How To Write Spanking Into Your Sex Scenes | Erotic Writing Advice

Where is the spanking taking place? How easy will it be for the spankee to stay still? It’s these little details which will make your scene all the more realistic. If you want a long, session with the submissive in the same position you’re going to need to get them comfortable, if you want to up the stakes get them into more unusual positions, maybe on their toes or you could have them restrained (I’ve written something to help you with that) or resting somewhere a bit precarious.

Movember: Sexual Health Education With Prostate Pleasure Workshops

By Jon Pressick
Movember is again on us and you’re going to start seeing the scraggly, the bushy, the unkempt and the styled. I’m not talking about the resurgence in bush, I’m referring to the mo’s that will soon crawl across faces to mark this now annual tradition of awareness on prostate (and other) health concerns.

How To Review A Fetish Club

By Zak Jane Keir:
How to review a fetish club: Having spent about 20 years of my life reviewing fetish and swingers’ clubs, I feel entitled to call myself an expert on the subject. It’s one of those jobs that may not have made me wealthy but has provided me with any amount of fun and good times (including the most magnificent blag of my entire career – a trip to Hedo II which made a change from the usual wet Wednesdays in Leeds or Dagenham).

Yes, And… ! Making Space For Improvisation In Your Sex Life

By Cameryn Moore:
You’ve probably seen improvisers on TV, creating whole hilarious scenes on the spot, based on suggestions from the audience. They don’t look like they’re making anything up, right? That’s because they practice. Since good role-play and dirty talk are almost entirely improvisation, you too can practice, using principles from improvisation as guidelines. I suggest starting with: “yes, and.”

How To Write Erotic Bondage Into Your Sex Scenes

There have probably been a million and one how to articles connected to BDSM after the success of THAT book, you know the one with all the grey and the lip biting and stuff. Well, I’m going to add to that pile but today I’m going to focus in on one aspect used in BDSM that can be seen in more vanilla play too. Bondage.

Reach Out: The Sexuality Of Touch

It is often said that we need to remember that our brains are our biggest sex organs. Well, surely this true in a more figurative sense, because it isn’t literally true. Indeed, we’re not supposed to think of our genitals as being primary in the sexual realm, but we are forgetting our actual largest organ of the body: our skin. Our outer layer. The soft and sensitive flesh that pulls so many sexual feelings and encounters into our souls by way of touch.

Women are not merely the recipients and gatekeepers of sex

Mostly, sex gets defined as something that men do to women rather than something women and men enjoy together. A lot of sex-related advice to women still seems to have a starting point of sexual pleasure being something women ration out to men: we bargain with it, treat it as a kind of currency. It might not always be so crude as ‘wait till you’ve got his ring on your finger before you let him finger your ring’ nowadays, but so-called ‘sexperts’ are still raking it in by advising women to withhold sex, no matter how horny they are, as a way of manipulating men into giving them something (other than multiple orgasms) that they actually want.

How Do I Give Him A Prostate Massage?

By Hella Rude:
Let’s talk about the pleasurable walnut, the male G-spot – the prostate. Until recent years, prostate massage / prostate play was considered to be a purely homosexual or fetishistic act – a bit of bum fun came with a plethora of connotations that have been falling away as discussing sexuality becomes more en vogue.