drove the full length of his cock deep into my achingly hungry pussy. My slippery, soft labia were spread apart as they massaged his welcome penetration. My head turned to the side, flat on the bed as he pinned it there with his heavy hand in my hair, he rammed his cock into me repeatedly, frenziedly. This wasn't love-making. This was primitive, carnal rutting.
He pulled her down with hands on her upper thighs, and there was pure joyful malice in her eyes as she become the bull rider to his bull. His hands were all over her beautiful body and her sounds of ravaged pleasure filled my ears, hitting me like a slap, again and again.
A lot of people who only enjoy your run-of-the-mill sex don’t always understand the appeal behind bondage and sadomasochism. This is because they are used to seeing sex as a pleasure-giving activity; so they don’t always get why some people will want to be dominant or be dominated.
By Cara Sutra: An incredibly popular fetish is the abandonment fetish, which links into neglect fantasy and ignore line phone sex. From my Domme point of view I associate these with the FemDom side of BDSM, however it's not limited to FemDom.
Don't make the mistake that many do: a Mistress is very different to a Dominatrix or a session Domme. Unlike ladies who Dominate or Top for a session, a Mistress owns her property over the long term and the power exchange is not necessarily limited to the dungeon environment.
By Cara Sutra: He looked up at me from where he knelt on the kitchen floor, a solitary tear running down his defeated face. That just caused my cunt to become wetter in beautifully cruel empathy. Finally, he’d completed the distasteful task. His expert tongue protruded, but not out of rudeness or as a plea for pussy. On the tip was a small, very shiny key.