Fear of being foolish is the death of fun in a relationship. If you can’t just go for it, in sex or in anything, then your sex life is on the fast track to a funeral, and the part of you that wants to play—everyone has this part—that is dead, too. Rather than, or in addition to, more structured sexual experimentation—a la “7 Sex Positions Every Woman Must Try”—I encourage you to try bringing plain ol’ nonsexual play back into your life.
Where is the spanking taking place? How easy will it be for the spankee to stay still? It’s these little details which will make your scene all the more realistic. If you want a long, session with the submissive in the same position you’re going to need to get them comfortable, if you want to up the stakes get them into more unusual positions, maybe on their toes or you could have them restrained (I’ve written something to help you with that) or resting somewhere a bit precarious.
By Jon Pressick Movember is again on us and you're going to start seeing the scraggly, the bushy, the unkempt and the styled. I'm not talking about the resurgence in bush, I'm referring to the mo's that will soon crawl across faces to mark this now annual tradition of awareness on prostate (and other) health concerns.
By Jon Pressick: Have you ever noticed the faintest scent, a passing aroma? Perhaps in a crowded street, amongst strangers. Perhaps alone, in your home. And did that distinct smell bring about memories of passion or inflame distinct desire?
By Zak Jane Keir: How to review a fetish club: Having spent about 20 years of my life reviewing fetish and swingers’ clubs, I feel entitled to call myself an expert on the subject. It’s one of those jobs that may not have made me wealthy but has provided me with any amount of fun and good times (including the most magnificent blag of my entire career – a trip to Hedo II which made a change from the usual wet Wednesdays in Leeds or Dagenham).
By Hella Rude: Taking a great sexy selfie: In case of any doubt, please let me say it for the record: models don't ever look quite like their photos, and for good reason. What works well in the context of a photo just doesn't work in real life.
By Mel MacFarlane: By Mel MacFarlane: By the end of 2015, it is estimated that almost 55,000 people will be diagnosed with breast cancer. According to Breast Cancer Care, this equates to one diagnosis every 10 minutes. Out of those diagnosed with breast cancer, 12,000 will not survive.
By Cameryn Moore: You've probably seen improvisers on TV, creating whole hilarious scenes on the spot, based on suggestions from the audience. They don't look like they're making anything up, right? That's because they practice. Since good role-play and dirty talk are almost entirely improvisation, you too can practice, using principles from improvisation as guidelines. I suggest starting with: "yes, and."
There have probably been a million and one how to articles connected to BDSM after the success of THAT book, you know the one with all the grey and the lip biting and stuff. Well, I’m going to add to that pile but today I’m going to focus in on one aspect used in BDSM that can be seen in more vanilla play too. Bondage.
It is often said that we need to remember that our brains are our biggest sex organs. Well, surely this true in a more figurative sense, because it isn’t literally true. Indeed, we’re not supposed to think of our genitals as being primary in the sexual realm, but we are forgetting our actual largest organ of the body: our skin. Our outer layer. The soft and sensitive flesh that pulls so many sexual feelings and encounters into our souls by way of touch.
Mostly, sex gets defined as something that men do to women rather than something women and men enjoy together. A lot of sex-related advice to women still seems to have a starting point of sexual pleasure being something women ration out to men: we bargain with it, treat it as a kind of currency. It might not always be so crude as ‘wait till you’ve got his ring on your finger before you let him finger your ring’ nowadays, but so-called ‘sexperts’ are still raking it in by advising women to withhold sex, no matter how horny they are, as a way of manipulating men into giving them something (other than multiple orgasms) that they actually want.
For all those planning a Halloween party for their adult friends, I thought I’d ‘treat’ you to some of my favourite Halloween party games. These games are perfect for those who are a little older, but can be adapted for younger children to play too. Enjoy!